I really don't think that statement is true at all. No two people are exactly alike and couples will have their differences, but you have to have the same values and ideals at your cores to make it work.

I think that yes, opposites do attract...but actually being able to make it work is a different story. My ex and I were very different. He was very outgoing and could make friends with anyone. I am very shy and have a hard time making friends. He liked rap, I like alternative..If I said hot he said cold...etc. we pretty much clashed at every point you could and Ive even realized now, after the fact, even more things that I couldnt see before. because now Im in a relationship with someone who is pretty much the male version of me. Hes very quiet and non confrontational. We like the same kind of music, we want the same things out of life (pretty much word for word, its wierd) For the longest time my ex had me convinced that I was the one always picking fights and looking for something to argue about, but now I see that thats not the case because Ive been with my new guy for about 4 months now and we havnt gotten into a single arguement. We've had disagreements, but we talk about it and work it out rather than just jump down each others throat. Anyway, Im getting off topic. In my experience I think its better to be with someone who is more like you, than not. Because theres an understanding there, that you cant have with someone who is completely opposite of you.

I think as long as you agree on the most important things (money, sex, religion, how you will raise children etc) its not agreeing on other things that make it interesting. My brother dated a girl that was like his clone, EVERYTHING he liked she did too and it made him nuts. He never got any alone time or time with his friends bc all of his friends were her friends and she would pout when he did things without her bc anything he did sounded like fun to her.

My parents have been married for 31 years and while the obviously enjoy each others company, they also each have their own interests, or they like the same things but for different reasons. They love the theater, but she loves scoping out the costumes and my dad loves the music- that sort of thing.

Not at all. In my experience, any attraction of opposites (which may happen on a genetic level, actually!) can't sustain itself. The guy I'm with now is so like me it's scary. I never would have even asked for all these similarities, but it's great. It really smoothes the way.

I am not so sure. I don't have enough experience to say.

I think it depends on how the two people are 'opposite' ... my husband and I share similar values, beliefs, political opinions, but I am a high strung type A and he is a low key rational type B. It works out quite well

Mmm, I'm not sure. My ex and I were had a lot of the same things in common was pretty much alike, but my current boyfriend and I are pretty opposite. I don't know I like it either way, opposite or not.

my boyfriend of 5 years and I are pretty opposite. I'm outgoing, always wanting to be out and meet people, he's more shy and quiet. We also have differing views on religion but we respect each others ideas. I didn't think we'd make it in the beginning but we've learned how to see past our differences and thats what makes us closer. I guess it all depends on the person and what you're willing to compromise on.

I'm pretty much on par with runningesq. My boyfriend and I are similar at the core in terms of our values and goals, but we are complete opposites in every other way. I think as long as you share certain core values, it doesn't really matter what else is different. In fact, in the past I tended to have very bad relationships with people too similar to me because we would butt heads so often (I'm very stubborn!).

I think it's more like ying and yang. There should be some differences in order to open up newer experiences and characteristics for a wholesome relationship, but in a way that they are intricately balanced with some similarities to tie them together.

What Renees3 said. If you truly love the person whether you're in love or just love them, then the opposites will attract. I've known tons of people who dated opposites and were just fine. Some people marry/date others that are similar and some marry/date those that are their exact opposites. Some work out and some don't. It all depends on how hard the people work to keep their relationship.

My husband and I are very polar in a lot of ways... He's tall and lanky.. I'm a foot shorter than him, all curves and hips. I'm cleeeean, he's messy. He's an Aries, I'm a Libra (WAY POLAR astrologically).

But then we will say some of the same things at random times ..like today (we've never said this before but) at the same time we both blurted out "Vomit Orange". (We were coming up for names of colors for the houses where we live.) We sometimes think very similarly. And then we've just kind of grown together mentally, musically, politically, etc.

I don't mind that we're not exactly the same. I don't want anyone to be like me.

polar opposites, ack

No not really, but my sister is dating a guy that is completely different than her.

I dont know about others, but me and my beau are SO alike its not even funny. To the point where we are clumsy with the same things (when we go to do a quick dash to the door etc, we both twist our ankles and hobble LOL) and when we are deciding what to have for tea, we both usually come out with the same thing. Thats the way I like it

although i always thought my partner is TOTALLY different to me (before we started going out) after being together, everyday we find more and more things that are the same. we have different personalities but they work well together and we share the same values.

I do, yes After all my boyfriend of 2 years is my complete opposite and we're still very much in love. I think it keeps things interesting, and the traits I lack I gain from him. It's a balance. And as some of the girls said the strength of the relationship is tested when these differences rise.

I mean obviously when it comes down to it we ARE similar, ie. same interests, views on life etc. but as far as silly little things like lovey-doveyness (I do it a lot; it embarrasses him), telling stories (I'm an open book; he's a dark horse) or our attitudes in general (idealist VS realist). I really do love him though..

My boyfriend and I are not total opposites, but we are definitely opposites. However, I do think that our differences complement each other, which is why we fit together like perfect puzzle pieces.

i dont think its entirely true. i think that eventually you need to share the same ideals, morals, values etc. however, when it comes to 'im outgoing, he's shy'...sometimes that attracts. altho, me personally, i am so outgoing that shy guys got on my nerves. even tho people at our wedding say me and my husband are like ying and yang and i guess that was a good thing altho in my opinion ying and yang are polar opposites but i *think* they meant it as a compliment haha

I think it's different for everyone. Some couples you see that love doing everything together and are almost the same person. Others seem to be complete opposites. I think it's easier for a relationship to work when you're similar on the big issues- values, religion, etc. But I think it keeps things interesting if you have different types of personalities, work, hobbies, etc.

I think it's true as far as supercifial attractions go, and I can get along with most people, but I find that for very close relationships it works better if we share important values and beliefs. Similar backgrounds are less important.

*superficial

i do believe that opposites do attract but in many cases, you're going to find that it's really topline. i think that in the end, you find that you like the things about the person that are completely different than you are however you will want to change them or they will want to change you and then that's where you run into problems. you should go into a relationship with someone accepting them for who they are and realize that you can't change them..and when you're so different, something's going to give.

They might attract but they don't work well together.

My boyfriend and I are complete opposites, and we butt heads very often. However, like bigestivediscuit said, we complement each other. We both bring different things to the table, and we make up for what the other lacks. It's a great learning experience, and it's fun to be with someone that's constantly bringing another perspective into our relationship and into our discussions.

My boyfriend and I are pretty much opposites. But we never run out of things to talk about, we have an amazing connection, and while we might argue about some things and disagree sometimes, I don't know a couple that doesn't do that! Luckily even though we are opposites we work well with each other.

My boyfriend and I are opposite in our personalities and interests, however we have the same values and we are always open minded with new or different things so we work well together.

NO WAY! it invites a lot of fights and disagreements. i am only attracted to people i have more in common with. but it wouldnt apply to my current bf. we are very different. im experiencing how things go when opposites come to a commitment. very difficult

"it invites a lot of fights and disagreements."

I agree, Calli Gurl.

It just depends what's "opposite." If it's your values and beliefs on relationships and stuff like that, then that's probably not a good thing, but if it's little stuff like your feelings on sports, I can see how that wouldn't be a problem. But you've got to be compatible, ya know?

i know that if my relationship proceeds to a marriage, it would be VERY difficult for me. Jude C, i agree. it depends on what kind of opposite. in my case, he loves some stuff that i hate and cant stand. u see why its hard for us