Its both.
I want him all the time though.
He can't say I never give in cause I let him know when I want it too.
I take action.

Yeah, it's a little of both. I love it when he pushes me down on the bed and kisses me... But I also like to do that to him. We both are crazy about each other, so regardless of who initiates it, it's a frenzy! haha But I have no problem taking control when needed... or wanted for that matter.

I like being in control. However every now and again I like the girl to show initiative, at least instigate it. Otherwise I think they aren't interested and I lose my interest. A girl that knows what she wants and expresses it or isn't afraid to go for it is extremely hot!

I think it depends, its pretty much dependent on what the moods like. Sometimes I see my man and I can't help myself

Ironically, I just read about a blog a girl taking the initiative and it didn't go so well. This guy wrote about how he brought someone home and but didn't want to have sex. Long story short , he said that they were making out and then she 'raped' him by straddling him and...well you all know how its done. I didn't consider that a rape because he went along with it, but I can see how a pushy girl could make a guy uncomfortable.

Sometimes it feels like I'm the one drumming up all the bsuiness in this area. But I guess we share it equally depedning on the mood.

I get criticized for taking too much initiative :/

both ))))))

It depends on the mood. However, the success rate is higher with him taking the initiative.

I like him to take control, but I have subtle ways of getting the point across that I'm in the mood. I'm not the "pouncing" type--it doesn't do anything for me!

It's both... although it is fun to tease him (with a sure reward at the end, obviously) when he's on the phone with friends or family!

If I'm really in the mood, I will take initiative but other than that it's my partner.

i like the control to come from him. for some reason it turns me on more when he takes over. sorta dom/sub

it's both. but he loves it when i take control

I think it shouldn't be a matter of "changing the tides" but a matter of who wants it (first, of course), and the respect for the person that doesn't initiate it. As long as you want it and are okay with the possibility of your partner potentially not being in the mood, I believe it doesn't matter who leads and who follows.

just wondering where Dear gets the photo illustrations? this one is pretty .......interesting. the guy is cute though

It's both most of the time! But if he doesn't take the initiative, I sure as hell do!

i can only think of a handful of times when either of us has actually 'initiated' sex. usually it just... happens. we'll be lying in bed and next thing you know we are getting it on. but i remember one time when i went to my boyfriend's house and i had just walked in the door and he took my hand and brought me to his room. that time sticks out the most in my mind in terms of who starts sex [just because i thought it was really cute]

It's usually more my husband who initiates the sex, but sometimes I get crazy and attack him. It doesn't happen often enough, in his opinion, but we still do great either way. It's fun to surprise him and he gets a huge kick out of it when I do.

It's about 50/50 with us; we both like to be pounced.

I just pounced last night!

I would say its about 50/50 for me. If I'm in the mood - there is no shame in letting him know I am. And vice versa. Sometimes its best to just walk in the house after a long day and know hes waiting for you.

Generally, I let him lead the way. When it comes to intimacy, I guess that's more my style.

My wife is a Femdom/Dominatrix so I guess you know where I stand... err, kneel.