Oh yea! We always try to practise this...I never throught twice about saying something to my man to put him down.m And vace versa.

ALWAYS.

My mother believes this, but not my father...lol
That's one of the things couples have to work on. I don't believe this comes with a good relationship. Some men like to play/embrass the one they're with. Which means they are very light hearted with relationships. I like the couple mentioned in the story, take relationships seriously. Which means that he has to make the both of us look good as well as me!

my future in laws are almost hitting the 50th anniversary, they worship the ground each other walks on, i hope my fiance will get to experience a 50 together

I would have to agree. I would never make anything up to make him look good, but it definitely helps us feel special when we point out good things about each other. We have no problem telling silly embarrassing stories though, as long as we know it wouldn't hurt the others feelings. As for backing his statements up, of course, even if I don't agree (we can always debate it back home!)

Yeah I think in a good relationship you would have a strong enough dynamic to know which "embarassing" stories would be appropriate/funny and when is a good time to defend their opinion etc . . . I don't think it has to be an overanalyzed like "routine" or anything, in a good relationship, dynamic becomes natural and I think making your partner look good in public would be totally 2nd nature. But I don't think you can't like disagree with your partner if it's in a civil group discussion or something I mean two people in a good relationship don't have to have 110% the same opinion all the time.

Hell yea..that is SO important!
I love being someone's number one fan in a relationship, and I expect the same

I agree that this is a great thing to do. I'm quite young and all my Mom's friends and all of my family seem to spend time b*tching about their husbands so I find it hard not to join in. It's something I'm aware of and that I'm working on not doing. It's really disrespectful to my husband and I wouldn't want him to do it to me.

And on a totally unrelated note.... Doesn't that girl in the pic look like a brunette Kirsten Dunst? Even the crazy vampire teeth.

Jaimeleah that girl doeslook like Kirsten Dunst oddly enough.... anyway I think it's really impportant to respect your partner and support them in public. While I'm ok with telling funny little stories I think it is completely inappropriate to belittle your partner or take sides against them in publc. If you are going to argue I think it's best to do it in private when you both can express yoru feelings without other people's interference. I can't tell you how many awkward moments my husband and I have endured when we are out with friends and they start fighting and expect us to take sides.

Absolutely. I totally agree with this couple, it is essential that you be eachothers number 1 fan.

i think it's cute if you do!

Well, I have a incredible husband whom I communicate with very well. It's hard not to sing praise for him in front of other people. As for our embarrassing stories, inhibitions, vunerabilities, and weaknesses, that is kept private between the two of us. We do not allow each other to be insulted or embarrassed. All my co-workers ever do is complain and b*tch about their SO's. I do not participate because there is nothing I can contribute to that conversation. Sometimes, they prod me join in the man-hating session. To which I say or give off the vibe: "Sorry, my relationship with my hubby is peachy." Then, back to concentrating on work.

I would never say anything against my fiance, not would he about me. I don't make him the butt of a joke or tell embarrassing stories about him. Why would I do that? I love this man to the depths of my soul.

I'm not into man-bashing at all. My mother never was either and used to talk about the women in her circle who complained or put down their men. She thought it was an indicator to the kind of marriage they were in, and I tend to agree with that.

Of course...I completely agree...my husband and I never purposely embarass each other or make rude comments about each other.

Wow, I seem to be in the minority here, but one of the reasons my husband and I love our relationship so much is because of all the bantering we do. I hated previous relationships where the guys did not banter at all. My husband and I will make fun of each other and tell embarrassing stories, but it's all in good fun. Our friends know this about us. In fact, we do the same thing with our good friends and they do it right back to us! We are not actually "bashing" each other or b*tching about the other person; we're just having a good time. It's like a competition to see who can be more creative with words. Hey, if it doesn't work for other people that's fine, but it works for us.

And on the other hand, we can be the sappiest people alive, and sometimes THAT annoys people.

When I'm with my friends, I try not to get too personal about any problems I have with my husband, but aren't you supposed to be able to talk about stuff like that with your friends? If not, who are you supposed to talk to? (I'm not talking about bashing my husband, just talking about normal problems and getting advice on them.)