You didn't do anything wrong! He sounds incredibly insecure and controlling. Not a good combination.

it seems like he is overprotective and way too controlling. there is nothing wrong with talking to other guys over myspace, it's not like you were flirting with them or telling them you were single or something. he is just really insecure and will end up emotionally hurting you.. i've been in your shoes before and wasn't allowed to hang out with guys when i dated my ex and he made me so unhappy. just talk to him and tell him to calm down but try to be nice about it.

I wouldnt move in with him until your relationship is stable and until he TRUSTS YOU. He is probably going to use your new living arrangements to control you so I would put a halt on the moving until you deal with this gigantic issue. He doesnt trust you and he is totally insecure and a complete control freak. You need to step back and realize that how he is acting is totally inappropriate. Good luck.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

Uh... weren't you telling your male friend how wonderful and terrific your boyfriend is? So why is he furious? Sounds like an overly controlling and paranoid guy. Don't move in with him.

i am sorry but he does seem kinda controlling. if you had your status as single and listed all those "slutty" pics of yourself then maybe he would have something to truly worry about but if you are talking about *him* and he's upset... there are bigger issues that i dont think living together with solve.

good luck

Jeez, I have lots of single male friends and my boyfriend has loads of single girl friends - I don't see the problem with this at all and I think that unfortunately your boyfriend has also brainwashed you in his controlling manner into thinking that this is wrong. Lots of happy couples in long term, committed relationships have single friends. I'd think twice before moving in with him. This event was probably a blessing in disguise!

That's pretty extreme - my boyfriend and I were both jealous to a certain extent but I don't think he ever would have come after me like that for something innocent. He needs to work through this problem, because it is his problem. I wold definitely wait to move in with him. This might get worse.

i'm confused. you told a guy that your boyfriend is awesome? and your boyfriend got mad about it?

wow...if he's acting like that when you talk good about him to another guy...I wouldn't move in with him until he learned to trust me.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having friends of the same sex while you're in a relationship, regardless of whether those friends are single or not. I think your boyfriend is being controlling, selfish and unreasonable. You could even show him the message which PRAISES HIM to prove this point. I think you need to re-assess...do you really want to be in a relationship with, let alone live with, a guy who controls you in that way? Who knows what else he'll get controlling over once you move in together.

What?! Why do some women tolerate behaviour like this?
I dated a guy who was constantly paranoid about me going off with somebody else and would say "you're bored of me, you want to break up with me" ALL the time. It got old FAST I can tell you.

You know what the ironic thing was? He was projecting onto me his own behaviour! He'd been messaging girls behind my back and was the one getting bored of the relationship. ;p

I broke up with him sharpish!

He'll use your living together as a method of control. You have nothing to be sorry for. He needs therapy.

this is his problem. you haven't done anything wrong. i would nix the moving in together & just call it quits. this guy is only going to get more controlling down the road.

This guy is a bit crazy. Run far, far away NOW whilethe running is good.

So you can't talk to other men? Because talking leads directly to cheating of course! Just kidding, actually.

But seriously, that's unreasonable, especially because if he had read the message he would realize that you were gushing over him.

He went off the handlebars over Myspace messages? Who, over the age of 12, really takes myspace seriously? And what would happen if he found out that you were talking to other men every day at your job or at school, or in any other thing in your life that you're involved in? I wouldn't want to stick around to find out. It sounds like he is selfish, controlling and unstable. Don't tolerate this childish behavior, and sure as heck don't move in.

So you tell this guy about your boyfriend and said boyfriend hits the roof? He sounds incredibly controlling and insecure. There's nothing wrong with male friends, if that's all it is: a friendship. I'd reconsider this move, and as a whole, the relationship. This doesn't sound like a good guy, and when you live with him, he's going to become even more controlling.

You guys want to take that amazing, next step in your relationship and move in together but you find yourself arguing over your myspace page? Really? You guys should move into together. It will totally work.

There are so much more important things to quarrel over and have opposing views in relationships and in the world in general. The war in Iraq. The president. The economy. Those are big deals. Not some stupid web page. You guys need to grow up a bit. It's the internet. He needs to get over it.

This guy is controlling and if he isn't abusive already, he will be soon. Moving in with him is a HUGE mistake. YOU are not to blame here. HE IS. He is not normal, and he is not rational.

It is completely acceptable to have friends of the opposite sex. Deleting single ones from Myspace just doens't make sense. If you wanted to cheat, you could do it with a guy from work, from the street, from church, from school, even a guy with a girlfriend, etc. So do you see what I'm saying? This guy is controlling in a very unhealthy way. For your safety, please do not move in with him. It's time to end this relationship.

His freak out could be because he's been doing the same thing. But not in a platonic way, like you were. I had an old bf, that blew up if talked to a man about tomatoes at the grocery store. Guess what? He was cheating on me.

He's emotionally unhealthy. This could lead to emotional/psychological/physical abuse later on. Don't move in with him. He's unstable and that's an understatement.

DON'T MOVE IN!!!

he's controlling and insecure and you will never be able to have any type of life outside of him. How can you agree with him that its inappropriate to have single guys on your myspace. as long as you aren't hceating and having inappropriate conversations with these guys your boyfriend has no right to make you stop talking to your friends. There is nothing wrong with having friends and having your own life. Your relationship is not healthy at all and it will only get worse over time. neither of you are stable or mature enough to be moving in together. he will control your every move and you will never be happy. I'm gunna go ahead and say that you two probably shouldn't even be together let alone moving in with eachother. you need to rethink this situation AND your relationship.

Well, your first mistake was promising to remove every male friend from your myspace, and promising to stop conversing with them.

You should NEVER have agreed to that. Once you did, you technically did break a promise you made to your boyfriend.

I'm not excusing him. He sounds like a total ass. I agree that he's controlling and possibly abusive.

But you also needed to stand up for yourself when he made the ridiculous request in the first place.

Sounds like an incredibly controlling type and from my own experience, it doesn't get better. It may with someone else, but things have gone too far down this path with you and your relationship and it's unlikely he'll ever change. You should be allowed to talk to whomever you please and be able to trust your partner in talking to someone that's singe. If you both are so insecure that you can't talk to someone that isn't attached then you are WAY too attached to each other and it isn't healthy. You are so consumed with the idea of someone stealing away your partner that you're letting it rule your lives. If you have to cease all communication then that isn't really trusting each other, its preventing each other from hypothetically doing something, which clearly shows this not a lasting relationship.

AND if he's blowing up b/c you are speaking to a male friend about how happy you are with HIM then that's really effin bad!

I know from VERY PERSONAL experience that this is a bad path. My ex-fiance did this to me, had me so wound up, and he would flip out on me if I was speaking to a male coworker, back when we were only like 18, and I was a manager at a grocery store so it you know, required you to communicate with both sexes and coworkers/customers. It slowly went from emotional turmoil to emotional abuse, then physical abuse, then cops being called, then me finally kicking him out.

NOW I have an amazing man who I have never had an issue of control over. I say get some support and get out. You sound young and you don't need to live the rest of your life being anxious over speaking to another person. You need to realize not everyone in the world is out to steal your partner and it takes true trust for them not to cheat, not just keeping them away from it. (So of course he's going to blow up b/c he's trying to keep you from it so fiercely that he doesn't know if you're not cheating b/c you love him or that he isn't letting you have the chance...get it?)
It will take a long while to be able to rationalize all of what's going on and be in a healthy, happy secure relationship, but you will get there...AND THIS ISN'T ONE OF THEM:)

It sounds like everyone who has written so far is on the same page as far as advice ~ I couldn't agree more! But it sounds like you are pretty commited to moving in with this guy despite his irrational behavior. I admit it can be fun to live with the guy you are in love with, but sometimes the guy you love isn't really the guy you thought he was but rather a harry monster waiting to take control. I feel for you because I have more male friends than female friends and if I had to give them up it would make me sad and would lay down the foundation for the brick wall that would start to go up between us. I will recommend a book that was recommended to me called "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder" Here is the site where you can actually review inside the book. I would at least read the symptoms to see what you might be in for http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/157224108X/ref=sib_dp_pt#reader-link. Some people just have some of the symptoms but even two would make your life pretty miserable....I know first hand.

Rememeber moving is a lot of work and is expensive.

No wonder he's insecure and controlling, you let him feed into it. I wouldn've handed him his ass the minute he tried to have a say over who i speak to or not.

OH MY GOD - PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HIM.

This is seriously wrong.

Okay, he's already had you stop talking to these guys on myspace that were your friends... Next, he'll be controlling who you hang out with in person... and then he'll disapprove of some clothes you wear... He sounds frightening and controlling, and not awesome as you claim. I don't think you should move in with him. I think you should rethink this relationship.

As everyone has noted, this guy is controlling and insecure. Not a pretty picture at all. You did nothing wrong and he should be the one that puts this to rights. I would not move in with him either as this is probably just a foretaste of things to come (pippins halfling says it well).

This is the kind of guy that women should run hard and fast from - he is a little boy and not a man.

As usual, RockandRepublic goes for the jugular and nails it - never, ever let a man walk all over you! Stand up for yourself!

Wow, thats kind of intense. You didnt really do anything wrong so there isnt anything you should do to make it better. Are you capable of living with a guy like that? If you're at this stage in your relationship he definitely should trust you by now. He has you whipped and pressed firmly under his thumb, sounds like a domineering control freak! With this type of guy I have a feeling that all you need to do now is grovel at his feet, beg for forgiveness, and shower him with compliments and then, and only then, will you be in his good graces again, but do you really want to be with a jerk like that?

I would have told him to go to hell when he told me he doesn't like hanging out or talking to my single friends....friends will be there long after a relaitonship ends and will always be there for you. If you aren't do anything wrong with your single guy friends then screw what he thinks and don't date a guy who tries to control you like that. My boyfriend has his single friends who are girls and i have my single friends who are guys...we trust each other and we can talk/hang out with whomever we want.

These are the signs you are going to look back on when things have gone horribly wrong. You could save yourself the heartache and walk away while you still can. The saddest part is, you probably won't.

You were talking to this guy about how wonderful he was and he flips out? Your boyfriend definitely sounds insecure, controlling and paranoid...maybe moving in with him isnt a good idea considering he's already having issues trusting you and having you move in with him is just a way for him to check up on everything you do.

DO NOT move in with him.

Run, run run! This guy might be hitting you in 3 months, 6 months, a year! Probably a few months from how controlling and insecure he sounds!!

i know this comment is probably totally irrelevant now because this post is over a year old.. but i came across it looking to answers for a problem of my own. i just had a fight with my bf today about an incident that occured a few days ago when i ran into a guy i knew from a few years back and gave them my phone number because he said he lost his phone and all the contacts which were in it. i told my bf i ran into him but we got into this big argument because i didnt mention to him i had a bf and i gave him my phone number.. i explained several times that it wasn't intentional and i had no plans of getting together with him but now he's saying he doesnt trust me.. and that i should have set the record straight...my bf and i ran into this guy months prior and he didnt come up to me just saw me from a distance and nodded.. and my bf thinks that this guy thinks that because he saw me alone this time he was testing the water to see how much i really care about my bf and if i would give him my number... anyways i hope that you were able to solve your problem and move forward in whichever way was best for you. its nice to see so many people comment and give advice to a problem.. just wish i knew how to solve my own..

You broke your promise, despite the (positive) content of the message. That doesn't bode well for him. He's looking for a completely loyal trustworthy girl....not someone who lies or errs due to carelessness. I wouldn't have blown up. I just would have left. Your promises to your boyfriend should be at the forefront of your mind.

As for whether you should get rid of male friends....ask yourself why you want them around still. Determine what function they have in your life, and why your boyfriend can't/doesn't perform it. It probably bothers him that you need them to feel fulfilled. It might strike him as a form of emotional infidelity.