I hate being stared at. It really pisses me off 90% of the time, because I don't appreciate being undressed by some gross stranger's eyes. So I'm with you, Dear.

I like it only when an attractive guy does it. If it's not, I feel offended (on the lines of 'yuck! as if I would ever go with you!'). Hypocrite? maybe, but that's how I feel.

Very true, austerity. My reaction splits down that same line

I like it if it's done the right way. I know that sounds weird, but theres a right & wrong way to be checked out. You can tell when it's sincere, and not a "I'd like to have her in the backseat of my car" compliment/check-out.

Does anyone remember that Shia LaBeouf "He Likes You" skit on SNL, the one where all the guys in the restaurant are staring at the two women, while a silly song plays in their heads instead of thoughts?

I do enjoy it, if the guy is hot! Before we were dating my boyfriend did it all the time! I loved it.

I hate that men can't be a little more subtle about it. Especially when those men are old enough to be my father. Barf.

In New York, it makes me very worried because people are likely to do something about it. I had a huge guy stand in the middle of the sidewalk in front of me on 14th Street and scream into my face, "I would love to f*ck you!" - and I had to step around him. It's attention I'd rather not have in this city even though it's unavoidable. Men are slimy.

It's so degrading. And I doubt that they do that kind of stuff because they really think it'll get them anywhere with a girl--I think the guys who do that just like being pigs.

"I usually ignore it, so it doesn’t matter to me either way."

That's my vote. However, truthfully, what (somewhat) bothers me is when his female companion gets insecure, and give me a dirty look. That look irritates me. It's not my fault her male companion is looking at me. I don't control his eyes. She should be giving HIM the dirty look, not me.

I am learning to ignore that look, too. Like I said, I think it comes from a place of insecurity, and I feel sorry for her. Insecurity is a very uncomfortable emotion. It's sad that she is made uncomfortable by an innocent woman strolling down the street minding her own business. How sad.

If the guy is attractive, yes, it can be very flattering...but if the guy is a creeper who won't leave you alone, it's not so appealing.

only if the guy is cute and I agree there is a right way (aka apperciation of beauty) and gross way (I want to do bad things to you...) ew.

It depends on my mood mostly. Usually I appreciate it as a compliment and it makes me feel good. But some days it makes me really angry. It also depends on how it's done. If it's subtle and quick, fine. However, if it's prolonged and I can feel your eyes on me to the point it's making me uncomfortable or creeped out, no bueno.

You know what else is creepy? When there's more than one of them and their WHOLE GROUP is doing it to you.

hehe...glad to see my thoughts are supported by many

Having dated a few boys who don't even have classes with girls, I've become increasingly uncomfortable with being stared at by guys. Especially after one incident in which several of them logged onto their Facebook, rated me, and reported their opinions to someone I was dating at the time.

However, it can be flattering to turn heads. If it's confidence and subtle sexiness they're staring at, so be it, but if they're only looking because I happen to be female, they're pigs!

I can rarely discern who's who, so I tend to assume the worst.

This reminds me of something that happened to me a couple weeks ago. I was walking into Borders and this construction worker was walking past me down the street. Out of nowhere, he looks me up and down and then says "Nice" right out loud to me. I mean how did he want me to respond to that? I started laughing because it was just blatant ogling.

Depends on who's doing the looking!

Not after my friend who's a guy gave me an in on what his co-workers are really thinking when they give a girl the "look"... so basically it just makes my skin crawl now, I don't like being looked at at all, no matter if he's cute or not.

Spill the dirt, lemuse!

There is a difference in turning heads and the gross leer.

I always find it flattering, as long as it's respectful...

and seriously... wtf?? as if the guy in question has the fault of looking the way he does and the fact that you don't find him attractive!! as long as he shows his admiration in a tasteful way, why would I ever care what he looks like??

just my opinion...

hate hate haaaaaate. no matter what, all the time, no matter who is doing the staring. It makes me sooo uncomfortable!!

"I wouldn’t say I love being stared at, but I do find it flattering."

That's how i feel about it. Most of the time it skeeves me out when older men or creepy-looking guys do it, but it also makes me a feel a little bit flattered. When I do get checked out or hit on, its usually when I look my worst...which is really confusing to me but whatever

Jude I agree about the Group of men comment ...that creeps me out and scares me especially if I HAVE to walk by them...

I have to go against the group on this one!
I find it very flattering, most likely because I NEVER got any attention from guys like this before. (when I was 40 pounds heavier)

I'm a server, so whenever I lay down food or drinks... I see the guy(s) staring "subtly" starting from my hands.. to my face...and when I turn around it's my behind then the whole body up-down stare. It's actually hilarious because it's ALWAYS the same kind of stare and really obvious that they're interested. And I'm pretty sure all this attention is only because I'm a 5'11" Asian girl w/ a big ass.

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I can’t stand it. It makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

I just don't like the type of men who *stare* at women, not matter what they look like. I like the shy nerdy types, who usually just give quick glances (and look me in the eye, thank you very much).

I hate being stared at, period. It's 10 times worse when it's some sketchy-looking guy. Even if the guy is cute I feel really uncomfortable. I just try to ignore them.

I like that others shared my views here - if they are cute and they wanna look at me, go right ahead. But if he is not, especially if it is a group of creepy guys, hellz no i don't like it!

I normally am in my own world and never notice...

Since mostly perves stare..I detest it.

it depends on the kind of look.
if its a discrete appreciative glance its all right.

but if its undressing me with thier eyes, licking their lips, making animal noices and catcalls in my direction I hate!

for all the old men out there stop trying to hit on 20yr olds! if you need a bottle of pills to get it up the answer is NOOOOO

gah that felt good to vent