Just like Thanksgiving and New Years, sometimes personal celebrations cause tension in a relationship, too. Special occasions such as an anniversary or major birthday can be especially overwhelming when factoring in dinner reservations, a gift, and whether or not all of his or her expectations will be met. And even when the pressure is unspoken, it can easily ignite a stressed-out, tension-fueled argument. This has happened to me before so has the stress from a special occasion ever been the root cause of an argument in your relationship?
Betty Jackson
Fiorelli
3 Suisses
Both of us could care less. We don't even celebrate or have a "real" anniversary date.
1Nah, we get our fights for other reasons
As far as "events" like birthdays and
anniversaries go, we're both very laid-back about celebrating, and just enjoy spending the special day together without stressing about exactly how.
2My bf and I are both ani-valentines day. So that is out of the way..in terms of other stuff is concerned, I think we both have realistic expectations of each other...I mean I don't suddenly expect him to super romantic casanova when he isn't normally.
3Not really. My boyfriend actually meets all my expectations for every "special event" that we have.
We just celebrated our 2-year anni a few weeks ago and he surprised me with a romantic trip to Hilton Head, SC and Savannah, GA then he bought me a mtcho watch with our anni
date inscribed on it. 
He's pretty much perfect. lol
4*matcho
5hell yes, we always argued. he was always broke and always owed me money, but I still felt birthdays and Christmases were important and wanted to exchange cards and small gifts at least (I am a student, he worked a professional job for a big corporation). we're not together anymore partially over an argument about how he was late for our 3rd anniversary dinner after going drinking with the guys and leaving my card and present at the bar....
6It's a given...each one of you have prior obligations to hold up to, family traditions, etc. It's not a peaceful time for us.
7Yup, I'm with lexichloe on this one, as well as Jude! my husband and i don't worry too much about anniversaries (actually, he's much better at remembering and organising celebrations/gifts than i am!) but i think events like Christmas etc are more stressful because of something similar to what lexi said - tending to both our families, and trying to make everybody happy. it's a bit like the wedding, actually, both partners in a relationship might be easy-going and not too fussed about things, but family, friends and circumstances can often create a situation that causes one or both partners to become grumpy/stressed and that can cause tensions in the relationship. Mind you, i think we both know when we get grumpy these days and we just try and humour/hug/cuddle each other out of it afterwards
8Mmmm I dunno. m For things like birthdays and anni's it's not an issue. But I know Christmas was pretty stressful last year. Not between the two of us, but there are so many demands from so many people!
9i can honestly say that big events have caused fights in my relationship. i think that my fiance and i both want to make the other person happy and in the end we get into a fight since we're trying too hard to make sure that things are what the other expects - and then we end up miserable. i think that it's part of the reason why i choose not to celebrate things or even make a fuss since i don't want to get into the discussion or argument.
10Definitely not. We don't really care about these things. It's nice to do things and celebrate and feel special to each other but we don't put a huge emphasis on them. I'd rather make every day special than 5 holidays a year.
11sometimes. on our one year anniversary, he over slept and we were so late for our dinner reservations that we only got 20 mins to eat and talk. i had to inhale my food. it was the worst anniversary. because i spent so much time on gifts and stuff for him. but he just slept. and my birthday, he slept the WHOLE DAY and gave me my gifts the other day. it was THE MOST DEPRESSING birthday ever
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