haha guilty!
and i do it with his sister too!

I have. My ex's parents adored me and I was really close to his family. So, yeah I b*tched about him to his mom and sisters a few times. When we broke up his sister sent me a somewhat nasty email (because she obviously had only gotten his side of the story) so I responded back to her explaining to her that the reason I left was because her "worlds greatest brother" was a horrible boyfriend and liar and a cheat.

If I have a problem with my bf I deal with it between us. I don't like to get anyone else invovled.

i b*tch to his mom all the time....but i don't do it to make him shape up...its just for my entertainment only. seriously..venting is all it is.

Hell no. I don't b*tch to anybody about my husband. I complain directly to him! Besides, to me, that's like talking badly about my husband behind his back, even if it's to his Mom. I wouldn't want him to do that to me, so I wouldn't do to him.

His Mom invited me to call her if I was ever unhappy about her son, but I haven't taken her up on her offer. It was kind of her, but like I said, I prefer to go straight to the source. LOL

No way!

I would never do this, how stupid. Plus I am so private about personal stuff even with my family that I would freak out. I had someone I was just dating call my mom when one of my good friends past away and get way too involved, it was a long time ago but it pissed me off.

I've never involved his mom in anything really personal (like complaining about him not doing his share of work), but we have shared a few conversations about some of his minor (and humorously endearing) character flaws.

My boyfriend phoned my mom when he found out I was cutting myself. I guess it was the right thing for him to do. It was effective- I never cut again.

When I saw this, I got pissed off because my little sister's boyfriend, who is 19, ALWAYS ALWAYS calls my stepmom to tell her what my sister is doing wrong, or tell her she yelled at him. I mean come on..those are immature stupid reasons. But I say, if it was something serious like the comment above me, then I can see why the call was made. But not for reasons like he calls.

No WAY, I'd never come between a guy and his mom - even if I were married, it'd be the very, very last resort.

Yes! I did this many times with my ex-boyfriend. He wasn't doing his University work so I told her over IM. She asked me though first. Then she wanted to know about his drinking so I told her honestly about that too.

His parents were sh*tty though, they'd use it against him sometimes. He deserved it though, he's a lazy one!

Hmm ummm. I get along with his mom great but I haven't ever confided in her about our personal issues. I might if it's something big and I feel in over my head though.

Its been a last resort type of thing. She does it with me too though. I was horrifed when I found out that he still hadnt done some of the thank you notes from the wedding (just a few, but important ones, like the one to his mother's BEST FRIEND- I only asked him to do the notes to his guests) and no amount of reminding on my part was going to get him to do them- so yeah I told his mom, bc I knew she would be SO embarrassed, she was pretty slick about it though, she told him that the friend had mentioned it- which embarrassed him enough to get it done.

And she recruited me to get him into his last class he needed to get his college degree- he just kept putting it off for various reasons- so our powers combined we got him into the class.

I wouldnt rat him out about personal issues between us though- thats weird. I love my MIL, we get long really well- b*tching about her son wouldnt make her like me.

i think that it depends on what you're talking about. there have been a few times that i really wanted to have a conversation with his mother - my fiance has some more significant issues to work through that i know that myself alone can't fix - and i hoped that maybe his mom could help but then i thought better and realized that he wouldn't receive that well, and although it may be good for him, i'm not strong enough on my own to deal with the reprocussions.

All the time. It's the only way to make sure he eats right.

I did once, post-breakup, but only because the creep's mother wouldn't stop calling me on his behalf, trying to get us back together. He was pretty much a sociopath, and to get his mom to wise up and leave me alone, I told her exactly what he was and said that if I ever heard from her again I'd get a restraining order for both of them. Haven't heard from her since

it depends on what it is. i would tell the mother if he was doing drugs or something like that. otherwise, no. thats really dumbass thing to do. sister is fine, but mom? no