Dear Sugar -
I have a HUGE problem. My friends set me up with this guy, and I am starting to really like him! He is really nice, he has a great personality and is a perfect gentleman. We hung out a few times and there was mutual attraction, but I could definitely tell he was nervous around me. I talked to him frequently and we became close. A few weeks went on and we hadn't kissed or anything. Finally I decided I had to do something to make the first move, so I asked him to give me a "goodnight kiss"....
Before I knew it he was slobbering all over my face, there was wayyyyy too much tongue! I almost gagged! I'm more of a "sweet and slow" person, but this kiss was porn-star worthy! The kiss really creeped me out, and I'm a little turned off by it! I could never tell him he is a bad kisser, grrr, and I don't know what to do! Help PLEASE!
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Dear mrs. vasquez
i think you should get even.... paybacks a b*tch right? thats only fair. do the same to him and see if he likes it! becuase if he doesnt than hopefully he will get the point but if hes weird and does enjoy it then he needs to take some lessons and thats where you come in! take control of you issue and take charge while kissing but than again who am i to give kissing advice...
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1You're going to have to tell him what you like, that's the only way he'll know - he's not a mind reader. If he likes you as much as you like him, him won't mind changing his style a little..
2You could make a little joke about it if he tries it again. Like "woah! how do my tonsils taste?" And then laugh a little. Then you can tell him how you're kind of a romantic and really want to see how it would feel to get a nice sweet slow kiss from him. He was probably just over-enthusiastic with the first kiss, but don't let it turn you off, he's young and trainable
I'm sure he'll switch his strategy when he sees how much more you enjoy a nice sweet smouch.
3You should show him that clip from cruel intentions where selma blair kissed sarah michelle gellar. That was one hot kiss!
4lol...i'm sorry but this post really reminds me of that SATC episode where Charlotte dates a bad kisser: "It was gross! He raped my face!"
But yes, honey, i can sympathize as your description of that kiss brought back horrid memories of my first kiss when i was 14! But i agree with Grl in the World that you should take it nice and slow and take charge of the kiss. If he starts licking your face, stop him immediately and say "i'm sorry but that's too much. let's try it this way..." and then show him the way you like it. but make it sounds cute and sweet and not harsh so he'll be putty in your arms.
good luck and re-post to let us know how it goes!
(by the way, if he continues to be a bad kisser, you're just gonna have to tell him the truth but add that you'd like to help him. if that still doesn't work then you don't need him!)
5Oh man, that brings back memories of me doing the same thing to some poor unsuspecting guy! Everyone needs someone to teach them how to be good at stuff like this. He became that guy for me. He basically taught me everything I know about making out. And I am eternally grateful to him for it!
6dearsugar we are doing the repeat again
7Teach him what you like, let him know less is more.
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8"What's got two thumbs and hates Todd Packer, This Guy! Jim Halpert
You need to tell him, or better yet show him
9I agree, let him know what you like, either by telling him, or showing him.
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