My boyfriend and I text ALL the time. I absolutly HATE talking on the phone, so texting is great for me. Its great for while we are at work and not able to talk on the phone. Like today..we are trying to make plans for what we are doing this weekend...I heard on the radio about a car show thats going on, so I just sent him a text asking him if he would want to go and he sent me one back as soon as he got a break from work. It works fine for us.

I HATE texting. I also don't necessarily like talking on the phone but if I don't want to talk to someone than I use my magical voice mail. It is just another way in which people have gotten lazy. When people send me a text I usually just call them back.

i love texting sometimes, but i agree dating via text is annoying
it's hard to get a feel for someone's intention and tone when they're texting, so when you don't know the person that well, it can really be hard
anyway my boyfriend and i text all the time (ie: when we're at work and can't talk on the phone, and when we just need to send a quick message like "i'm on my way, be there in 15 minutes" or something)...but he still calls me every night, so i appreciate that a lot!

My boyfriend and I txt and call each other all the time. I think for men txting is less intimidating then picking up the phone and talking. So they can just send a "hey what's up....I had a great time" without it seeming too formal and seriuos. But my boyfriend txts me that he misses me and wishing me a good day all the time..then we still talk every day on the phone. I like the combo

skigurl...are we dating the same man...hhaha

CYL.

Anywayz, my boy and I text ALL the time. We really don't like talking on the phone unless it's an emergency.

While text messages shouldn't replace all phone calls, they can definitely be a great aid in communication. I'd definitely prefer to receive a short and sweet text at 3am, as opposed to an obnoxious phone call so early in the morning! Texts can definitely work for you, but if you use them for everything they'll be working against you.

Kinda a moot point for me cause I just had my texting turned off... up here in Canada some companies just started charging for incoming texts (big hoopla)

But, yeah, already gotten into trouble from it from a guy I dated a couple times. He apparently sent me a few messages and got REALLY ticked when I didn't respond. But he got ticked really easily... hence why he got no more dates haha

Ohhh so llaaaaazzzzyyy!
Lazy men = not worth it

I understand texting if you are travelling and dont want to pay roaming but as a woman i would kill somone if they didnt think i was worth the call.

I think texting is great! Even for dating. Phone calls can be awkward at the beginning and would rather get a "hey, I had fun" text than suffer through a phone conversation. Not that everything should be done by text--phone calls are good for making plans.

My bf & I are in a LDR and text a lot. I think it's cute to get a message in the middle of the day--when you're at work or somewhere else you can't talk. it's a little hey, I'm thinking about you reminder.

oh yah, thats the other problem: when you don't actually recieve texts! that's happened to me a couple times, which kinda sucked!

and CYL, it's a good system though, right? who wants to recieve a phone call every morning, noon, and night just saying "hope you're having a good day, miss you!"

Predate, I think it's fine as long as it isn't excessive (though it certainly isn't very romantic!).

When you're in a relationship, I think it rocks. This is how my fiance and I stay in touch all day at work. We can't pick up the phone and talk, but thanks to text and IM, we're pretty much always communicating

yes skigurl its an excellent system. My boyfriend always txts me after he gets off work to let me know what he is doing and that he'll call me later...or that he misses me and or whatever.

And ya missed txt can cause major drama "What do you mean you didnt' get my txt I have to work late and plans are cancelled?!" Damnit!

I think it's ok to text when in a relationship already...b/c you don't always have time for a phone call and texting helps keep a connection.

But when you don't know someone and are dating or just getting to know each other it's just rude, annoying, and lazy.

Ahhhhh...this is so annoying to me right now. When you are already in a relationship and have known each other for awhile, fine, but when you are just starting out....NO!!! It's like two different people...I dated this guy for a couple of months and he would send me flirty/randy texts all day, but in person, he was SOOOO shy, it was so stupid! If they can't call, I just take that as they are not REALLY interested anyway.

hubby and i were long distance for a while b4 we got married, we did a wholee lootttaaaa txting

I rarely ever text. I think it's faster and more effective to just make a phone call. Sometimes though, it's great when you don't feel like calling and being all, "Hi! How are the kids?" or whatever.

I detest technology sometimes...I really, really do. I get beyond repulsed if a guy I'm interested in can't even pick up the damn phone to CALL me. Maybe this sounds harsh, but I'm so sick and tired of the ball-less men out there who are too freakin scared to have any contact that doesn't involve a computer screen, key pad, or AOL screen name. Honestly, I have no problem letting a guy know that a text message does NOT constitute a date inquiry. Having said that, once you are in a committed relationship, I think texting is a great way to send a little naughty message while at work or something cutesy when you're bored. I get really peeved when my friends text instead of call. This sounds really hostile, but it's a topic I'm QUITE passionate about. ENOUGH OF THE TEXTING IN THE DATING WORLD! Geeze.

Well said, Alyssa. What the hell happened to a guy calling a woman a few days in advance to ask her out on a date? Now ALL i get is a text, "hey, do you want to hang out tonight?" Umm...what? NOOOOOOOooo...I don't want to "hang out" or "watch a movie." Get an f-ing clue!!!! Oh, and I have plans till Christmas so you might want to call a couple days before....unless you're REALLY something.

Holy tirade!!! LOL

I think a friend of mine got dumped via txt msg...now THAT was crappy

I read somewhere once that it's important to do the things you did when you first met in order to keep the relationship alive.. So yeah, we text, email, and go out for drinks to mingle with our friends at our favorite club sometimes. (well, he doesn't drink, but he gets me free drinks because he used to work there.) If I notice we're not texting or emailing or conversing about things that pulled us together, then I try to throw it in the mix again.

i don't think some text messages here and there are bad... especially if there a lil flirtatious. BUT i don't think it should take place of having a conversation here and there. i'm not much for the phone but i wouldn't like that all our conversations in between dates is via text message. i still feel that when you start dating - text messaging can be a lil impersonal.

I used to be a text 'wh*re'. I still text a lot, but rarely do I initiate a conversation through it. I hate cell phones in general. They have become an evil necessary though. E-mail, internet, voice mail, texting.. all of its on my phone. I despise when guys text me instead of calling me; but I guess it makes some sense. I work 20 hrs a day.. and can maybe talk an hour combined through that. However... My mom has no trouble getting ahold of me!

..see the thing is.
its easier to communicate via text msg but sometimes things get interpreted the wrong way. i prefer phone calls anyway..

It doesn't take much effort to call someone. If he can't even do that then he's not worth my time.

I rarely call people nowadays. Texting is fine.

My ex loves texting. I only love texting when i don't want to talk to the person... so i guess that explains the break up...

Texting for me depends on where the relationship is. For a potential relationship, its best to build trust and by building trust hearing someone’s voice often is very vital. It helps you to learn their standard tone or when he is joking or being sarcastic. This allows you to get a sense of if the person is truly available to date, by paying attention when he is texting and when he is calling you on the phone (Does he only call in the day time, and text sporadically in the evenings). This helps you narrow down if he really taking you serious and not just texting you whenever the mood strikes.

A person should hold a conversation audio (Meaning when they are both on the phone together) more than communicating by text. Him taking out the time to pick up the phone ensures me it’s possible that he may be taking this new friendship serious. I think it falls in the category of text etiquette. Hearing a person voice helps builds a connection and can strengthen it as well.

Texting is great because it's easy for times when you can't talk on the phone. It's okay for solidifying plans but not for making them. It's not okay for wooing me because it's not going to work. I like a quick text every now and then but I'm not down for long text conversations when we both could easily be talking on the phone. It's fun for talking when one or both of you are at work or otherwise can't talk but don't hold serious conversations by text (not that on the phone is too much better). I'm not going to be impressed by something you said in a text that you can't or won't say on the phone or to my face.

Texting is fine and fun if you're sort of established as a dating couple, but before that I think it's impersonal. I want the guy I'm seeing to want to talk to me, get to know me, hear my voice and me hear his voice.....That's the person you're dating, not a cell phone.

My fiance and I text alot. Since we're in a long distance relationship its not always easy for us to call whenever we would like, so texting is a much better option in between phone calls and video calls on skype.

texting someone you know already is one thing, but GETTING to know someone thru texting is bizarre to me......how can you really get to KNOW someone if youre NOT spending time WITH them, talking TO them, BEING in their presence, not just mentally and emotionally, but physically as well. Text dating seems creepy, bc its so depersonalized....words are words......they do and mean different things to different people, depending on WHO said them.....SPOKE them, not hastily texted them while they are multitasking, putting the other persons importance to the side. its unnatural.....you're communicating w someone you dont know yet without being in their actual presence. thats different than relying a text to someone you KNEW already, The text is a tool to quickly pass info to others, not to get to KNOW them well. reading someone's words, or even books, doesn't equate to really knowing them. Neither is text dating or computer dating. its not fully real....you should be communicating this way w someone you already know, not vise versa.

I HATE texting and it's a deal breaker when I first start dating someone. Texting something quick that doesn't need a reply is fine but that's about it. Call me old fashioned...

I'm not a phone person at all, so I like texting. I think it's cute at the beginning when you've had your first date and he texts to see if you got home all right. Of course it shouldn't replace phone calls, but it's a nice supplement. I've been with my guy 5 months and we text all the time-- only time we're on the phone really is to let him know something, we don't call each other just to chat. I talk to him all day at work on gchat and when we get home we text so... it works out better for us. We're just not phone people. It's funny-- we talked on the phone a hell of a lot more in the beginning. Hmm.

omg, i'm doing this with a guy right now. and i must say i like it. i'm not one for a bunch of phone-talking. i like the face to face, and those too-common lulls in the conversation over the phone can really burn out the desire for someone. so i prefer quick, to the point flirty texts. it breezes past all the niceties and gets right to the "you're hots."

i thought i was the only one who did this!

I just got a phone that is capable of sending texts. Anyway, since that point, I have gone out on 2 dates. Everything for the first one was arranged via text, with the exception of a 1 or 2 minute phone call. Had I spoken to him longer on the phone I would have realized there was no chemistry and saved myself some valuable time. Another thing that was annoying was that he booked dinner at an expensive restaurant (his choice, not mine), so naturally I expected he was treating. It's a bit embarrassing when your date shrieks $500!!! when the bill comes. I threw him a handful of money and walked out. What a loser!!!

Now, this second date, I am not sure if there is any connection. I liked him when we met, but because he has been only texting me since then (just over a week since I saw him last), my interest is dying fast. If he is still interested he had better call me because looking at some words on a screen really isn't doing it for me. I have forgotten the sound of his voice and I am losing interest in him fast. If he is too afraid to call me then he had better borrow someone’s cajones and call me soon. I'm not playing this texting game anymore. I don’t get it, if he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t text but if he is really interested in me this is about the last way to win me over.

Ever since these dating sites and texting have become so popular people are so afraid to meet someone the old fashioned way – by having an actual conversation. It’s hard to believe that it wasn’t that long ago that men and women actually met each other randomly in public, and called each other to arrange to meet. And for all you kids out there who don’t remember the Golden Age of Dating, I am not 50 years old! I just turned 31.

I am boycotting texting.