Why cheat ?? Seriously, just go into the single life ... you'll be able to be stupid however your want.

i can't really say one way or the other w/o more information. i think that there are times that cheating has it's place - but i don't know if it's something to really forgive or forget. i think that if you're in a relationship that you're just not happy -then what's the point in being in the relationship if you know that you're going to cheat and 'like it'. for myself - there are a LOT of times that i don't think that i'm as happy as i could be yet i'm not about to cheat because that's taking it a step too far. i've unknowingly been the other woman a few times and i know tht the guys didn't feel remorse while they were cheating and have even gone on to continue their relationships with their sig other.

Ditto to Cynnie- why cheat? Just break up with the soccer/video game loser and have some fun (safe fun!) or find a better guy, you can't have your cake and eat it too, seems like you still want the soccer/video game guy for some reason but at the same time want the caring guy too, be an adult and pick one situation or the other!

I voted "Undecided". It doesn't seem like she wanted forgiveness. Ehh...why ask for it then?

I'm not really sure there's anyone to forgive here. It doesn't sound like she's looking for forgiveness. Ultimately she's glad she cheated on the gamer, and now has seen the light since she's been with someone who "cares about her." If she hasn't already, she should dump the gamer and be single or pursue a relationship with the other guy.

Stupid.

If you're going to cheat, then you're not happy in your relationship and you should get out of it first. Cheating is NEVER the answer and it's never good.

If your BF treats you as badly as you say he does and you stay, then it's YOUR fault, not his. You should not be forgiven for cheating. Period, end of story.

You break up with a man who doesn't treat you the way you want. You don't cheat on him.

Duh, just end the relationship w/ the guy who doesn't care about you. You clearly don't care about him either. This is not rocket science.

In my experience, I have done many things, from saying awful things to the person to even fabricating a story about me cheating with a friend (who I would never sleep with) just to get the guy to break up with me. He was a verbally abusive control freak who would snap at me for spending time with my friends back home and such. When I tried to break up with him the first time, he threatened to kill himself. I figured if I gave him a few good reasons to dump me, it would be easier, since it would be his decision, based on his instability.

Sadly, in my case, the plan backfired, and he showed up at my door with expensive gifts, all while calling me things like "b*tch", "wh*re" and such. I finally told him that I was done with him and not coming back, and cut off complete contact with him. It worked out that I ended up switching schools shortly after. However, he ended up following me to that school, and since then will either bother my friends about me, or send me creeptacularistic messages on myspace through different profiles.

My point: before you judge someone based on their actions, you must know that there is always a situation that can justify someone's actions.

*Note* I'm not saying her approach was the right thing to do, I'm just saying that there may be a reason behind her doing so.

How about breaking with the idiot who doesn't fulfill you instead of acting like a slut?

Um break up with your bf?

Then break up with him!! It's forgivable if you do the right thing. It's not if you stay with him.

P.S. Some of you guys are really harsh. Everyone deals with things differently; why do you have to call her stupid and a slut?

if you're not happy with your man then freaking dump him and find someone who makes you happy. don't settle just because you fear being single.

I feel like to many people get too serious too soon and too young in their lives and that it just causes problems down the road.

I think in this day and age, people shouldnt be serious until they're around age 25 or so, but quite honestly who is going to do that?

People act like they're married when they start dating in highschool and college and its just not natural to be that confined and restricted all the time so young, but then again people are usually too insecure to be in an "open" relationship so I have no idea where the middle ground is. So I say forgive.

Its so unforgivable. Just because he talks about randomness does not mean he deserved to be cheated on.

If you don't like the relationship you're in BREAK UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good god.

Not forgivable. If you don't think he deserves you or cares about you, then by all means leave him and find somebody worthy... but staying with him cheating on the side makes YOU the bad person.

Not forgivable. If you're so darn unhappy, break up rather than cheat. I don't see the point.

"Yes I cheated and I'm glad I did"

I'd hate to see what you would have done if he had the audacity to do something much worse than bore you with soccer and video games.So instead of doing the right thing you decided that cheating on him was a much classier alternative.What you did makes you look like a coward not a slut. Personally, I think you were stringing this guy along until something better came along.Which it did.

Yep,you sound pretty damn stupid to me......

She should have just left her man, not cheated...whats the point?

Well why don't you answer your own question?

Say you found out that your boyfriend is really bored with you and only talks to you about soccer and video games because you have nothing in common. But he doesn't want to break it off and feel bad. So he cheats on you and loves it and doesn't feel bad.

Would you forgive him?

i don't really understand this. i mean, you cheated with someone who "cares about you"? does the fact that your boyfriend talks about soccer or video games mean he doesn't? saying this sounds like a stupid excuse to make yourself feel like what you did was somehow justified. it's not. if you don't like a man that talks about sports and games then leave him. cheating is never a justifiable action.

Dump your boyfriend, then. Jesus.

Undecided. It depends on the point-of-view.

OP, if the other man really cares about you, why aren't you two together now?? There's some information missing.

Why forgive if they WANT to cheat?

It's obvious you care about your "man" as much as he cares about you. you are pathetic, sad, and a slut. break up with your current boyfriend so he can find someone he deserves.

"If your BF treats you as badly as you say he does and you stay, then it's YOUR fault, not his. You should not be forgiven for cheating. Period, end of story."

Hear, hear, Mykie7. Couldn't have said it better myself.

Even if this is a situation where the guy would threaten to kill himself or something if you break up with him, break up with him anyway. Get him a counselor if you want to go above and beyond. Don't stay and cheat and then try to paint it like staying at all is doing him a huge favor.

Just from the tone of those few sentences, it sounds like the topic starter has quite a bit of contempt for the guy she's with, so I don't think she'd neglect to mention it if there's anything else that makes her feel more justified about cheating. Like if he was somehow forcing her to stay with him.

But nope, apparently all she can come up with is that all he does is talk about soccer and video games. Ooh, yeah, that certainly makes it okay to possibly expose him to other people's STDs without his knowledge.

I don't know why sometimes people bring up open relationships as a reason why it's okay to cheat. She wouldn't be calling it cheating if she was in an open relationship in the first place, come on. I don't think there's anything wrong with open relationships where everyone knows what they're in for and are consenting adults - cheating is an entirely different matter. Don't get it mixed up with open relationships. I don't think that's fair to open relationships.

As for the "it's not naaaatural to only be with one person" spiel... It's also not natural to use computers and various other things that gives modern mankind great convenience and comfort, why don't we all just revert back to living in caves and hunting and gathering? The point is, natural doesn't determine everything we do, and I certainly wouldn't assume just because I live a certain way, the other 6 billion human beings on the planet must also be exactly the same as me or they would not be "natural".

Anyway, most of us living in modern societies aren't forced to be in relationships, so there's just no excuse to seek societal approval by getting in and staying in the typical monogamous relationship and then turn around and get all "Wah, this is all everyone else's fault, woe is me, all I want is to be free to looooove anyone I want!" THAT's what cheating is.

I have all the respect in the world for people who want to be free to be with anyone they want by staying single or being in atypical relationships. People who are honest with others about who they are and what they want. People like these have the courage of their convictions. ZERO respect for cheaters, who are wishy-washy invertebrates with ZERO courage and a sense of entitlement bigger than the universe itself.

You may not be happy with him, but no one deserves to be cheated on. Break things off, and if you want to sleep around, sleep around. Maybe you'll find what you're looking for.

Yeah agree with the above- even if the guy was threatening to kill himself (or worse-you) I would call the cops and some therapists and STILL dump him. And I certainly would not blame myself if he went and did something stupid because those are his choices. Just as I blame YOU poster for cheating when you could have done the mature thing and break-up with him.

Just be an adult and break up with him....

I hate this kind of thing. Pretty much all of the commenters here are dead on. If you are cheating, then it's pretty obvious you've checked out of the relationship -- why keep it up with your boyfriend? I feel really badly for him, no matter what your relationship is like. NO ONE deserves to be treated that way. Grow a pair, let the poor guy off the hook, and go be single for awhile.

So why stay with the guy you cheated on? Sounds like he's a lousy boyfriend/husband, so why stay?

I've cheated one time with my last relationship b/c I was getting abused mentally and physically! I know it was a wrong thing to do but I ended up leaving him for the person I cheated on him with. I understand with what your saying on the way he treated you but it still isn't far! I've been with the guy I cheated with for 5yrs now and I want even let him do me like that b/c I feel what I did may come back to bit me in the butt! Yes, I hear that saying all the time..... once a cheater always a cheater! Not true (for some) b/c some of us may have good reason's to do what we did but it still isn't far! I've been faithful in all my relationships but that one so I don't think that cheating would ever cross my mind again!

I think it's absolutely ridiculous that people are calling her a "slut" there are many different things that could be qualified as cheating. A kiss in my opinion is cheating, does kissing make someone a slut? You know a couple sentences about this persons relationship and you feel it necessary to make such harsh judgments about them? I don't agree with women putting each other down and calling them "stupid" and "sluts" esp. based on 3 sentences. Yikes.

I think that not feeling remorseful makes it a not forgive. However, I do think that you need to either make a committment to fix your relationship or get out of it. I wouldn't say that you are a slut because I know nothing about the situation but you can't take your relationship seriously if you have cheated, don't feel bad and would do it again in a heartbeat. That should tell you something right there.

ure not forgiven. ure a total slut for cheating. dump the guy ure with if u would go back to that ass in a heartbeat. why stay with him? it doesnt sound like u deserve ure current bf anyway. just because he talks about random bullsh*t doesnt mean he doesnt love u or care about u. cheating is cheating. and because u liked it, i hope it comes back and bites u in ure ass. i hate cheaters

I clicked on forgive. but trust me you are not a one to ask forgiveness. You say that you are sure to continue cheating on your boyfriend.
What prevents you from breaking up with your bf? trust me the answer is still the same that brought u two together: love. for old times sake, plz realize that you are only trying to take revenge and not actually desperate to sleep with some other guy. try understanding the fact that your boyfriend has a different stream of thought than you. You want to be loved and cared - he wants you to be his buddy with whom he can share his manly stuff.. videogames etc.. whatever u said. It is only you who must know what turns him on.. may be good food or a romantic movie-night at home. You can't have your own way out as it is a two-way deal and it needs to be dealt with from his point of view.