Ouch. You had no business interfering in his professional life like that. People make mistakes in their personal lives all the time - how would you like it if a personal matter cost you your job? Even if the guy was a jerk, he didn't deserve that. I'm surprised he didn't out you as the sender - IMO, you deserve to be fired.

heaven forbid you handle a break-up like an adult, instead of an immature brat.

I said not forgive, and I agree with girlgreen, you deserve to be fired.

(you also deserve to have someone send unflattering nude pictures of YOU to everyone at the company -- maybe this guy is prone to revenge as well? wouldn't that be great?)

I always say don't mix business with pleasure. This was immature and completely uncalled for.

He did a grimy thing but it had NOTHING to do with work. Sending naked pictures to people in your industry is just wrong and probably illegal. This will teach you never to date someone you work with and it will teach him never to send naked pics of himself to immature b!tches that he barely knows.

I hope you get reprimanded for this and embarrassed by your entire company.

Obviously it is hard not to mix business with pleasure sometimes - but I definitely think you crossed a certain line. I understand you were pissed at him for his deceit but emailing out naked pics of him is a little bit too far.

Wow, just Wow. Having been on the receiving end of this similar situation, and having it ruin my life and my self esteem and just everything for so so many years. To still be afraid of it and everything 6 years later...

To me you should rot in hell. Have you no shame? No self respect? IMO it is disgusting, and you had no right.

*BUSZZNESZ AND PLESURE DNT MIX OBIVOUSLY, WAT YOU DID WASZ WRONG AND CHILDISH...BUT SOMETIMESZ WHEN PEOPLE GET HURT THEY DO DRASTIC THINGSZ THAT THEY LATER REGRET...IN DISZ CASE U WERE WRONG SWEETIE, SORRY TO TELL U BUT OBVIOUSLY U AREADY NOE THISZ...LOLSZ NUDE PIXSZ...I WOULDA BEEN FURIOUSZ AND MOST LIKELY U WOULDA BEEN IN DA HOSPITAL...DISZ JUSZ SHOWSZ U HOW NEONE COULD RESPOND TO SOMETHING SUCH AS DRASTIC AS DISZ(and im a sweetheart, but if it woulda been me thoesz pixsz were of, i woulda kicked the personsz sorry ass)lolsz..."LIFESZ TOO SHORT"

I'd never do something like that, nor I defend this type of behaviour...

but then, you have to admit, even if 2 wrongs don't make a right (and they certainly don't!), they are both experiencing the consequences of their actions... she feels bad he got back to his old office, he feels bad that she sent those pictures to people at work.

So I guess they both learned the lesson here: never mix business with pleasure/revenge/personal life, don't purposely piss/use/cheat/hurt people who know your vulnerabilities or secrets, if you can't help being an *ss and cheat, then at least be smart enough not to send naked pictures or share secrets with the person you're betraying.

I guess this is what happens when two people that are too much alike (in this case, immature) collide...

I think I would've been more forgiving if you'd come out in public in the relationship, had been together for a few years and then you learned about it. But *you* nipped it in the bud, which was mature but then, because he wasn't as upset as you were, you destroyed his career?

That is so juvenile and will probably have long lasting effects whenever he comes under scrutiny for a promotion. So if I was him, not forgive.

Nope, not forgive. You severely overpunished him for his betrayal, plus it's very immature to affect his professional life.

well part of me says forgive, and part of me says not forgive-so I guess I am undecided. But, what you did was wrong. You learned a hard lesson. What he did was wrong and he also learned a lesson. (we hope). I think that what blackwood says sums it up best, two wrongs don't make a right. Now do your best to get on with your life and do some good to make up for bad karma, volunteer etc. You can't go back and change it. I hope you learned a good lesson.

What a stupid thing to do. Now instead of him being the bad guy, you both are.

Eh...you destroyed his career...that is a little much.

You destroyed a man's career because he cheated on you? Boo-freaking-hoo, baby. That's ridiculous. While I think everything can be forgiven, this is pushing it, and I wish I could hear about how karma works out on this one.

The lying cheating bastard deserved it. I say good for you - I've never been cheated on, but if it happened, he'd have to suffer dire consequences just like yours did. I say there's no high road to take in those situations. f*ck him. You can sleep soundly.

NOT FORGIVE. What a horrible thing to do. Kharma's a b*tch and so are you. What you did was so beyond wrong, ruining someone's professional life over a relationship gone bad was so immature and completely unethical. I agree with whoever said you should be fired. I am sure he figured out a long time ago that it was you that sent the e-mail to everybody. It sounds like he took the high road and did not tell your boss even though he should have!

uhhmm NOT FORGIVE. Seriously, time to grow up.

I'm in the minority here. Forgive.

He burned you. You burned him. You know the saying -- Hell hath no fury greater than a woman scorned. I guess he never heard of that saying. Well, now he knows.

However, I'm afraid you may have created some bad karma for yourself. Also, he may come after you. Be careful, girl.

Totally FORGIVE!!! dont feel bad girl, he got what he deserved.

Definitely not forgive. You've set his career back several years, if not ruined it completely. You might also have ruined your own career, since even "fake" email accounts can be traced back to their owners.

Grow up, seriously.

What's done is done. Forgive yourself and move on. Learn from this mistake. Really, he is pretty cocky to have sent you nude pics of himself, and the Internet is precisely why you should never take nude photos/videos. What you did is wrong, but you can't undo it now, so just move forward with your life.

Seriously, you could have figured out another way to get even with him for being such a sc*mbag.That had to be one extremely humiliating experience.I'd be pissed to the gills if that were done to me.I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that you wouldn't exactly be laughing your a$$ off about it either.

So I'm going with not forgive.You're the one who is going to have to live with the consequences of your actions.What you did was really harsh and very immature....

NOT FORGIVE...and you better hope he doesn't retaliate and call you out for your despicable actions since he has nothing else to lose. As much as he looks bad in those pictures, you'll look even worse once everyone finds out you're the one spreading the pictures.

Not forgive. Two wrongs don't make a right, and look where you're at now - you don't feel particularly good about what you did, did you? In my opinion you should've just let the dust settle and moved on.

Pathetically immature. I hope it gets out that you are the one that sent it, and that you get demoted in turn.

Think about it, sure. Talk about it, why not. But actually DO it? Petty beyond belief.

Forgive. He earned it. Just because you choose to be a scumbag in your personal life, instead of your professional life, does not mean that your professional life shouldn't suffer. If he's going to be a scumbag, then he deserves to be treated like one, whether at work or at home. Admittedly, it was not the smartest form of retaliation, but morally speaking, I believe you're in the right.

Seriously though.... Don't do anything like this again.

He may have deserved it from YOUR perspective but to me it sounds like while he was a jerk you ruined his career and that is incredibly immature vindictive. You put your emotions first without thinking things through. That is a terrible trait in life- you will get yourself into a lot of trouble if you continue this way in the future. I voted Not Forgive because you dumped him and you did not get the reaction you wanted so you did this. I could have been more understanding if this guy was truly evil but he made a poor decision and will probably pay for it years to come.

You definitely crossed a line - like others have said, two wrongs most certainly do not make a right. What you should have done was just written it off as a lesson learned; guys like that always have their comeuppance in some way or another. You should be ashamed of yourself, and I wouldn't be surprised if this comes back to bite you in the ass.

honey, you just lived out every scorned woman's fantasy forgive. if for no other reason than he should have enough modesty/common sense to know that you don't send nakey pix out to people you aren't honest with. you put it all out there for him, so imho, you got to put all of him out there when he dicked you this is my absolute favorite confessional EV-A!

I don't think its unforgiveable, but it was extremely bad judgement. It sucks that the guy cheated on you, but that doesn't justify your actions. As tempting as it is to seek revenge, its always better to be the bigger person and walk away from the relationship with a clear conscience. Now you look just as bad, if not worse, than him. If I were you I would also be worried for my job if anyone ever finds out you were the one who sent out the picture because that's totally unprofessional.And for your sake I hope he doesn't have any naked pics of you. Also, why haven't people learned not to send bfs/gfs naked pictures of themselves??

I'm not going to call you any names but that wasn't the correct way to handle the situation. Tell him what you did and apologize, right now Missy!!!!!!

I agree with everyone who said 'Not Forgive!' What you did was totally inappropriate, even if the guy cheated on you. He'll get what he deserves in the long run, and you should have just forgot about him. Shame on you.

Ya, he already knows but apologize and move on. Nothing can be done now. I mean I guess you could fess up to the boss if you feel that terribly about it. Just learn from this and by that I mean never do something like this ever again.

Youch. So Immature!!

As someone who has had pics (private but non-naked) ones mis-appropriated ... I can only say one thing....You are an incredible b-tch! I really hope karma comes down hard on you. I really really really hope so.

lickety split, I happen to agree 100% with you.

Not forgive. That is so childish and immature. You're a b*tch. I hope you'll enjoy living with it everyday now.

Many of you need to lighten up. I remember a few weeks ago everyone was up in arms because E. Jean gave some incredibly critical advice - the result of that you ask? Everyone complaining that this is supposed to be a positive forum for women to come together for advice. What I see now is a bunch of hypocrites calling this girl names for doing something (to reiterate what lickety split said) most of us can only fantasize about. Was it ethical? No. At least she had the moxie to do something active in a situation where many women would just forgive the lying cheating jerk.

Kudos to her.

What did you really think was going to happen when you sent that picture out, that it would just be a rumor and he'd be embarrassed? Come on.

I wouldn't do that to my current boyfriend if he cheated on me. I wouldn't do that to anyone. It is selfish and childish to take a personal relationship to a level where you would impact their careers. His career shouldn't be messed with because he made a bad PERSONAL decision.

Amen Chrstne........I agree.

I date someone at work and would never think about doing such a thing, no matter what happened. Granted what he did was bad, but it wasn't as bad as your actions.

How you behave when people mistreat you an important insight into a person's character. You can say you did x and y because someone "deserved" it, but the reality is that you did something pretty dispicable.

At the very least, at least you now know that you totally lack grace.

"Everyone [complains] that this is supposed to be a positive forum for women to come together for advice. What I see now is a bunch of hypocrites calling this girl names [because of her bad behavior]."

This (^) is a loose generalization, but I agree with the spirit of the statement.

FORGIVE!!! HE DESERVED IT!!! GOOD FOR YOU!

I don't think name-calling is appropriate. However, the specific intent of the confessionals is to forgive or not forgive. In other words, someone did something "wrong" and we're supposed to judge if we forgive or not.

By nature of how this is set up, several people are going to "not forgive" and explain why this person was wrong. Like I said, calling her names isn't appropriate, but this is very different than someone writing in for advice.

Also, this is different than the E. Jean post. E. Jean wasn't criticizing the person for a decision she made. She used her advice column to publically call out and berate a practically illiterate person who wanted advice.

THATS F'D UP.
EVENTUALLY YOU WILL ALSO GET YOUR KARMA.

KARMA COME BACK YOU HEARD?

wow that's kind of shallow and slightly pathetic. so he cheated on you ONLINE. big deal. there are never any grounds to forward something as personal as nude pictures to anyone, ESPECIALLY out of spite and malice. that just goes to show your insecurity with yourself.

That's like something I did, IN THE THIRD GRADE.

You ought to have been fired too, and shame on you for even wondering if he'll forgive you. That was a horrid thing to do.

mykie7 - what 3rd grade boy was sending you nakkid pics??? heehee