We’ve had many discussions about friends with benefits here. Though many of us think they’re a recipe for disaster, I’m sure an equal number of people find themselves in the midst of one right now. Understandably, the opportunity for emotions to grow is certainly a point against such relationships. But what if you want emotions to get in the way? Some might say that as soon as you find yourself wanting more, you should hightail it out of your “friendly” situation. But maybe it's the perfect opportunity for something to develop, especially if both people feel it. What do you think?
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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Becoming More Than Friends With Benefits
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i've never been in this situation, so i guess i don't really know, but why can't you try it out and see what happens? as long as both parties are honest and on the same page, it could easily develop into more!
1Honestly, this is how me and my current boyfriend of 1 year started out. We were friends w/ benefits at first then we both realized that we had feelings for each other and we decided to try it and now we are still together!
2I'm now marrying mine, so why not give it a shot!
3Bad idea - relationships stay remarkably true to how they're originally defined. If you two decided to be f*ckbuddies instead of dating, there was a reason behind that. One, or the other, or both of you does not want to officially date the other person.
4my current f-buddy is a pretty good friend of mine, and i just know too much about his neuroticies and stuff to actually date him. but it's fun while it's casual.
5my ex is my friends with benefits, and if i ever start getting feelings for him again, i'm getting out!
6It can work, you just have to be careful. It always seems like it ends up that one always falls for the other.
7I wouldnt know, I only sleep with ppl Im in committed relationships with.
But who knows....it may work out.
8I had an FwB arrangement with one of my exes. But it was weird-- it was like we were in a relationship yet without the title. We pretty much spent time together whenever neither of us had plans. It was NOT healthy. I ended up developing feelings for him and wanted to get back together-- he shot me down. Like an idiot I continued the FwB relationship (bc it was better than nothing, in my eyes). Then he started developing feelings for me, but by then I had moved on to a new guy.
Hey, sometimes it works. But I wouldn't wish my situation on anyone. Sometimes you may just want to take the risk an see how he feels.
9I don't think it works well with an ex. At least it didn't for me. But with a friend who you find yourself having stronger feelings for? Why not? It might grow into something, since you started out as friends before the physical. But I think you have to be prepared to lose the friendship if both parties aren't into it going in the same direction.
10All I have to say is that mine became a marriage.
11I would definitely talk to the guy and see if he felt the same way. You already know the sex would be sizzling and he obviously doesn't repulse you so a relationship could be really nice there. If he didn't though I wouldn't be able to carry on the FWB relationship anymore.
12i hate the whole friends with benefits thing. such a slutty thing
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