Hello~ I was going through the very same thing myself and ended up breaking things off with my boyfriend earlier this week. I'm struggling with feelings of missing him and that unwelcome anxiety that there is no one out there for me... but I know these are normal feelings to have after a break up and they will fade.

You can't predict the future but staying in a relationship that isn't 100% satisfying is not going to get you anywhere. Listen to what your gut is telling you and have faith that a better match is out there just waiting to meet you. Good luck!

all you can do is be honest with yourself and also with him. just because he's a great guy doesn't mean he is great for you. the longer you prolong a relationship that isn't right for you the worse it will be for you when the inevitable does happen. good luck. and neverrr settle if its not what you want.

It's VERY good you do this now before more feelings get involved. You don't want to be that person who is just in a relationship for the sake of not being alone. There are WAYYYYYY to many guys out there, guys who WILL spark your interest more than the one you're dating now so give yourself some time to be alone, have fun with your girlfriends, and then get out there and mingle mingle mingle! Have fun!

If you're not sure, and you like him, why not continue dating casually until you are sure? Or is pressuring you to get more serious more quickly?

I met this (younger) guy at work who was so much fun and extremely talented in many other ways We went on trips every other weekend as I had my kids on the alternating, but I knew we couldn't have a future together. He didn't want kids and he didn't relate well with mine among various other issues, so we decided we would stay together and enjoy each other for as long as it lasted with the caveat that we would date other people in the interim and if one of us found someone we wanted to get serious with, we would end our fling. Those were two great years, and fortunately I was the one who found someone first and he went to counseling ~ however, he did met someone six months later who really did fit in with his lifestyle (stewardess) and his group of friends and got married and are still happily married without children.

Don't depend on the fear of being alone. You won't get anywhere in life if you let fear rule your decisions! Listen to your gut instinct on this one. Stringing him along would prolong the heartache. I just went through a breakup myself and it does get better and make more sense with time. And if you are meant to be with him, you guys will find each other again. I also highly recommend a few counseling sessions as you're going through this. It really, really helps to have an objective opinion on this sort of thing.

You can do it I promise. I was in a very similar situation with my last boyfriend. He was amazing, kind, made me laugh, gorgeous...but after two years, I just was not in love with him anymore. I thought I would end up alone, and that thought kept me from ending it. I finally got the strength to end things with him, and it was very hard because he was such a great guy, but I wasn't happy. Three months later I met my now-fiance, and I feel so dumb for how i felt. It is very hard to end things when your in a good relationship, but you will not be alone forever and there are many other guys who will be a good match for you that will also be great guys.

You just need to remind yourself that he isn't the one. You know it now that he isn't and it's the most important thing to remind yourself. Many of us are stuck fantasizing about the "one that got away" and the one that could've worked out and it NEVER works out that way. Sometimes it's just nice to know that the relationship ended in a pleasant way and not because the guy cheated on you or abused you. Loneliness will pass. The fact that you have such a clear mind now shows us you have a good head on your shoulders. You'll do just fine!

It sounds like you have your answer and that you are ready to move on. You'll definitely find another relationship - one that you feel more certainty about.

it will happen naturally. its much easier than having your own heart broken. just enjoy your life with your friends and focus on your goals.

You received some excellent advice. Personally, I paricularly agree with Princess_eab and Mn48225. That's my take on your situation exactly.

You have to trust yourself and your inner instinct. This guy is not for you - or at least you know not right now. You can't plan the future of your love life, but being with a guy you know you don't have a future with is definitely a wrong decision.

I am exactly where you are. I know that I am going to break up with a fantastic guy, and although I'm afraid, I know I will know the right time to do it. I'm consoling myself with these thoughts:

-There are many other men out there.
-I am a fantastic girl who'll have no trouble meeting them.
-Our relationship prevents us both from meeting the right people.

You let go because nothing in the world is worse than the feeling of settling for something less than what you want to make someone else happy.

My advice: listen to your gut! I was in a relationship with a guy I knew wasn't the one but I was scared to be alone so I stayed...for 4 1/2 years. We just broke up and I wish we had broken up when I first knew b/c it's even harder now since I prolonged it. The sooner the better! The pain will be all the more excruciating the longer you wait...trust me. I'm seeing a counselor now.

if you even have a DOUBT in your mind....follow it. however, it sounds like you might just be bored with him or feeling restless about your career or personal life.maybe being in a relationship is making you lose focus? don't lose him as a friend bc maybe when you sort your other stuff out he might fit nicely back into the picture.

(ps: i really hope this doesn't mean that your man now is 'great' but 'too good, nice' bc if you're dying to be with that 'bad boy' you're totally going to regret it down the line! trust me on that one!)

When there is doubt...there is no doubt!