When we're young, it's easy to be naive when it comes to matters of the heart. I'm sure some of us even assumed that our first boyfriend would turn out to be the one, when in reality, all we really needed was a dose of advice from the older, wiser you to realize that young love is usually just that. And in Hollywood especially, early 20-somethings are going full speed ahead in their relationships, throwing all caution to the wind. Of course, there's always an exception to the rule, but most of those couples don't end up happily ever after. So what do you think about being in a serious committed relationship at a young age? Is it a good idea? Sure, it teaches adolescents about love and loss, but are those lessons meant for more experienced young adults?
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Vanessa Bruno
The mistakes we make while we're young and in love teach us the lessons we need to have mature love.
1even if you don't end up together in the long run, i think having a serious relationship when you're in your early 20s is a good thing. it teaches you the lessons about love that you'll use with later partners & shows you what you do & don't want in a mate.
2I've always thought that when you are with someone, you should think or feel that it's forever, even if that might realistically not be that case.
3Most relationships you have in your late teens and early 20s don't stand the test of time (do most later relationship), but that doesn't mean the love is less real or that relationships shouldn't be serious. What would be the alternative? Meaningless affairs? Surely a relationship is preferably to that.
the picture of zac efron and vanessa hudgens accompanying this post makes it a loaded question...as he is obviously gay!
but i love love love penn badgley and blake lively.
i think young love is good. it helps you learn. how else would you?
4I agree with all the ladies above! I'm only 21 but I am currently in a long-term relationship with a guy who I hope to marry one day.
My 2 previous serious relationships have taught me what NOT to do in my current relationship.
They have made me stronger and showed me my weaknesses when it comes to relationships.
5I met my hubby when I was 19, married at 23. So why the heck not!
6i say yes but to take things slow dont jump into thing that you may regret later, believe me i know, lol
7Young love is one of the best things in life, you feel like your on a cloud but i agree with pinkprincess slow down don't go completely crazy or you will wind up with a baby.
8I had my first seriosu relationship @ 17...and now I am 21 and living with the man of my dreams. We both think we'll be together for a very long time, and love each other so much
I'm his first real long-term gf, but he said he couldn't imagine feeling this way for any other girl.
9When you meet the right person..you meet the right person. But i think its important for young people to explore differnet relationships and find out what they really want....or else I think in about 10 years or so..the "what if" question will pop up or the "I wonder what's its like to be with other people". Not saying it will happen to everyone..but definately to some...
10like mentioned above..you live and you learn and to each his(or her) own. so why not!
11I agree with everyone. But there's nothing wrong with young love. My boyfriend now, we met when we were 15 and got together when we were 16. Right now we're 20 and we're still together
But remember don't move so fast because nowadays young girls are getting pregnant.
Just be careful and whatever relationships that don't work out, you'll definitely learn from them.
12I started dating my very first boyfriend when I was 14, and we stayed together until I was 19. Then I dated two guys, met my future husband, and got married at 22. Couldn't be happier.
13I am all for young love! My first "real" relationship started when I was 16 and lasted til I was 18 after that I met my husband and we've been together ever since (6 yrs and counting). I think that as long as they realize that it may not last forever and they make smart choices - why not? Like most of the ladies have already said, what you learn from the past helps you in the future.
14Been together for 11 years, we were 18 and 19 and met in 5th grade.
15LOL to skigurl. and i agree with you, nina_79! i'm only 20 myself and have had ups and downs with my boyfriend of 6 years (so young, riight!?!)
even if young love often ends in heartbreak, it's still a lesson learned & i would rather that than go through a series of non-committed relationships.
16how else are you gonna learn? that's how i look at it. ya gotta start somewhere.
17If you don't have any "serious" relationships when you're younger, how would being older help any? Sure, you'd have lived more life by then, but presumably you'd have never had experience with the emotions felt in a serious relationship, so are you really any better off?
That's an honest question... I'm 19 and am already having a serious relationship so I'll never know the answer, of course
I agree with everyone that says that it's important to be careful, though... yes, when you love someone, you often want to get intimate with them, but that doesn't mean you can't be careful about it.
18Its hard to say but I think teens and young adults don't know what love even is and they take it for granted. They need to know that there is a diffence between feeling love for someone and being in love with them. Its like they all think they will find their fairy tale ending in the first guy that comes along! In fact I have a good friend of mine that's 19, just got married, and a baby on the way! It kills me, but I can't help but be happy for her because this is her life plan being played out right on time....
19only if by young you actually mean "inmature and stupid".
20granted, a lot of young people fit both terms, but another lot of them are very capable of giving and receiving genuine love. there are people who never ever learn to love or let themselves be loved through out their whole lifetimes, so I think it's actually a trait that you have to develop from experience, in which case, the more you love, the wiser you become.
I guess there's nothing wrong with young love...I'm young and in love. However, I find both couples in the pictures annoying.
21I don't know who any of the people in the pictures are. I think young people certainly feel love and care about the person they are with and some instances do last. However I think love evolves, grows and means more as you age. While I enjoy hearing about couples that have been together since high school, they've never known anything else. If they are happy I have no problem with that but I personally have learned from every lover and still feel like I am young now.
22Nothing wrong with young love. I'm married to my first real love... sure, we dated before we met, but I was never in love beforehand. Lots of people say you should never marry your first love, but why would I throw away a perfectly wonderful 6 year relationship just because he was the first person with whom I fell in love? Besides, my parents were high school sweethearts and their 35th anniversary was the day after my own wedding, and they couldn't be any happier with their own marriage!
23Love at any relationship builds character and you learn a lot from a relationship. It really depends if you are mature enough to handle the emotional aspects of a relationship. People can definitely love young and mature to understand whether it is time to stick together or move on. It's part of life and I wouldn't have changed a bit of my young love life from the past.
24Why not be in love? Love is so amazing and it just invigorates you that nothing else can. Just because you're young you shouldn't be able to experience love? I met my husband at 14 started dating at 15 and got married at 19. I'm now almost 22 and we're still as in love now, if not more so, as we were when we first got together.
It's the best. It has made me grow and learn
to be the person I like. So, I say to these kids do it! Why the heck not? If you break up it will hurt, that's why it is called a break, but you'll be better from it.
25I love being in love.
I am 19 turning 20 and I want to marry my boyfriend. I love him dearly. I am scared though because we fight and don't always get along. I hope it works out, I am going to make it the best I can, I don't know if I'll be able to end things if they need to be ended though. I'd rather go up and down than be lonely. I know that if we broke up I'd just miss him and lay on his doorstep crying for him. So I hope it works out.
*am i pathetic? : /
26pro young love!
27I'm still young...and I wish that I hadn't had that experience of "love and loss." I wish I could have saved such a serious relationship for a time when I would know how to maintain it.
28in fit in the category of "young love". I'm 23 but my boyfriend and I started dating when we were 17 and 18 years old. Sometimes you just know when its the right person. I think I'm lucky to have found someone when I was young, it gives me more time in life to enjoy being in love.
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