Yes, I've snooped and I ended up being correct in my suspicions, although I didn't confirm them via snooping. The problem with snooping is that you usually only find ambiguous things that make you worry even more. You hardly ever get "hard" evidence of wrong doing.

The chronically cheating husband always went through the "Why are you going through my phone ANYWAY?" shpiel with me. Well, *sshole, because I find something every damn time! What's weird, is it's not like I would go through his phone regularly. Once a year, he would start acting psychotoically and I'd pick it up again. *sigh*

Yeah, my ex a few years back left his e-mail open with all of these love letters to and from his recent ex-girlfriend. Then he lied to me about what her name was. I'm glad I snooped, it's his fault for leaving it sitting open on my computer screen - and I caught his cheating ass.

yes, I've snooped, and I found the answers I needed. Sometimes its the only way to find the truth, because he obviously isnt going to tell you that he's calling his ex 3 times a day.

No. I've never snooped and vow I never will. I value privacy in relationships, they go hand in hand with honor and loyalty. I void jealousy at all cost and therefore I've never been that insecure enough to do something so slimy. I actually kinda pity women who are that insecure. I've plenty of girl friends who snoop on their boyfriends personal items. I always just think to myself how painful it must be to be them; having such low self esteem that they have to lower themselves to that level.

I suppose if I thought my lover was having an affair, his actions and mannerisms would show all in time and I'd simply ask him. I'm not intimidated by honesty.

So yea, I'm not on the 5th grade. I don't need to look through peoples private items to put point a & point b together.

"No. I've never snooped and vow I never will. I value privacy in relationships, they go hand in hand with honor and loyalty. I void jealousy at all cost and therefore I've never been that insecure enough to do something so slimy. I actually kinda pity women who are that insecure. I've plenty of girl friends who snoop on their boyfriends personal items. I always just think to myself how painful it must be to be them; having such low self esteem that they have to lower themselves to that level.

I suppose if I thought my lover was having an affair, his actions and mannerisms would show all in time and I'd simply ask him. I'm not intimidated by honesty.

So yea, I'm not on the 5th grade. I don't need to look through peoples private items to put point a & point b together."

LOL..wow. Because sooo many guys would just be like "Oh yeah, since you asked nicely, I f*cked 3 different girls this week" Right. I'm in a relationship now where I have no reason to snoop on him, because I know hes being honest with me and I have no reason to be suspicious of him. But in the past, I have been in relationships where I had a gut feeling that he was not being 100% honest with me and snooping was the only way to get the truth and as soon as I got the truth and confirmed my suspicions, I left.(and believe me I tried asking, but guess what? It got me nowhere, because any guy who is going to cheat is obviously not loyal enough to be honest about it!) I dont see how that means I have low self esteem or how thats being "slimy" I think its just being smart and using what you have to get the answers you need.

I agree allourregrets....I have snooped only once in all of my relationships, because I suspected he was with his ex, and I asked him to his face about it. Of course he was cheating so he denied it! You are so right that he isn't going to come right out and say.."Yeah I have been f***ing this b*tch the whole time we have been together" So I did snoop through his text messages, and it turns out that I was 100% right.

I had never snooped before and am in a relationship where I don't feel the need to snoop now....I am not a jealous or insecure person, and I do not believe it makes a person jealous and insecure unless you are doing it on a regular basis all the while never finding anything.

Seriously about 80% of you ladies snooped! That is appalling! No wonder everyone here has tons of guy problems.

Stacey Cakes and angelinamichael - let's calm down on the judging, huh? From the people that have commented and said they did, it sounds like they had their reasons. Maybe the guys in question are dogs, it's not that the women are weak. Possible, huh?

That said, I've never snooped myself but I've been very tempted to. I'm a very curious person by nature and opportunities have presented themselves before. Like my long distance boyfriend gave me his cell phone account information so I could text him online for free, and I could have accessed his bill. It was very very tempting, but I had no reason to suspect him of anything - it was just having that easy access that got me - and he demonstrated how much he trusted me (and how little he had to hide) by giving me that information so I stayed out of it. My mouse kept hovering over that bill though!

ugh, people need to get off their high horse. nooooow. To "pity women who are that insecure" makes you seem very smug. If we are going in that direction, I pity people who feel the need to mock others for their insecurities.

I have snooped and I hate myself for it (even in the moment), but I will be the first to admit that my emotions get the best of me sometimes.

one guy I was dating several years back had checked his e-mail on my laptop, gotten distracted, and left it open. He'd been really mean and I knew something was up so I went digging for evidence - which I found, and confronted him. I wouldn't snoop just for the sake of snooping, though. It IS an invasion of privacy.

I used to with a previous boyfriend (nothing came out of it, though), but I've never once felt the urge with my fiance. He could leave his email and myspace open on the computer and I'd never feel compelled to even glance.

I will truthfully admit that I never have, I would feel WAY too awkward doing it.

rudeness! maybe my ex shouldn't have left his e-mail open on the screen when I went to turn off my laptop! it's not like I had to search and anyway, HE was the cheater!

whatever- i snoop, my husband knows i do...it's not that i don't trust him, i'm just curious i'm baffled by the women who don't take a peek every once in a while!

Yes, hasn’t everyone at one point or another?

tweet hotpants- same here
but its not even snooping. sometimes i'll just go thru his phone in front of him. so he's like, what the hell if shes gonna do it so am i so he does too

I agree with tweethotpants and Sun_Sun . . . I do trust him, but I'm a very curious person anyways. He lets me on his computer, he gives me his passwords, he watches me on his phone . . . and he knows he's welcome to mine any time.

Lol I'm sorry but to the person who stated that women who have snooped have low self esteems...get real. It's called intuition. Everyone has it. We all feel when something is off or when something doesn't seem right. I really think you need to get off your high horse and not judge these women. They had their reasons and were validated in what they felt. I understand being innocent until proven guilty but when you feel in your gut that something's wrong, you're going to try to find out what that "something" is. It's just how it is. How many times have people lied about whatever it was they were accused of? People lie EVERYDAY. I dunno, I guess you're that gullible.

I snooped with my ex boyfriend. I'd never really felt complelled before him. I found out he was dating two other girls when he got together with me AND he'd cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend too. He still behaves like this. He is currently dating two girls and prowling for more and I am glad I am far away from that situation!

With my boyfriend I don't feel I need to check anything he does. I trust him 100%.

i don't snoop. EVER. infact, if i'm ever in the position i feel really uncomfortable and run away. i'm afraid of finding something i don't want to know...so basically i'm choosing to be ignorant.

I have--and you do get the answers you want. But occasionally, you find something that you were better off not knowing. It's a risk you take if you have suspicions.

I snooped and hated myself for it, but I felt I needed answers. At least I didn't find evidence of cheating! Also it marked a turning point in our relationship where I said, look, I don't want to be with someone where I feel like I have to do detective work to figure out what's going on - and he said you're right, let's get it all out in the open. It highlighted a gambling problem that could have gotten out of hand and I really dread what might have happened if I didn't have some evidence with which to confront him. He was hiding it from himself as much as from everyone else.

I am not someone who naturally snoops. If I feel like something is up, then I will, and everytime I have, I have been dead on except once! I have once with my current boyfriend, because something didnt feel right...he got a phone call and all of a sudden decided to he was going to visit a guy friend which is uncharacteristic of him....so when he went to take a shower, I checked the phone...and I was wrong, he was telling the truth, and I felt horrible. I haven't since, but haven't felt the need to either.

I don't snoop...I would be so pissed if my bf snooped into my stuff! Once in awhile we look through each others phone, but it's not because I think he's doing anything bad. We'll just be laying on the couch and I just pick it up or something...

I trust him.

I snooped and found out my best friend was emailing my boyfriend lies and negative things about me (she introduced us)

My relationship later ended (i suspect) because of more of her influence

Im glad i did snoop so i didnt have to wander what i did wrong as i was never told what did inface go wrong

yep and i found out what i was looking for

I had a sneaking suspicion and I did snoop and found what I was looking for. Even when I confronted him, he still denied and acted like he didn't know what I was talking about.

I did snoop. But I did find an email from his ex that really hurt me because he didn't tell me about it. The email was just her "letting go of him" I guess it was the only way for her to get closure! But it still hurt that he didn't tell me about it. And let me say I only snooped because she had been texting him alot so I wanted to know if there was anything else going on.

I snooped because I felt something wasn't right, something was going on and I wasn't sure what. And I was right. So there was no guilt on my part.

I have snooped into my BF open email. i found a dear john letter he emailed me once before we got back together, i also found other emails to other women in his past. why does he need to have those? , i am not sure. cant ask. i have figured out how to get to his myspace page and looked through that. i am just curious. i have found out he had mail from dating sites and i went to those profiles to see how recent his activities were. so i found nothing suspicious but my curiousity got the better of me. i also found pictures of past girlfriends whom he said were gorgeous. NOT!!!!i know snooping is not right but you never know. nothing wrong with keeping on top of things and protecting yourself.

I have. Not a good idea but sometimes you have to. to find out the truth about scum bags! lol.

I don't consider it snooping really...whats mine is his and whats his is mine... he can use my cell phone and I can use his... he can look at my inbox and I can look at his... if you have nothing to hide I don't see the problem.

Bravo, annebreal & MeggyPoodles. I agree 100%!!

When I was with my ex, I obsessively read his wall-to-wall with his ex-gf who I knew he wasn't over... I didn't find anything surprising, but I found out that I was right, he really wasn't over her. It sucks because I figured this out AFTER I broke up with HIM (for a completely different reason), so I just wish I snooped more thoroughly!!!! Wasted so much of my time with someone that didn't love me as much as I thought he did...

My current boyfriend on the other hand, is wonderful . I trust him COMPLETELY. He always cracks jokes when I use his phone, like "well, aren't you gonna check my text msgs?!" because every girl he has been with before has done that and he appreciates the fact that I don't.

Men know that generally women are more insecure, so snooping isn't rare. And like some comments above explain, intuition is very often the reason some of us do it. We're not snooping because we're untrustworthy, insecure b!tches. You can't possibly jump to conclusions on the stories above.
Seriously, don't come here to judge.

Yes, and I felt horrible afterwards. Not because I found anything, but because I didn't. I should have known this person was trustworthy, but I let my own neurosis get to me. I don't think snooping is the kind of thing that pays off - most of the time. A girl I know found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her by spying on his email, but that's the only fruitful snooping story I've heard...so far.

I have felt tempted to snoop but the most I ever did was look through the address book on a partners phone. I was a bit baffled by the amount of girls in there but then I looked through mine and realized that my phones full of numbers as well. And I socialize as much as a hermit does!

Occasionally I do get curious but I usually ask. I know my boy can keep it in his pants so I don't feel urges to make sure he's still mine. He does go through my phone sometimes, I really don't mind.

I agree with k8t. What's mine is his and what's his in mine. Nothing to hide.

I'm the same as tweet pants. I am just really curious and my husband knows that I do it and doesn't change passwords or tell me not to.

I snooped in his phone once after a conversation I had had with him in which I jokingly said we should exchange phones once and check out each other's texts. His eyes went so big and he seemed so relieved when I said I was just kidding. Long time after that, I saw his phone sitting on the table (he is almost never without it) so I took the opportunity to snoop. And guess what, I found some flirty texts between him and an old crush of his (and not so innocent picture exchanges). Of course he tried to turn it around on me and got mad at me for snooping, but he knew he was in the wrong.

designerel - I hope you're not still with him?!

I snooped I knew my ex was an assh*&$ but I wanted to give him a concrete reason for leaving him. He was about to go out of town so I looked through his bag and found pic.'s of him and a mutual female friend. I was very upset but it gave me the courage to give him walking papers its been about 6 yrs and I've never been happier!!!!!!!!