Although our periods serve a fabulous purpose, they also comes with a plethora of nasty PMS symptoms: mood swings, volatile emotions, crabbiness, food cravings, bloating — the list goes on and on. And since our period, and everything that comes along with it, only affects us women, it can be an easy target of blame from men. I know from experience how infuriating it is to have your significant other blame your actions on your monthly friend when in fact, your period has absolutely nothing to do with it. I call those assumptions cheap shots! Does this happen in your relationship? Does your significant other ever blame your mood on your period, even when it's nowhere in sight?
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Relationship Protocol: Does Your Significant Other Blame Your Period?
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He never "blames" it, but if I'm in a bad mood he'll ask me if I'm on it, as a sort of reasoning as to why I'm in a bad mood. Sometimes my period is to blame and sometimes it's not. I think it's nice that he asks, and not just assumes.
1He will occasionally make jokes about it.
Like is it that time of the month? and then I
get annoyed even more but he knows when to shut up. 
2haha there should be a third option - he did it once and would never dare to do it again
from my perspective, my bf knows when i have it because it's BJ week, so he wouldn't have to ask
3oh yah and even if that WAS the reason, i could only imagine having him ask that would be as annoying as when it wasn't
4skigurl soooooooooo true! My bf knows because it's BJ week too!
He says when i'm on mine tho, I get super self-consious of my bloated body and says that I pick on myself too much.
5He doesnt, but I always do lol then he just says "ohhh" (like that explains my behavior)
6This week is the week before mine and I am feeling slightly crazy so im thinking he knows its almost that time since I yelled at him about the trash this morning and about a million other things before 9am!
he does and it makes me angry! Come to think of it, he hasnt in a while cuz I always rip him a new one when does.
But anyway, I feel that men have no right to say that because they have no idea what some of us have to go through. I know many women that cannot function when they are on they monthly. Im talking about throwing up, unbearable pain and leaking like no tomorrow!! Not cool.
We have the right to complain b*tch moan and cry all we want; just dont mention it when we do.
7LMAO BJ week....that's brill. My boyfriend has never said that to me. Probably knowing I would flip and give him a piece of my mind..lol
8usually my husband gets crabby because of my period not him blaming me for being crabby. it's kind of surreal, almost every month on the dot he's moody.
9ohkate my bf gets a crabby time too once a month! More then I do even because I get mine once every 3 months
10No, my husband isn't that mean.
11ohkate its true! I will admit I ask HIM if he is on the rag sometimes! lol
12
BJ week! 
13Yeah, he did. But I was actually grateful to blame how awful I felt in that relationship on something I couldn't control...
14ohkate, it's probably cuz he's not getting any!
introduce him to blowjob week and he'll be just fine
15yeah when im totally b*tchy but other than that, not really
16No, he never has. Actually, I'm the first to tell him that I'm not feeling well because of my cycle. I know when I ovulate, and that's when I start feeling unwell.
17He doesn't make those jokes just because I'm a little cranky, but I actually do get super grumpy around my period, and he'll remind me gently that I'm PMSing if I start getting irrationally pissy with him. It helps, because it does pull me out of my mood and remind me that the problem is probably not as big as I'm making it out to be in my hormonal state.
18Ahhh... my husband does this all the time, usually in a joking manner because he know it gets on my nerves. Pretty much anytime I snap or overreact, he'll say (half-laughing), "Are you sure you're not going to get your period soon?" It really annoys me because I have few or no symptoms of PMS, so he's completely stereotyping me!
19I hate when it happens. Like, I'll be pissed for a LEGIT reason, and he'll be like "you're only acting like this because your PMSing". I'm infuriated! I'm sorry, but men have no idea what it is like to have PMS, and you know when it is just PMS and when it is not. Crying at commericals or something you never do is caused by PMS. Throwing a fit because your man threw your cat out the window is a legitimate reason. They just use it against you because they can't come up with anything snappy to say back to your comments. They are seriously the weaker sex -- can't handle anything...and always put the blame on something else!
20It's not just my boyfriend, it's a lot of guys I know! I'll be upset or b*tchy, and someone will say, "Forget about it, you're probably just on your period."
>:[
21Sometimes, yes. To be fair, though, I'll admit that I can definitely be moody even though I'm on monophasic birth control pills so I probably deserve it.
22The last guy that asked me if I was got ripped a new one. At least I have an excuse to be a super b*tch, if I want to use it, but what excuse do they have to be complete assholes?
23I become a raging maniac 3 days before my period, and sometimes, if my boyfriend does something screwed up during those days, he will NEVER admit to it and just blame my reaction on my PMS, which makes me even madder. That's how I got my nose broken once - I went so crazy with rage I tried to hit him, and, shielding his face, he knocked into me by accident and broke my nose.
I think it's incredibly sexist and I hate when he does that. It's such an easy copout... and what can you respond??
24its the worst when he blames it on my period and im seriously extremely angry (on period or not).....it just frustrates me sooo much more!
25This pisses me off SO bad!!!!!!!!! They just use it as a way to get out of having to admit they did something wrong, like it's not really them being an *sshole, it's just you PMSing. I know I get irritated about everything around then, but that doesn't mean I don't know what actually makes me mad, I can tell the difference. My brain still works ya know!!!
haha
Maybe they just assume our brains don't work during that time b/c THEIR brains shut off whenever their sexual organs do anything.
Chrsten: "They are seriously the weaker sex -- can't handle anything...and always put the blame on something else!" Omg, I agree so much!!!
BJ week and all comments about it= hahahahahhaha!! LMAO!!
26He never blames it on my period. However, even if he did, I wouldn't mind it. Because my temper gets out of control for a week before my period comes, and I do or say a lot of things I would regret later on.
27He did once, but based on my reaction he was smart enough never to do it agian. I don't think it is ever fair in a realtionship to assume you know what is going on with the other person without asking.
28My boyfriend doesn't even mention mine, he doesn't care about it (like, it's not an issue). We have sex as normal (first guy I've been with who hasn't had a MAJOR ISSUE with it) and he is sympathetic when I have cramps.
I get a bit more emotional before my period (major PMS) but he just holds me if I have a bit of a cry and is lovely about it. Aww.
29My husband never does this... he knows just as well as I do when my period comes, and I don't get many emotional symptoms (just bloaty/crampy
).
HOWEVER, I had a bf in highschool who felt major wrath for doing this. We were in an argument privately, and then at lunch that day he brought up our argument in front of 8-10 of our friends. Then he started making jokes about me and how it was my period (which, it wasn't!) I poured my can of Pepsi onto his lap, stood up, crushed the can in my hand, and threw it across the room into the trash can. Then I left the room. Needless to say he didn't try to blame things on me or my period again, and, we didn't date too much longer after that.
30i don't know if it's because my fiance is older than i am by quite a few years, but he's never ever used my period as a cause or excuse for why i'm being the way that i am. i think that it's refreshing actually since that's one of the go to comments that guys use when they don't know how to react to moods.
31I'm with Skigurl, its BJ week when Aunt Flow visits! lol.
Works both ways though
since I love giving him BJ's.
32I'd kill him if he did, that is just rude and ignorant. "Sorry honey I can't talk to you because you have PMS and might bite my head off." My reply would be "sorry babe I can't talk to you either because you have testicles and no brain all month." UGH. Luckily my husband would never say anything like that.
33JaimeLeah526: Love the retort. I actually lol'd.
I absolutely hate it if women complain about their men (or women if you please) and, instead of the men responding appropriately, the men simply brush it off with a PMS comment. I may be on my period, but that doesn't explain why you're a d**k (or b***h if you please).
34i dont get mood swings. i just get stomach cramps, lower back aches, boob aches and fever (sometimes). lol. so he doesnt really have anything to blame it on
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