In a recent article in The Huffington Post, Dr. Sue Johnson asks "what is 'good sex'?" and proceeds to examine what she refers to as the three kinds of sex, including sealed-off sex, solace sex, and synchrony sex. Before addressing each, she notes:
What really determines what kind of sex you are going to have isn't the novel positions you find in the sex manual or the new tips in the latest magazine. It's how safely attached you are to your partner. Emotional presence and trust are the biggest aphrodisiacs of all.
Accordingly, sealed-off sex is all about satisfaction and pleasure, and relies on emotional detachment, while solace sex is more about emotional needs and reassurance than physical pleasure. Synchrony sex, on the other hand, is when emotional desire and connection open the way to erotic satisfaction, and as implied by the article, is "good sex."
I certainly don't think there's any definition of good sex that works for every person, but I do know many who would argue that under the right circumstances, simple, physical sex can be great and so can comfort sex. So ladies, let me ask, what's your definition of good sex?
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It seems pretty logical that the best sex would give you the best of both worlds. I think in specific circumstances sex can fulfill needs that you may be having at the moment but that doesn't make it the most healthy of fulfilling.
1I think good sex is when yo are with the person you are most comfortable with and that person can make you reach your climax.
2I think it depends on what you want and what you're in the mood for. Sometimes you want that emotional connection, but there are times when you just want pure physical pleasure. As long as the two of you want the same thing, any kind of sex can be good sex.
3i agree fablady.
4When I can't stand up straight after.
5The best sex ever dosent mean that you have the best orgasm ever... it just means that you are with the person you love and you feel a strong itimate bond between the two of you.
6I think good sex is a progression. Like, i remember a time in my relationship when we did it quite often and i would think to myself, i am tired, i hope it is quick...that doesn't happen now. Now, since I moved away, everytime we are together in that way it is amazing, mind blowing, and better than the last time. I mean, every time we do it, we both exclaim that was the #1 experience ever.
So, I guess I would say it is achieved overtime, but when you have it, you know it!
7I agree with you fluffyhelen...lol
8Right on fluffyhelen.
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