this situation is a bit different considering that ring is probably worth near a million dollars and it was given to them by the network, so it's not like he should get the money for it or anything

in this situation, yah she should auction it for charity - that's a very nice idea he had there, and i think he sounds like a good guy

in normal situations, he who calls it off should lose their claim at the ring. if the man breaks it off (or cheats to cause her to break it off) then he doesn't get it back and she can do whatever she wants with it....but if the woman calls it off (or cheats etc.) then she definitely should give it back!

like skigurl said this situation is different cuz its not reality.

in reality, however, i think whoever called off the engagement doesnt get the ring. as in, if she called it off she should give him back his ring. but if he called it off, he doesnt get it back. obviously theres some exceptions to this, like if he cheated or was abusive which caused her to call it off, she still gets it. i think

I agree. Whomever calls the wedding off loses the ring.

I'm actually surprised there's not something in the Bachelor contract that requires the ring to be given back to the network if the engagement doesn't last. She should definitely auction it off for charity. Although, i can see why she wouldn't want to--it's not like her acting "career" is going anywhere.

For real engagements (I absolutely hated this "couple" & am so glad to hear they broke up), I agree with the others. You call off the wedding, you don't get the ring.

Give it back!

I've never really thought about it, but I agree with the others: who ever calls it off doesn't get the ring.

Who ever calls off the wedding doesn't get to keep the ring. This bacholer situation the ring should go to charity.

It depends on why it was called off. And well this situation doesn't count b/c he didn't actually purchase it, but...

I broke off my engagement b/c the guy was really abusive. I thought about giving the ring back, but then realized how badly I got screwed over with finances and other things that I sold it and took the $ as compensation. I think actually I did offer to give it back but he said to keep it, hoping we'd eventually get back together. Ugh.

Ditto BBFK

I never thought about whoever calls it off gets to keep it. I would give it back to whoever paid for it regardless. I would view it as some sort of compensation if I kept it and sold it because he broke up with me even though he paid for it.
Which means what, if you break up with me then I automatically get $3,000- $30,000 as compensation?
I would just say goodbye to it all and him.

It depends on the situation and why it was called off.

I do NOT agree that the one who calls off the wedding loses rights to the ring. For instance, what if the ring was a family heirloom on the groom's side...the groom finds out the the bride was having cheating and calls off the wedding? Do you think he loses all rights to the ring because he was the one to call it off???

Does it really matter who broke off the engagement when the ring will literally no longer mean what it was supposed to?
wtf am i going to keep the ring for if im no longer getting married?
I like good relics, not bad ones.

I think that whomever calls off the wedding does not get the ring back. As far as what to do with it, I traded mine in for something different, I didn't want to see the ring every day.

i just think it's ridiculous that she wants to keep it “safe and clean and in a glass box — like a glass slipper” what the hell?

I def agree with everyone here, whoever called it off should lose the ring unless cheating was to blame.

as for the ring in particular, it should most def be auctioned since it was given to them by the network.

I think you give it back. My friend called off her wedding because of an abusive fiance and was going to sell it, but ended up giving it back because she wanted to be independent of him (finally) and she didn't want it to feel like he was paying her bills.

I think I would give it back no matter what. I wouldn't sell it and I definitely wouldn't want to keep it, if he wants to sell it that's up to him.

Ive been given 2 rings by past boyfriends. (though they werent engagement rings, just gifts) The first one I gave back.. (actually he demanded that I give it back...and I didnt give it back so much as I through it across the room..lol) The second one I kept and then sold it.

Etiquette says that if an engagement is broken, regardless of who broke it off, the ring goes back. After I heard this story, I looked it up.

However, I think that if the man breaks it off the woman should do whatever she wants with the ring. If the woman breaks it off, she should return it. In this case, the ring should be sold and the proceeds given to charity because the ring was given to them by an outside party.

Shayne is just a greedy little biyatch. Keep it "safe and clean" my arse! She just wants to hold onto it with the hopes of selling it later. Matt had the right, fair suggestion here. Since neither one of them actually paid for it and the network isn't exactly asking for it back, they should auction it off for charity. That way, no one will look like the greedy little biyatch she is...err...greedy and it should please the network. And they would be helping some people in need!

I think it is completely circumstantial. If the ring is a family heirloom I don't think there should be any doubt that it goes back no matter the reason for calling it off.

Like the majority have said if the ring is purchased and given then barring cheating, a pathological liar, abuse or something along those lines the person not calling it off should be allowed to do with it as they wish.

I'd like to think people don't have to consider the what if it doesn't work out when they buy a ring but sadly they should. Resale values for custom made rings no matter how nice are quite low. I took $1200 last month for a $12,000 ring that I'd been holding onto for 2.5 years. Don't buy heart shaped sapphires!!

The couple from the show should auction it off, neither has a right to it.

In a normal relationship, I say just give it back to the guy. He bought it.

it was a gift TO HER. that makes it HER RING. it's none of his business what happens to it since he neither bought it or owns it now.

in another more typical situation i would say she gives it back if it's a family ring or he ends the engagement. otherwise it's hers.

i agree with Matt.

Personally, I would offer to give it back, no matter who called off the wedding. However, if I really love the ring (and would wear it as a right-hand ring), I may offer to pay him for it. The reason why I may be inclined to do this is that most of my important jewelry are custom-made to my taste. They were literally made just for me.

Whoever broke it off doesn't get the ring. so if he broke it off and i kept it....

I would sell it. that's the honest truth.

d*mn he can't marry me AND he wants the ring back?!

Good thing sh*t fell apart before the question would've been who gets the kids.

Then you be like Britney paying $20k a month and like 50 (Cent) dropping the kid off on the corner.

sell the ring, buy a new Birken. That's what i'd do.

It's better than freaking out and cutting my hair.

Whoever paid for it gets it back! Isn't that obvious?

I've never been engaged, but an ex did give me a ridiculously expensive custom designed promise ring and when the relationship was over it went back without even blinking. Like RockandRepublic said, why would you want to keep a bad memory. If it's over, then let it all go. As for Shayne she just wants press. Without doubt the ring should be sold and given to charity!

i don't get why anyone thinks the ring should go to charity. where did that come from? the story i heard was that he is gay and never intended to marry ANY of the girls and in fact was watching the show with his boyfriend. after the end of the show he told her and she called the show's producers to see how long she had to be engaged in order to keep the ring and that's what they did; so she could keep the ring.

keep it like a glass slipper..

then in 10 years when everyone gradually forgets you ever existed on a stupid fake show,
sell it and frolick around in the benjamins with your real husband right.

greedy beezy

I think it should be auctioned off. Why should she get to keep it like some sort of trophy? She didn't really end up winning his heart, after all, so why does she deserve a prize? Seeeelfish!

He paid. It's in his name. Let him make the choices.

Let's just go back to not signing up for a show where you compete with other women for a guy you might get one or 2 televised dates with, and then he subjects you to meeting his family to see if you're good enough. then to hope he picks you in the end...

then if he does pick you, you have to stay posted up in a hotel for weeks until the finale. then you have a chance to get to know him. You find out he has athlete's foot and leaves foot flakes in the bed. and that ring you're sporting is bought by the network who pimps you out to do this crummy press tour so more donkey women can sign up to be publicly humiliated.

and then when the engagement is off, everyone will have their opinion on it. AND you can't even keep the ring to cash it in. I mean, even if you had a corporate job, you think they are gonna hire you back after the spectacle on TV??? you need the money.

Why not let her keep it if she wants it, it's probably all she got out of the TV series. Not as bad as a woman I used to work with who had been proposed to by three different guys and turned them all down but kept the rings.

In the famous words of Zsa Zsa Gabor.... "of course you should give back the ring.... take out the stone, but give back the ring!"

Uhh...I don't even know who this couple is. Like, who the hell is this chick?? Hahaha, anyway, the ring should go back to whoever paid for it. In this case, just toss it back to the network. I don't understand why a woman wants a reminder of a failed relationship. Quite depressing. Even if I loved the ring, I need to move on. I'm not sure if my future husband would appreciate my continuing to wear an engagement ring given by another man.

I'd give it back regardless of who broke off the engagement.

I don't need nor do I want any sad reminders no matter how expensive it is. I can't see any good coming out of keeping a ring that i'm never going to wear again. If it's over then it's over, time to move on......period.

First of all I have to laugh that they have broken up already

Ok, now that I am done with that, I have always heard from many old, old, old, old fashioned women and men ( who are basically the only people left on Earth who know what manners, class, etiquette and protocol are ) that this is what is to be done with the ring:

If he broke it off with she, she keepith the ring.

If she broke it off with he, she returnith the ring to he.

Its that simple.

After that, who cares what becomes of it, auctioned, pawned, whatever - its best to remain unseen.