Whether he starts them more than you, or you rock the boat more than he, fights between couples are relatively normal. And while some couples steer clear of those touchy subjects, there are some issues that are not easily avoidable, thus becoming regular bones of contention. So do you have any re-occurring fights in your relationship? If so, what causes them?









McQ by Alexander McQueen
Woolrich
Buti
2 months into a new relationship and not even a blip on the fighting radar (yay!)
1Re-occurring fights with my ex were mainly over how I wanted to work on our sex life and he didn't.... yeah, I'm glad that's over!!
2You know this is a very good question to ask! I keep starting to write stuff down about my bf and what we argue over and I keep stopping because I have come to realize...it is all very trivial and I need ot just stop being so crazy and uptight sometimes
3he gets mad when i complain, but when he offers to help i turn it down.
4i get mad because when he offers to help, it makes me feel stupid.
He hates talking about making desisions, finances, resonsibilities, etc. Just a bit of growing up to do. And I am very independent and somewhat controlling and that upsets him. Normal stuff for a couple in their late 20's I guess. But we love each other.
5we argue over whether it's better to leave the dishes in the kitchen sink or on the counter until the dishwasher is unloaded. i say sink.
6Toilet seat: up or down? The ultimate battle.
7Most of the time it's religion that makes us drive eachother crazy. I was raised a believer and he wasn't. We don't regularily discuss it but sometimes things will come on tv or something will happen that will strike a conversation about it. It's not intense arguing but it's definitely something we don't agree on.
8The only thing we fight about is money and work. I've been and office person my whole life whilst he's been a contractor/business owner. and times have been tough... but we are all good now
9most fights are about my complaining too much and his friend (only one in particular, and i don't like him) being over too often. i understand that his friend is like a brother to him but the friend has a LOT of growing up to do and it bugs me. plus, my fiancee does the whole 'i'm-a-dick-when-with-friends' mode like we're in junior high still or something. ugh...hoping he'll grow out of it soon
10I don't think we do fight?
We had a bit of a disagreement on Saturday because he said we'd go swimming and then he changed his mind and wanted to sit around indoors all day. I got a bit pissy with him and we had a bit of silence but he came round. I felt awful though because it just felt like I was forcing him to do something he didn't want to do when he did agree to come out with me again.
We got the pool after taking a 2 mile detour in the rain and found the last ticket was issued half an hour before we got there... so I learnt my lesson.
;p
Bonus though - we did check out the gym and we've both joined now.
Other than that... we don't argue about anything. We've never had a shouting match.
11his f-ing dumb ass friends who all have gfs but think its totally uncool to have a woman in your life bc they're so macho and hang out and act like they have the coolest sh*t to talk about but in reality they're unemployed incapable momma's boys who don't realize that their beer bellies and peter pan-at-the-age-of-30 persona isn't f-ing HOT! thanks. i had to get that out.
12HA lil croat!
we've been nitpicking lately w/each other.... we both realize it afterwards, and are quick to apologize, but it's been annoying... it's hard sometimes when you're both stubborn and need to be right, to realize... well we can both be right.
13We rarely argue, but when we do it usually stems from finances. Money is such a pain in the butt!
14We rarely fight, but when we do its about the sammmmee thing:
15We've been together for way over 4 years and I have my own apartment with my college roomate (we graduated college 2 years ago) I am very independent and take care of all my expenses and I am happy..he wants to and is able to afford to buy a house..but i am not there yet...i can afford a mortgage but not a down payment..he thinks its no big deal if he buys it and i move in and help with the mortgage but i think its a HUGE deal because I want to be able to say that I help get that house equally..
I know im a brat sometimes but I worked very hard to get to where i am at in my life and cant see myself just moving in somewhere i didnt technically help to buy
blahblahblah anyways i just renewed my lease so that argument has stopped..until next august im sure lol
more annoyances then arugments...like when I don't get enough attention!
16When we talk about each other's past and get all jealous. I hate his past and he hates mine
17In some ways we both wish we were each others firsts... the jealousy can cause masssive fights but we made a pact not to do it again and so far its working
in-laws, both his and mine. neither of us can stand each others parents. Esp. now that we have a little one, and they're always around. argh.
18He doesn't help out enough around the house. We both work FT jobs and have 2 young children. But I do just about every bit of house work/cooking/cleaning handle most of the bills and anything that has to be done for the kids.
But ...."he works a hard job and I sit at a desk all day"
19I am glad to know that I am not the only putting up with stuff I don't feel I should have to put up with!!!
20money (he doesn't get the whole "save" thing, but at least I've got him paying his bills on time now), cleaning (his complete and total lack of dedication to the process), and drinking (whenever we hang out with his friends the purpose is to get drunk, regardless of where you are or what you're doing, I think its gross, he thinks its normal), and not necessarily in that order.
21Only ThinG: I lied in beginning of our relationship about not sleeping with a friend of mine that my boyfriend knows also... quite sometime BEFORE we were together... and somehow it always comes up again. SUX
22We have been together almost a year and it wasn't until recently we started fighting, but it's ALWAYS about the same thing lately, which is basically that he just bought a new business and he asks me for help with it all the time but I don't feel like the support I have given him is being reciprocated in any way. I am hoping that this will change in the next few months once he gets into the swing of things at this business, but we'll see...
23Our disagreements are pretty mundane, actually. Mostly it's little things like how he hates it when I throw out things that might be important (he's kind of a packrat), how I sometimes forget to lock the door to the house, stuff like that. I get on his case sometimes because he refuses to unload the dishwasher or even put his lunch containers in the dirty load (I mean, c'mon, how tough is it to do that??), I get frustrated when he doesn't let the dog out in the morning, and sometimes he goes to estate auctions that are only supposed to last a couple of hours and he winds up spending the whole day there. Oh, and we sometimes fight about what to watch on TV and who gets to use the laptop. Mostly we deal with the little annoyances; no one's perfect, after all. We do try to communicate our little disagreements to each other so we can both try to improve our little idiosyncrasies.
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