I made a dating profile for my mom because she kept whining about being single, too. She was shocked when I told her, but in the end she was glad. She dated a few of the guys and had fun, so I think you should be forgiven.

I think she was upset because she realizes that her dating life has come to this, not because you set up a profile for her. She was probably just embarrassed, more than anything. Maybe you should just e-mail her the information for her dating profile, so she can access on her own time when she's ready.

I would be highly annoyed if you set up an online account for me b/c I would never do that on my own. I think alot of the people on there are quite shady. I personally would delete it as soon as I could.

Online dating has progressed a lot since it was just match.com and if you got in touch with some guys who might be suitable for her then fair dos.

However, there could be reasons why she hasn't done this before herself? Like she is ashamed of what online dating could mean? She doesn't know the guys? You are the one who has been in touch with them after all...

Email her the username and password to her profile and then let her decide what she does with it.

While I understand why you might be frustrated with listening to your friend complain about her love life, I think you overstepped your boundaries as her friend. I believe she has every right to be angry with you (even if her anger is stemming from embarrassment). I personally wouldn't forgive a friend if he/she did this to me, but then again, I'm stubborn and don't respond well to this kind of behavior.

Furthermore, I think there is a difference between setting up an online profile for her, and actually communicating with men on her behalf. I believe that's something the government likes to call identify theft.

That's messed up. Are you really that overly involved in HER life that you would set up a profile for her? Just tell her you're sick of hearing her b*tch about it. End of story.

You would have been within your rights to tell her how you feel about all her complaining, but putting her information online without her knowledge is something a shady and backstabbing person would do. This is the kind of thing people do to their enemies. You say you have good intentions, but I'm seeing at least a bit of passive-aggressiveness here.

And to add insult to injury, you're now brushing it off like "What's the big deal? She should just build a bridge and get over it."

You need to realize that what you did is not only "not nice", it's also illegal.

"identity theft is a crime. Identity theft and identity fraud are terms used to refer to all types of crime in which someone wrongfully obtains and uses another person's personal data in some way that involves fraud or deception"

http://www.usdoj.gov/criminal/fraud/websites/idtheft.html

Your saving grace is that this is not a case where you used her identity to steal money, but if your friend is pissed enough and resourceful enough, she can probably figure out a way to sue you.

http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/suing-for-identity-theft.h...

If I were you, I'd get very sorry very quickly and beg, and I mean, BEG for forgiveness. And she really does not have to forgive you, so seriously, throw yourself at her mercy.

I can kind of feel you because I almost did something similar (to an enemy, natch), but I stopped before it was too late when I realized I could get into a whole heap of trouble.

Best of luck to you. You might just need it.

Forgive. I think you meant well. However, your mistake was misinterpreting her venting as an invitation to take over her personal life. You crossed a boundary. Her personal/dating life is hers to manage, not yours to manage.

So next time, stay out of it. You're single -- focus on YOUR personal life. Leave her's alone.

Forgive, but you were a bit misguided on how to 'help' her. I would be MORTIFIED if any friend of mine ever did that to me. It sounds like a bad romantic comedy gone totally awry.

I can understand getting peeved with the girl, but you probably should have done the online dating thing for yourself, shown her how great it is and then recommended it - instead of secretly foisting it upon her.

I think it is great that you did it. She'll get over it to be honest I would love to have a friend write a profile for me I do not think I would do myself justice.

I'm sorry, but you really ought to mind your own business. I would be very upset if someone did this to me. If you truly had "hit your limit" with your friend's complaining, then perhaps you could have talked to her about it, but going behind her back in order to play cupid was way out of line. Accept that despite your good intentions, your friend is not pleased. Apologize, and go out and find yourself a date if you're so desperate to matchmake.

she sounds like a big pain in the ass. forgive you, but don't run after this friendship. she's using you as a therapist but doesn't want a fix, she just wants to vent. boring. go on the date yourself. enjoy

I agree with lickety split.

I don't know that this would be a friendship-ender to me, but is this even legal? You put information about her that she had intended to keep private in a very public domain; no matter how annoying she is, that just really isn't an appropriate thing to do.

I mean, I disagree with licketysplit. Sure, the friend is a pain in the ass, but the solution would be to suggest a dating site, or stop talking to her and listening to her whine, not to totally violate her right to privacy.

Forgive... it sounds like you were trying to be a good friend. BUT this is a huge thing to do without her permission, so actually at this point I'd apologize to her and if she can't deal with it, well...

I'd be PISSED if someone did this to me. I have no problem with the idea of online dating but I have a BIG problem with someone posting my personal info and photos without my permission, and pretending to be me while contacting strange men.

I understand that you were just trying to be a good friend but I don't think I could forgive someone who betrayed my trust like that.

Oh please... my goodness I feel that you were genuine. I placed you in the forgive category because you didn't trick her into meeting any of them. The men never showed on up her doorstep from the site. You never fooled her on going on a date with them blindly. "So harmless. Not a friendship breaker. " All you have to do is DELETE the profiles since she does not want to participate. Whew... it's the easiest command in technology to execute. Also, no personal information, like address and numbers or real names are used on those sites.

Actually, if the emotions could just come down a notch. She may realized that you showed her another avenue of meeting men. Fine, so she disagreed. You were honest. I'm sure you apologized. Yes, you learned you crossed the line with your friend. But, good friends generally values the honesty in another. Step back for a moment from the entire situation. She will either realize she is over-reacting in regards to ending the friendsip entirely. Or, you will find new friends and never try this again on another friend; although you know you meant well.

Now, if she degrees. Okay. She disagrees.. let's move on. Life is a journey. On that journey with friends, there are funny stories to tell like this on. Good luck.

Your heart was in the right place but you did cross the line. I would apologize, but not grovel. She'll probably come around eventually.

Serves her right. But i guess this also means that you're as involved in her love life as she seems to be. Nothing more annoying then someone who does nothing but whine. You're mistake was sitting there to hear about it. Hell, an even lesser friend would've admitted to doing this because she wont stfu!

I say not forgive because you don't seem at all sorry to me. I wouldn't forgive someone if they weren't remorseful!

Seriously, if you get sick of her being a downer, just put distance between you and hang out with other people in the "group" - every group of friends has that one negative or annoying person, and you can usually just avoid it. But c'mon, mind your own business and leave her out of it. And you went behind her back. There were a lot of alternatives, and I think you made a bad choice. Live and learn. But yeah, I think to be forgiven you need to be remorseful and apologize, to me it just sounds like you're sorry it's affecting your social life. Was it a horrible wrong? No. But you were still in the wrong.

Forgive. I think we have the same friend, I know exactly how you feel and what compelled you to do this. Some people just don't want to be helped. The victim role suits them so well and they identify with it so completely, they can't risk being successful and happy because they wouldn't know what to do with it. I give her advice and she ignores it. I give her constructive criticisim and she argues. I tried to get her to do a makeover so she wouldn't be so dowdy and she won't because men should like her for "her", nevermind that men are attracted to bright shiny objects AND if a woman looks good, she feels good. We go out and men ask her to dance and she refuses. She says she admires me, but she's catty and envious of my relationship. I did the online dating thing for 3 years and then met a fabulous guy through my work. He was attracted to my "positive energy". Really, some people you just can't help. They know what to do if they want things different.

totally forgive. you're a dedicated friend to a friend who won't help themselves as agnt99 said.

she needed that push even though she didn't know it. her initial anger is understandable but should fizzle out in the realization that she really needs to stop being a little b*tch about it and just get in the game. don't complain unless you're ready to act/change.

Aw, you are a really good friend to still try to help her even tho she acts so miserable all the time!

The emailing the guys was probably going a little far, but she should forgive you. My mom signed me up for an online dating service, and now I am marrying the guy I met!

I agree with rickimc... I think that signing her up for one would have been fine, like the fees were a gift. But I think emailing them for her was a bad idea because now if she does ever meet them, she doesn't know what her relationship with them is. It's not fair for her to have to research what you said to them pretending to be her before her date, and even if you know her really well, you still might've mislead the prospects just because you aren't her. I mean, the whole thing is a little shady, really, so I'm undecided.

I would forgive you if I were the friend. I think HeidiMD was right... she was just embarrassed that you felt compelled to set up a profile, she thought you were pitying her. Well, if she keeps whining about being single, what does she expect? I think your intentions were good and you seemed to put a lot of effort into finding guys that you thought your friend would like.

I HATE when people try to set me up, so I can totally understand the situation. But if she is always complaining about it, I can understand why you did what you did.

I say forgive, BUT I would also forgive her if she chose not to go on dates with any of the guys and if she asked you to close down her profile. I do think it is a bit much to ignore you. Hopefully she will see that you were just trying to help her out.

Forgive!! I wish I had friends who cared enough about me to do something like this. Thankfully my BFF is my husband. She'll get over it.

I know you're trying to be a good friend but try to be in her shoes. Personally, i've tried online dating, but i would never admit it to people since a lot of them think it's for desperate people. Your friend probably thinks the same thing. One way to get on her good side is to show her the comments guys have left on her profile. I remember it was a big boost for my self confidence. So even though she won't try online dating, maybe she'll have more confidence to put herself out there in other ways.

Wow. Lenient people here. Okay, good friends listen. They tell their friends hard truths when they need to suck it up and either do something or stop complaining.

They don't go behind their back and do something so...controlling and manipulative. Something appears to be holding this person back from dating. Self-esteem? Her heart's still broken? She's on the brink because she's talking about it all the time, but for some reason, she's not quite ready. The best thing would be to get her into situations (like parties) where she can meet guys, and so on, but leave it up to her. Creating a profile for her, hand-selecting men for her...wow. I think you had good intentions at first, but you went way, way overboard, and you seem to see no problem with it.

I voted not forgive. Instead of trying to get her to open up as to why she's so afraid to date, you stampeded past your duty as a friend and took the easy way out- you went online and found some men for her to make her shut up. Or at least, that's how it probably looks to her. Write her a letter apologizing for upsetting her and explaining that what you did was kindly meant. Tell her that you think she's fantastic, and you want to see her happy. And most importantly, tell her that if she feels the need, she can come to you to talk.

If she still feels she can trust you to listen.

your heart was at a good place but only, u did it wrong. online dating isnt something a lot of people are up for. i voted forgive but u really shouldve asked her before setting up that page. its something different to get her a date and getting her a date via internet. i personally would hate it but forgive her eventually. because i wouldnt go for online dating, at ALL. so you should apologize to her and tell her that u did what u did not because u wanted to embarrass her or anything, but u did it because u wanted whats best for her.