This scenario is ever present on TV, (LC, Lo, and Audrina for instance) but having to pick sides between friends is not a far stretch from reality. It's inevitable that friends fight, they may even have to break up, but when you're an innocent bystander, you often times suffer as well. If you've ever been in this situation, you know how it feels to be pulled in different directions and how difficult it can be to remain neutral. And unfortunately, in extreme cases, you're almost forced to pick sides. It seems perfectly normal to choose a side after a romantic breakup, but it seems like a lose-lose when it comes to friendships. So have you ever had to choose one friend over another? If so, tell us how you coped.
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Yes! My roommate in college and the girl who lived in the room next door. But my roommate was being the b*tchy one, so I moved out.
1Yes! It's horrible and I've been dealing with it for months now.
2If I'm friends with both people, I never pick sides. Luckily most of my friends have been mature about that. I'd have a real problem if one of my friends 'demanded' that I choose between them and the other person.
3I think there will be a lot of dorm situations. My sophomore year of college (last year haha), I lived in an all girls dorm, and a small group of us picked rooms in one end of the wing, all to ourselves.
4Well that worked until on of the girls, we'll call C, started being rude to just about everyone so my roommate K and I ended up taking the side of the girl, L, living across the hall from C. Ugh. Girl A ended up going to the side of C while C's roommate left the floor completely! Now C and A are living together, and K and L are living together and I've gotten out of the situation all together!
In the middle of this now as one of the friend's breaking up... and I'm trying my very best to ensure that none of our mutual friends feel even a moment of awkwardness let alone pressure to choose sides. But it's there unfortunately.
Only ever dealt with this on a romantic relationship and that seemed to work out... awkward for while but worked out... hoping this one follows suit.
As for being on the outside looking in, as lizkiernan said... if I'm friends with both I stay friends with both
5yes. I was living with a few other girls. They had been best friends for over 10 years when I met them. I instantly became close with both of them and we were all best friends for about 2 years. When one of the girls decided to move out of the house,without really giving anyone any notice. Which really put a rift between the two of them because we were letting her stay there for free and the other girl felt like she had been seriously used.(even though she knew that she would only be staying there until she could get her own place) So they had a big falling out and I was caught in the middle. I told them both that I wasnt going to take sides, but they were both constantly bad mouthing the other to me. I eventually moved out of the house. I still keep in touch with the one that moved out, but kind of had my own falling out with the other one, over something completely unrelated.
6Yes, definitely - and it was with the friend I was closest to, but I loved my other friends as well, so I tried to bridge to gap. I still see them, but mostly separately, and they all live in a different state now anyway.
7gah! yes.
8I'm not really friends with people who are friends with each other. I like to have one friend and not really get to know her other friends unless they are amazing people. It saves me from having to get in the middle later.
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