Dear E. Jean,

I’m 24, just graduated from college (it took me six years to get through school — I transferred four times), but I finally did it. Now I have my whole life ahead of me and I really don't know what to do with myself.

I'm an art history major and currently interning for a prestigious museum in the city; but I'm not sure it's the path I really want to pursue. I've thought about going to grad school for art and business, but isn’t that just a great way to postpone getting a real job?

I'm living at home with my parents. My social life is so-so, my sex life is nonexistent, and I'm at least 50 pounds overweight. I'm a big dreamer, and I have many aspirations, but I can't seem to get my head out of the clouds and into an office. As I'm sure you've already noticed, I'm also incredibly indecisive.

What I guess I'm trying to ask is this: How can I get myself to grow up and start doing something with my life?

By the way, this is the first time I've ever written in to anyone regarding advice. I'm guessing you probably don't have the time to read all the letters and might have an assistant/intern reading (deleting) these for you, but any advice from anyone would be appreciate — Royally Stuck

To see E. Jean's answer .

Miss Stuck, My Sublime Nitwit,

Oh, for godssakes! Stop yammering and get a job! Choose the best company in the field you’re interested in RIGHT NOW and get a job. Be the “coffee girl.” Start in the mail room. You want a thrilling life? Take a risk. You’re wasting waaaaay too much time concocting the perfect “path” for the “whole life ahead of you.”

You are the path. Repeat: You are the path. You are the person you choose to be. And right now you’re choosing to be a dithering, roly-poly little goose who lives with her mommy and daddy.

Your life is not “ahead” of you. Your life is right now. Respect the moment. Get a job. Run with it, fix things as you go, earn some money, move out of your parents' house and start your damn life!

P.S. And don’t drive yourself crazy. We’re all morons when we start out. We just shift course as we go. And by the by, I do read every single letter which comes in, and I can promise you: You’ll have a brilliant life if you get off your hiney and take action.

To see more advice from E. Jean, visit Elle [1] magazine and AskEJean.com [2].