Arguments can range from senseless bickering to full-fledged personal attacks. To avoid the latter, I often tell people to refrain from raising their voices; there’s just something about shouting that tends to escalate an argument. But even if you know that, in the heat of the moment and when you feel like you’re not being heard, the urge to yell is natural. So do you yell when you fight?
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Dear Poll: Do You Yell When You Fight?
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If I am yelling..I would be really really mad. In general I don't yell. I discuss. I find yelling counter-productive.
1I don't yell, but I have raised my voice.
2I yell, and I wish I didn't. I don't get that angry very often, so I guess it's not out of control, but I definitely don't articulate myself as well as I'd like to during an argument.
3I do yell and it's caused problems. I'm from a loud family and whenever we would get upset, we would yell. However, in my SO's family, yelling meant far worse things and he despises it. It's been hard to always remember to keep my voice down. Old habits die hard : (
4I almost never yell. I just wasn't raised in a way where loud noises were the appropriate response to frustration. Yelling totally upsets me. If I'm being yelled at, there's about a 90% chance I'm crying. I can be disciplined at work in almost any other way, I just... can't handle yelling.
5No, I get eerily quiet because I'm plotting. JK...
6I actually start laughing hysterically...I don't know, issues:) and then I say the last thing I'm going to say, and then get eerily quiet for days and days...
I want to yell however I keep myself in line. However my voice does get a little louder and the tone of my voice definitely changes. I dislike yelling though, unless the person is walking away from me, then I get p*ssed,lol.
7Chatondeneige: I am the same way, I cannot stand to be yelled at; I cry instantly. On the rare occassion (like twice) the person had said just enough to take me from crying to anger so I was able to yell back however it is rare. Ever since I was little I could not take being yelled at.
8when i'm mad, i don't deal with the problem right then and there. i usually retreat, and then talk about it when i'm ready or sometimes i don't talk about it at all. lol. i used yell a lot, but i don't have the energy anymore and it doesn't solve anything, at least in my situations it hasn't.
9all the time.
10My voice almost can't even yell, it's almost impossible because it's just so soft-spoken. So I usually make sarcastic comments while I'm being extremely yelled at. But a few minutes into it, I can't help but try to yell something back!
11awwww italianblonde!
I'll share my high pitched yells and
screams with you! LOL
Once I've yelled at a friend when I was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ANGRY AT HER, I was literally screaming at the top of my lungs. she was so shocked and tried to yell back but couldn't hear herself over my voice.
It was a shock to me too that I was capable of being such a b*tch!!
In contrast, I talk in a softer, sad tone when I'm upset (rarely) with my bf. It's really weird... maybe I'm just more comfortable and impatient with my friends?
12Yeah when I'm really upset/pissed. I try not to because afterwards I feel like such a b*tch but sometimes I can't control it and I let my emotions get the best of me.
13I don't know if I have ever yelled in my life. My husband laughs because if I have to yell, like trying to get someones attention, this tiny little "hey!" comes out. I can't help it.
14I have yelled at the top of my lungs..but now that im older I just get really sarcastic-mean when I am angry..tend to get people riled up even more that way
15Currently, i don't really fight with people. my boyf and i never fight and rarely argue. Mostly it's my sister or mom, and i say sarcastic/smart aleck things, or have a killer tone or attitufe, but usually i don't have to raise my voice lmao
16I do not yell.
17I never yell...my mom and sister are yellers...and I couldn't STAND it!
18This is one of my biggest flaws that I am really trying to fix. I've been MUCH better lately. I have actually gotten where I don't yell unless I feel as if I seriously need to because otherwise I'm going to swing (which I would never do). But that's when I decide OK, yell, get your point across and SHUT it.
19my husband will leave if i start to yell. he refuses to fight with me. now..we can discuss things. but never loudly.
just how we are.
20In four years, my boyfriend and I have only yelled at each other twice. Usually, we say our pieces and let it go; we don't stew in it.
21I don't know that I've ever yelled at my current boyfriend.
My exes, however. Holy cow. I would scream and scream.
This guy wouldn't stand for it so I don't ever do it.
22I will raise my voice if the other person does...but rarely to the point of yelling...I'll cry if someone yells at me tho...kinda sad.
23@bbkf U'r too cute!
24I have yelled, yes. Usually it my voice gets louder and louder the more pissed off I get. Then my face and neck get splotchy. How HOT! LOL
25No way. Ladies do not raise their voices. I have never in my life heard my father yell or raise his voice either, which is a wonderful thing. Hence I refuse to be with a man who yells. I nip that sh*t in the bud real quick if it ever happens!
26j2e1n9: nice language for a lady to use lol
27I only yell when I'm being yelled at or when the person I'm arguing with isn't listening or refuses to take my side into account.
I much prefer quite disagreements though.
28i always start off the conversation very even tempered with the goal of NOT yelling, but i'm VERY hot tempered and i really do hold back a lot however in the end i'm always yelling, and then he mumbles under his breath and we're both very mature about it. (note the sarcasm). it's hard when you're trying to be calm about things since you know that ultimately that's how you're able to have a conversation and change things, but it's easier said than done i think.
29I raise my voice but not to the yelling level. I always want to but it doesn't seem like it would help matters at all.
30when u get too fed up, u cant help but shout. and when ure fed up always, u cant help but raise ure voice and yell. thats my situation. im ALWAYS fed up now
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