well if ur engaged than hes ur fiance
if ur not hes ur boyfriend
if ur married hes ur husband

i dont find anything offensive about the word

I can understand it sounding weird at first, I kept using boyfriend for a few months after I got engaged. I had a similar problem using husband after the wedding, but that switch was faster. I don't find anything offensive about it at all, it just can be strange at first to use a new term to call your significant other.

I feel pretentious using the word, so have kept using boyfriend for several months... and just laugh when I am corrected, often with an exaggerated, "Don't you mean 'fian-SAY'?". Husband, on the other hand, I'm quite excited to be able to say when the time comes.

Something about the word makes my skin crawl.. i just say my husband as i cant be bothered.. and to be honest.. i dont need to explain my relationship. There is no need to use the word. Friend and family know were engaged and i tell strangers hes my husband just to save time.

Such a pretentious cringy word. It sounds like faux-french to me. Bleaghhhh!!

I was fine with that word. It was an accurate description. Also, in my opinion, once we were engaged, he had upgraded from boyfriend status, and deserved a new title.

I find that (American) English has a lot of foriegn words like "burrito," "challah" bread, "cul de sac," "curriculum vitae," etc. To me, "fiance" is just another one of those words. If anything, a person using those words and knowing its roots is somewhat cultured. JMHO.

I completely agree with Sun_Sun:

It's not that I'm "in love" with the word "fiance" but speaking strictly in terms of definitions, doesn't a man become a "fiance" once you are engaged? What's snobby about that? I would definitely use the term. It separates those who will soon (in most cases) be married and those who do not yet have that type of commitment.

I agree with GlowingMoon. The word isn't random, it does actually mean what it is used for. And I agree that once you are engaged that's a different relationship than just having a bf, and I would want people to know that. There is nothing snobby about it, it's just using the correct word to describe your relationship, what's wrong with that?

you can't say bf/gf after you're engaged, you're not, you're engaged

my poor bf doesn't know what to call me when he introduces me to people. I think bf/gf is fine for now since we're not officially engaged, but he always says, "this is my girlfriend, but it's very serious"

i don't actually like it. i've been engaged for about 3 months and well, i still shudder every time i say it. i usually say boyfriend and then someone corrects me since they know that i'm engaged, but i kind of feel like it's rubbing it into other peoples' faces when i say it or that it's kind of snobby. i know that i should be really thrilled about it, but to me, i would rather call him by his name or say my boyfriend and leave it at that. once we're married i'm sure i'll be ok with husband, but fiance - hmmm..not so much a fan.

It is alright. But it is VERY overused though!

I don't think that there is anything wrong with the term "fiance." It shows that you are committed to marrying this person, and that the relationship is serious. If you say "boyfriend" even if you're engaged, it seems like the relationship is casual or that you aren't getting married anytime soon.

I can't wait to call him this. ;p We already know we're in this for the very long term so it's all just a matter of technicality.

He was talking about buying a house together after my MA is finished and I was like "I'm not signing any joint mortgage without a ring on my finger, understand?" I think he understands.

I use both boyfriend and fiance.

I thought it was a dumb word before I was engaged.

imLissy,

I'm in the same boat. My SO and I have been dating for 6 years. We are in the process of looking at rings and he is going to be buying one soon, but we are not "officially engaged". So I am not really sure how to introduce him. We are more committed than "boyfriend" leads people to believe. And while I call him my SO on here that sounds weird to say in conversation.
I'll be glad when we are "officially engaged" so that I can call him my fiance. I'll be happy being able to convey the seriousness of our relationship. (Although I have called him fiance in other places like my webpage b/c it just felt right).

I have no problem with the term fiance. I will use it when I get in engaged. I never thought about it being snobby.

It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where the woman was going around the party they were all at 'Have you seen my fiance? I can't seem to find my fiance. Has anyone seen my fiance?'

I HAVE a fiance and I have trouble with the word. But it does mean something, as GlowingMoon said. It's deeper than boyfriend, and people treat him differently when he's introduced that way; like he'll be around at the next holiday party or whatever.

I feel a little silly asking this but what is SO??

I don't mind using the word "fiance" either, but I really only use it when I talk to people I don't know. If someone asks me what I did over the weekend, I'd probably say, "Oh, my fiance and I did this..." I don't think it's snobby, and it's certainly easier (and less weird) than referring to him "the man I plan to marry."

wadewifey-- significant other

I don't know, I love it. You spend forever longing to be married, and when he finally pops the question you've only got so long to gush about being ALMOST married so why not use the title It's official anyways; it's not any more snobby than "boyfriend" or "husband". He just is..

Ya thanks for letting me know. I had no freaking clue and then I asked my mom and she had no freaking clue. Thanks for enlightening me!!!

I don't see anything wrong with the term either. I think where some people may have a problem is with girls that don't call their significant other by their name to people that they know and always say my boyfriend, fiance or husband. I will say those terms if it is to someone new. Using it with people you know is where it can be construed as bragging, etc.

kadbunny- it could have something to do with the fact that I wasn't sitting around longing to be married and for him to "pop the question," but rather I proposed. I suppose fiance does have that fairy-tale proposal ring to it...

I don't think there is anything wrong with the word, but to me, I'm still technically single, and he's been my boyfriend for five years. I think Marci nailed it with this:

"It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where the woman was going around the party they were all at 'Have you seen my fiance? I can't seem to find my fiance. Has anyone seen my fiance?'"

Like, it just seems to feed into the monstrous bridezilla culture..I don't think it is offensive though!

I said fiance as often as I could manage (; now I say husband as often as I can (; haha

depends on the day. But most of the time i do not like the word.

I called him "the soon-to-be hubs."

I like the word fiancee!
Is like every little girls dream to get engaged with a handsome man and call him your fiancee.
but then again, I'm not engaged, so I might not like it later on hahaa

"it's like womens' lib never happened... "

what happened to equality ?

or do you really prefer to be looked after... subservient?

cos we'd like to correct that [next time around]

i LOVE that word. its really hot. *faint