Recently you figured out that your co-worker, who you’ve always considered a friend, too, is having an adulterous relationship with your boss. She hasn't actually spilled the beans, but you've pieced it together after seeing them at a restaurant arm in arm.
She’s been making references to the new guy she’s been seeing and even asks for your input on certain personal issues. The entire situation doesn’t sit right with you, and you get the feeling that she wants to tell you but she can't. That last thing you want to do is get involved, but you’re sick of hearing about it, so how do you handle this?
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I would rather stay out of it than get involved.
1If she feels like she needs to tell me then ok but if not then ok too.
Things like that get can you in big trouble.
LOL well I wouldn't worry about it...However, it does hurt a little to NOT be able to gossip about ALL the details. That would be very juicy...VERY!
2Give them the opportunity to tell you (invite them to lunch, whatever) if you feel happy talking about it.
If not, I would just tell them that I am fed up of hearing about the guy.
3I'll lean in that direction, make subtle hints that i know a little something. Then she can tell me, i'd tell her it's a bad idea and we move on.
4I would either flat out ask her, see how she reacts OR just keep playing the game she wants to play.
5How about NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS
6I would mind my own business.
7I would let her blab if that makes her happy, but I wouldn't give her any opinion or advice in case it came back to haunt me later.
And, sad to say, I wouldn't trust her or confide in her quite as much, since this is a work environment above all else, and I'd no longer be sure where her loyalties are.
8Tough situation. I would want her to tell me if she really was my friend but she shouldnt have to say anything at all.
9Minding my own business is key here, boss-subordinate relationships are a no-no in so many cases and I would not want to be in the know when that cat came out of the bag. If she tells you anyway, I would personally not pull all the details. I just really wouldn't want or need to know.
10I'm with Jude C.
11Well, what's there to handle if she's not telling? If she tells, that's another story entirely.
12First off, I don't get all judgey when it comes to people's sex lives.
as long as the heffa makes everyone wear a rubber, it's her business.
13mmm... it wouldn't be any of my business, but if I consider her a real friend, I'd be kind of hurt (not to mention suspicious) that she wouldn't want to tell me who the guy is anyway... so if that situation was real, then I would have figured it out on my own already and call her out on it a long time ago. (not in a mean way, to embarrass her, but only to let her know that I know and I can keep the secret to myself)
14lol ... i would be like, "see if we can get to colorful Post-its out of that mutha-f*cka, instead of the yellow and orange ones".
maybe we could get some Bic pens instead of the Office Depot brand.
and would it hurt to get Krispy Creame Donuts every friday????
if you're gonna give your boss he*d, atleast hook a b*tch up.
15Since it is none of my business and involves people that I work with I would probably say nothing. If I was that sick of hearing about her love life I would probably ask her if we could talk about something else.
16Yeah agree with the ones that said it is NONE of my business. I wouldnt even bother to act is if I know with hints. I would let her tell me when she was ready.
17The sensible side of me would stay out of it, but the evil side would snap a pic of the "arm in arm" with my cellphone and email it to the entire office with an anonymous address from an anonymous IP (one of those free wifi spots in the city). Get some popcorn, sit back and watch the meltdown.
Maybe a vid, too. For youtube.
18Hahahahha, looseseal, I'm with you. Yeah, it might not be my business etc. etc., but I really don't like cheaters....lol.
19I'd just say next time "it's (your bosses name) isn't it?" You'll be able to tell by her reaction and she'll know that everyone knows. Then I would tell her you don't want to know any more about and that she should be more discreet.
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