My ex and I dated while I was still in high school and he was starting college — we met through our church. We dated for about six months before we called it quits, mainly because of the distance at the time. That was almost 10 years ago. In that time, we remained friends. I would frequently visit his frat house because I had a lot of friends that lived with him. Every time I would visit, we would end up hanging out. 
We have seen each other a lot over the years, and many times, it has ended with us kissing each other. During one encounter three years ago, he told me he didn't know why we weren't together because we both wanted the same things, and then he told me that he loved me. He now lives on the other side of the country. Over the holidays, he called me and wanted to meet up, which we did. I was on a break with my boyfriend at the time. We hung out for a couple hours and it was good. He told me that he was considering moving back to around the area and that his parents were wanting him to settle down.
He still texts or calls me a couple times a month and offers to fly me out so I can visit him. There was no real reason for us to break up, just bad timing. Does he want to get back together, or is he just being friendly and trying to keep in touch? I'm not sure what I think; his actions are confusing.
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It's not like the only two choices are "get back together" or "just be friends." It sounds like he's definitely interested in seeing if there's still a spark there. But remember that you haven't even lived near each other for years, and he may not be exactly the guy you think.
So, if he does mention these things again, go ahead and let it be known that if you ever live in the area again, you'd be interested in dating. Something like "It would be great if you moved back here. I would really enjoy getting to know you again."
1I agree that he does seem interested, but you may want to take your time and NOT get confused. If you're interested in getting back together, do give hints that you are interested in having him around in your life. Be tentative and keep in friendly contact.
Until you two are in the same town, getting reacquainted with each other again, and so on, then you guys can see if it'll work out the next time around. But until that happens, I suggest that you don't hold off any plan you have for yourself, and don't postpone your life for him.
Good luck.
*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*
2to him you could be the one that got away. the one he thought was special from his past and he could be trying to reconnect with you in some way.
take things slow. and i totally agree with the other two comments. you are both not the same people you were when you were younger so things are definitely going to be different this time around whether you are just friends or end up turning into something more.
if you are interested let him know that you are interested in getting to know him again. hang out with him, spend time with him and see where it goes.
3It sounds like he's interested.
But if he told you he loved you 3 years ago, why would you both go and date other people afterwards? Because of the long distance? Then what makes you think a long distance relationship would be good now? I understand that you were on a break with your bf when you met up with him later on, but if you truly wanted this guy all along, then what did your bf mean to you?
This is just all very questionable.
Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you.
4You need to ask him this. Also, ask yourself if you want to be with him. Is a ldr worth it to you?
5there's a lot of stuff missing from this scenario
6do you have another boyfriend? how old are you? do you still have feelings for him?
obviously you guys need to talk, and it seems like he has feelings but it could be one of those things that is just lagging on and on because it's easy and comfortable
Well, he sounds interested but he might just want to be good friends. Wait and see until he actually does move back; what's the point in worrying about something that might not even happen? Don't rush it, I agree with the people who said he might have changed over time (in a long distance relationship its hard to see everything about the other person). And just noting, you should really consider the guy you're on break with. Do you really want to end it with him, or is it just that the grass is greener on the other side temptation? Just because you start back up with this guy doesn't mean it will be the same, actually its likely to have many changes because you have both matured over ten years.
7When it comes to matters like this, it is best to straight up ask him what his feelings/intentions are. You should never assume..even if he says he isnt interested it is worth the risk to just have a clearer understanding of the situation
8He wants to get back together.
9Im still stuck on the fact that it was 10 yrs ago. If you guys seriously wanted to get together, you'd have done it already.
10I agree with everyone else, he wants to get back together. And you guys only broke up because of the distance. There's still something there.
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