Call around to find a great deal on a local hotel on a weeknight, when they're much cheaper. Even fancy places like the Anniversary Inn charge as little at $79 during the week. Rent a risque movie, bring your swim suits to soak in a hot tub and a bottle of cheap champagne or wine.

Or, jump his bones somewhere unexpected - in your living room before dinner, etc. Read something racy to get in the mood first.

i agree. you can definitely find places that are relatively inexpensive. or try to plan around your schedules where you can be home alone for a few hours and get creative in the bedroom.

Who needs an expensive hotel room when you have park benches and blankets on the beach and bathroom stalls at your favorite restaurant! How bout the back of a car? Time to get adventurous! But bring condoms and sanitizer and a towel jsut in case.. also, do it at night, not during the day for obvious reasons.

*hums 'i wanna make love in this club'...*

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

honestly if I found a relationship fizzling after only six months, I would jump ship.

hithatsmybike that's exactly what I was thinking ... we're at the 5 year mark and talking about how to vamp up our sex life. At six months I think we were still tearing each other's clothes off.

On that note, you could always try a 'date night' where you agree a time and place to meet, get into character and pretend like you've just met. It can help get back the excitement of when you first got together, and it keeps you on your toes instead of having the same old conversations.

Catch him completely off guard. I agree to try something more adventurous AND risky! The thought of getting caught will always up the excitment!

Buy a vibrator/cock ring/sex toy and bring it into the bedroom.
At 6 months and you are having a fizzling sex life though...? Really?
:/

hmmm... at 6 months if it's fading - that's tough. My last relationship faded in the bedroom, but after a couple of years...

wow...my thoughts exactly! we just had our 6 month anni yesterday and still have a fabulously active sex life...hmmm. anyways, why don't you try to go away for a night, being in a different atmosphere will totally ignite the sexuality and sparks!

...everything passes and that, love, real love, means weathering the storms and emerging stronger as a result...

yea I am with hithatsmybike...
I've been going strong with my bf for about 2 years now and the sex is still amazing!!! Seriously...it's spine tingling!!!

I think monotony is inevitable when you're doing it in his bedroom with his mom right next door...
Its not exactly a place to get very "creative" per se... so I wouldn't think it is time to jump ship... just find a place where you can be completely alone and free to do whatever you want... Im sure if you had this kind of opportunity on a regular basis you'd have a completely different sex life

I looked at this post yesterday and thought exactly what hithatsmybike had the courage to say out loud lol.

I mean, it's natural for the sex life to wind down over time and my BF and I don't get it on as much as we did in the beginning, but even after 3.5 years, sex with my boyfriend is still as hot as it's ever been.

If you get married you only get one dude to screw for the rest of your life. I would be careful about being with someone where the sex life is on it's way out so early.

six months and it is already monotonous?!!!

6 months and it's monotonous? We're at 5 years and it's just now starting to dwindle. We're working on it though!

How about texting/IMing/emailing him sex fantasies all day - with all that build-up, you guys should be on the verge of explosion by the time you finally meet in the bedroom... I don't think passion is about kinky stuff, I think it's about the desire you have before you even get to the bed. As my Dad always says, "the best part of sex is walking up the stairs." (Thanks Dad for all the invaluable life lessons!)

So... make sure you walk up those figurative stairs slowly undressing, winking, caressing, and whispering what you want to do to each other. I wouldn't go to the cock rings and vibrators and cliché stuff like that - then what? In six months, you'll be tired of THOSE. To keep the flame burning, you have to maintain it by slowly blowing on it (pun semi-intended) - and that's no raunchy slutty business in my opinion; it's all about ANTICIPATION.

I'd start by sending a picture of my tee-shirt. Then an hour later, a picture of my tee shirt slightly pulled down. Then a bit more. Then 3 hours later, a little peekaboo. Get my drift? By evening, he's got the whole boob and a raging hard on.

(also, that's just great stuff for long distance relationships, if that's what you guys are headed for - how do you think I kept my guy on edge for a year and a half?! Not with a f*cking vibrator!)

You def need some good alone time. When I am like this with my hubby if we are driving somewhere i'll tell him want to pull over to get it on!! Its the best sex ever. heehee...try itxoxo Yadie

I agree with the others. 6 months and your sex life is boring? How long have you been having sex in your relationship? It sounds like you do the same thing all the time. Different positions? I mean, there are too many different things you can do with your sex life to get bored in 6 months. I've been with my husband almost 2 years now and we're still very passionate. (Though, we just got married 11 days ago and are going on our honeymoon tomorrow . That helps.) We have a physical and emotional attraction with each other. Maybe you don't click as well as you think? Food for thought, friend.

aww congrats susanteufel!!!

i dont think its right to think about it as "already going down hill after just 6 months?!?!" under these circumstances. if his mother is lying in bed right next door.. it can get a little akward i suppose.

find a small hotel thats cheap, there should be quite a few. even though youre broke.. less that 100 should be eas enough to find for a night, and... it WILL be money well spent

the real problem here is his mother!
obviously ur having quiet "dont move, the bed will creak", mute sex!
thats never fun
and i like karlotta's suggestions

i dont think its bad that its dwindling after 6 months!! dont jump ship, thats just dumb.
my boyfriend and i had sex atleast once a day for the first 4-5 months... then after 6 months, he bought me a 6 week old puppy which kept us getting up every hour of the night and having trouble falling asleep due to the whining... and after all that, our sex life went wayyyyyyyyyyyyy downhill... we're still together a year later but its gone from once a day to once a week. (working makes us tired)
Anyways, all that to say dont worry!

Ladies there is no need to be SO judgemental. Not EVERYONE has a fantastic sex life all the time or any of the time! Give her a break.

I dont have any tips to revamp a sex life as mines in the toilet and I'm trying to do this myself... after 10 months! Although figuring out what works and what doesnt helps, as in stress DEFINITELY doesnt help me or my partner, so weekends are sometimes the best as we are both relaxed. And having a long bath helps me get in the mood or watching a racy video or reading an erotic story. Its important to take the time to figure out what works for you - suggestions are great and try all of them
~Gem

I feel like this question would be posed much differently if our friend here thought that the sex was unbearable. I imagine that if the main location for a romp is in Mom's house, it would be difficult to really get in sync - obviously this girl waaants to get this guy's clothes off and wants our advice to make it more fun.

Being a penniless college student myself, I can see where a one night hotel thing might be too hard a hit on the wallet. Perhaps what money you do have would be better spent on a pleasurable "kit" - many erotic stores carry the lovers' version of the gift basket - oils, feathers, flavored dust... things you can use again and again, and make things more interesting without letting madre in on the big secret. Still too expensive? You can probably find things around the house - both edible and ticklish. Honey, wine, a soft scarf... think outside the box.

I also agree with what the others said about different locations - be it more public or just other rooms in the house. It makes things more urgent, and gives you something to fantasize about while you're at school, "listening" during a lecture. And Karlotta, good call on the anticipation. No need to elaborate on that.

Good luck, and let's be supportive! Everyone's sex life is different. Good for you for coming to your fellow sugars for advice - I know I'm going to keep everyone's answers in mind during my future sexcapades.

Karlotta's advice is REALLY good.... go Karlotta!

I didn't mean to judge - I'm definitely not in a position myself to judge anyway, I mean our dying out only took a year and a half or so. Though, it is something to think about. I learned that the intellectual-conversation, emotional, and physical connections all have to be strong for it to be mind-blowing. A cock ring won't do it...

I agree with K8 and karlotta. karlotta's right:that's the stuff that keeps long distance going.

Just shake it up. You don't have to go somewhere different. Wear something unexpected even if it's something you already own in a different way. Style your hair different. Make the bed really inviting and try out a new position. It doesn't have to be so crazy because that is the stuff you're supposed to do and that makes it feel too forced for me. Just have fun and try something different.

Now now ladies, no need to rag on her for having a boring sex life. I mean, look at her situation. He lives at home with his mother. You can't exactly get crazy if you're trying to be quiet and that is bound to get boring. If you can't spring for a good deal at a hotel/inn, try getting it on in the car... just be mindful of where you choose to park because that could interrupt things pretty fast.

And if you don't like those ideas... coordinate a time to come over when his mom's not home, or have him come over when your roommates (if you have them) aren't in. Who knows, maybe the thrill of getting caught would enhance things!