I met a guy online who is 21 and single. I just turned 28, and contacted him via Myspace out of curiosity. We became friends and have been chatting casually since March or April. He works in an entertainment-related field, so he has a busy schedule, but we do talk often. But I've never met him offline or talked on the phone with him yet. We exchange photos once in a while, and he says that I look pretty, but I'm guessing he's just being nice to me. I didn't have any romantic feelings towards him at first, but I'm beginning to like him. We seem to have quite a few things in common, and I like the way he talks. He seems to be a good guy, with a warm heart. But I don't know if he feels the same for me. What do you think? Any tips or suggestions for figuring out if he's interested in more?
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Miss Sixty
patience... if the guy likes you he would exert effort to hook up offline.
1I think he would have made an effort by now. I have a feeling he doesn't know that you're interested in him that way, and therefore hasn't really given it a thought. Are there any events or shows that you'd both enjoy that you could invite him out to? Or just ask him out for coffee, then you'll know if he's interested.
2I would take it real slow. Boys (I use that word on purpose as he is not yet a man)at that age are um.. pretty um.. gung ho and I'm thinking if he were really interested, he would have made a move by now. Since he hasn't and you aren't sure about his feelings I have to agree with Pistil, you need to make a move. A very gentle move, you don't want to scare him. I had something similar happen to me a long time ago. I was 26 and he was 18. We flirted a lot but I knew he was too shy to ask me out. I knew from talking with him that he liked to fish and so did I so I asked him to take me fishing. We had a nice 5 month relationship, sex was phenomenal but the conversation was dull. I hope you won't be too disappointed in that area, young boys are not very mature so as long as you're just in it for sex, awesome! Other than that, I don't recommend it. You never know though, maybe you'll get lucky.
3I agree with the above comments. If he's interested, you'd know, but he could be the shy type. You should definitely make a small move -- Just a casual hint, and see what happens. If he doesn't react or respond to you the way you'd like, maybe the age difference is the problem. At 21, guys are still very much boys. Also, if it doesn't work out the way you'd like, at least you guys can be friends! Good luck!
4I agree with the everyone above. At the same time, 21 yrs old is really young. At 24 yrs old, I will have some reservations dating someone at that age. They haven't come into their own yet and may not have the maturity that you seek. Either way, if he wanted to meet you, he would've made the effort. So, wait a bit but not too long.
5If you want to meet offline than tell him. I agree with the others that if he wanted to meet he probably would have made a move to do so by now but you never know. You only know him online so if he rejects you than it's not a big deal. Just don't go into this thinking you're going to have a long term relationship, you're not going to find a 21 year old guy that wants to be married right away(or at least it would be hard.) He may already be in a relationship and is talking to you for companionship or you're giving him the novelty factor or something else that his girl isn't. Go for it but make sure that you're not going to be the other woman.
6Are you kidding? This guy has had as many as six months to meet you and he hasn't wanted to. You know the answer.
7I don't think he's interested.
8Assuming you guys live in the same area, mention a really great bar or restaurant that you like and casually ask if he'd like to meet you there sometime if he's not too busy. If he says no and makes no mention of ever meeting up, you have your answer.
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