As we all know, not all marriages end happily ever after. But after you divorce and start dating again, factoring your kids into the equation is an extremely important step that needs to be carefully thought out. As we've seen in Hollywood, it can be done flawlessly (the Moore/Willis kids for example), but we've also seen the opposite: single parents who introduce their kids too soon, only to have the relationship fail (Kate Hudson and Lance Armstrong, to name a few). Since children can get attached easily, it seems reasonable to wait until your relationship has hit a certain level of commitment before exchanging introductions, but when is too soon? And when is too late? If you have kids, they are no doubt your number one priority, so tell me, when do you think children should come into play when starting a new relationship?
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I don't have any children yet, but my sister waited almost a year to introduce her BF to her kids. I thought that was good, she waited until she knew it was serious, she didn't want to introduce them if he wasn't going to be around. It's bad enough their dad is constantly with a new girl she didn't want them to see her with different guys.
1first of all you can't compare us with celebritys folks. we don't have the paps chasing us at all times, photos splashed all over the magazines. for them i think they need to introduce early, almost like they don't have a choice. they're gonna see the mags/paper/computer anyways. as a resposible parent i think they should introduce them early instead of the kids finding out thru all that.
moving on, us regular folks, its all personal preference. but i thinks its wise to wait. children are so impressionalbe at a young age, and they bond easily. and its up to us parents to protect them.
2didn't mean to sound snippy.
3My mom introduced me to the man she left my dad for a week after she left us. I was 15, so I wasn't young, but I was still unprepared to meet him. I think it's best to introduce the kids when the two people have agreed to a serious relationship. I would NEVER want my parents making out with another person, but they're divorced, so that's inevitable. However, I don't want to meet every date...
4I would say about 3-6 months into a relationship at least. My dad has dated a few women over the years and has been engaged to two of them (both relationships also ended), and we always met them just a month or two after they began dating. Then the girlfriends has to spend every special occasion with us, despite our protests, and it was really difficult. It makes it even harder if both of the people have kids and they try to force both sets of kids to hang out together all the time. I think its better to slowly introduce the kids to each other, after it's clear that the relationship has become serious. But its also important to make sure that there is time for the kids to have alone time with their own parents and not trying to force everyone to be one "big, happy family" all the time. I hope that makes sense...
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