Also depends on stuff like where the two apt's/houses are located- maybe one person's place is too far from the other one's work (gas prices!) so that is a sensible consideration. When my fiance moved from France to Houston to be with me we decided to keep my townhouse instead of moving in to a new one . . .partly because of the location being close to my office (he bought a Prius so it was okay for him to drive further) but we bought all new furniture so it was like his place too because it had stuff we picked out together. Maybe having a decor change to fit both people's style would make the person moving in feel like it's their home too. Also I made a huge effort to clear out lots of closet space so it wasn't like he was just staying over night with one drawer for his stuff

We found a new place when we decided to live together. His roomates were plannign on moving, and his lease was almost up and I was moving outta my parents...so we found a new pad together

And now, we live in his own home he just bought

We found a new place when we moved in together. He was living with roommates so I couldn't move in there. And my place was tiny so he couldn't move in there. We got a bigger place about two blocks from my old place.

i think it's good to get a new place so it feels as though you're building the new home together, instead of someone invading another's space

We moved down from northern California to Las Vegas, so we got an apartment here together after dating for three years and living separately. The first one wasn't all rainbows and sunshine - he felt like I got to pick it out, so it was more of mine than his. Plus I was the one with furniture - except it's cream and fairly feminine. We moved, and even though the apt is right down the street from my work and he has to drive 20 miles to school, he has a 2007 Honda Civic Hybrid while I just drive a 2002 Ford Focus. I moved a majority of the cream furniture into my room (we have a two bedroom because we just about kill each other when we sleep togethe, between him liking to sleep on top of me and me having the tendency to kick in my sleep), so it's more our place now.

I do miss living alone sometimes - there's something awesome about going home and just sitting around in your underwear while eating ice cream and watching TV. I still do that, I just try to wear cute underwear and not eat as much ice cream...

lol aw...Darling... so cute" I just try to wear cute underwear and not eat as much ice cream..."

I thought taking "the plunge" meant getting married? I never liked the idea of moving in together. When it's time to get married then hopefully we'll be ready to decide where to live.

My boyfriend and I just moved into our first apartment as a couple. (earlier, I was just living at the apartment that started out as his.) I think there is a lot to be said for finding your own place, together; it requires more communication, and it prevents one person from compromising more than the other. Plus, it makes it more special.

I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend after having stayed at his apartment, and I definitely think it's more special. We both got to pick it out, so we're happier about doing chores (etc) because we both love our place. His old place would get kindof messy because his roommate had picked it, then moved out (enter me), so neither of us really liked it or felt like home there, so we weren't motivated to take care of it.

"lol aw...Darling... so cute" I just try to wear cute underwear and not eat as much ice cream..."".
Lol, ditto! I would eat all the ice cream anyway though, if thats how I am he better take me that way or not at all, lol.

I've never moved in with anybody yet, but it sounds like getting a new place would be the best idea. I agree that it would make it feel special and that one person would feel like they were just visiting all the time if they moved into the others previous apartment.

Oh, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE ice cream more than anything else in the whole entire world, LOL LOL LOL...so that might play a part in my decision, lol.

i have been saving up to buy a new home next year anyway, but if my bf ends up wanting to live together, i guess we can pick it out together and split the mortgage or something.

My bf is moving in with me...though to be honest I definitely had us in mind when I picked it. He loves the place as much as I do so I don't think we will have the mine vs ours problem. At least I hope not

From someone who has done it both ways, I recommend picking out a new place together if you can swing it. I lived with my ex, moving into HIS place, and I always felt like he was holding that over me.... "No you can't have a dog, I don't want an animal in MY condo," "I'll do whatever I want, its MY house," etc. Granted, he was a huge *sshole anyway (funny how hindsight is 20/20), but that was something that always bothered me. When my new boyfriend and I decided to live together, we started looking for a place together and moved in when our leases ran out. It has been so much better! Not to mention the fun of picking out furniture, curtains, etc. together... Its so much more special, and really feels like "OUR" house.