To get out of the friend zone, don't act like a friend. This means no last-minute invitations to "hang out", no making the first move, no calling him, etc. When you meet a guy you like, be friendly and a little mysterious (he doesn't have to know everything you did last weekend).

It really doesn't take much to go from friendly to flirty. Actually, the huge secret is to NOT be obvious and NOT make overtures and NOT act like an open vagina, so I'm sure it's only a matter of doing a couple of things, which may seem forced at first but will end up part of your natural demeanor after a while.

I had the opposite problem - most of my guy friends were falling in love with me and getting the wrong idea, and it took a HUGE effort on my part to get rid of the flirty signals. So what did I use to do, that you need to learn (and I had to unlearn!)?

Well, it's subtle. It's what you put into your smile, for example - a hint of suggestion. A huge frank smile is friendly; a huge frank smile that ends with a quick pout, a raised eyebrow and a half second stare is flirty. Don't get me started on the dress; don't dress like a hoochie mama, but find your MAIN asset and emphasize that. You've got nice boobs? Wear tighter and lower tops. Nothing vulgar and uncomfortable - just enough to HINT.
Touch your hair a lot. Cock your head. Look at them with your head slightly lower than a frank face to face. Don't ask me why, it adds a touch of mystery, and it says a lot.

Touch the guy's arm when you talk to him, or when you're laughing at his joke. Men are very sensitive to touch, so if you mix two pleasant signals at once (a laughter and a stroke on their skin) - they will take notice of you in a different light.

If you have a sense of humor, try to shift it so that every now and then you drop an incredibly subtle double-entendre. That's a whole art so you may not be comfortable with it at first, or actually come out with terribly forward jokes, but you could take it as a wit game and see where it takes you.

And in general, be cute. Don't do baby talking or horrible irritating sh*t like that, but pouts and cute faces and flirty frowns send messages.

I understand that this may all sound ridiculous and far away from your persona. But little by little you can integrate some of those behaviors into your usual physical attitude, and it may change a lot of things in your relationship to men.

Trust the girl who's really not a bomb at all - I'm cute, but I'm definitely not beautiful. Yet, I've had more men roll themselves on the floor for me than I can count. Not bragging - it's just the truth. Obviously, you're a cool and interesting gal, or they wouldn't even befriend you. I think the only issue is to add the hint of sexual energy and tension - The secret is to never be forward, only very remotely suggest.

Good luck!

Honestly, I'm 23 and just now am I in a relationship with a man who I call my boyfriend. I spent the last 3 years actively dating, meeting guys and figuring out the sort of person I want to be with, and it turns out the man I'm with now was at one point just a friend, and a friend who never though he'd be lucky enough to settle me down. But here we are in a committed relationship, my first ever. He's kind, treats me very well and the best part is he already knows me. I know college is hard because it seems like you're either married to a guy, or just sleeping with him and there is no middle ground. Keep those guy friends around, and nurture you relationships with your female friends too, because in the end a friend is who you want to be with.

it's great that you are so good at making male friends. I think that you should just continue to be friendly and open and when you meet the right guy, it will fall into place!

I really agree with karlotta. I had a much similar problem. I thought I would never have a boyfriend because I just could not flirt with men. It felt so fake. Then, I met my current boyfriend. I didn't have to fake it with him.. but I learned how to flirt so it felt natural. Unfortunately, I can't really explain how exactly you can go about something like that. It'll just come to you (kind of useless advice, I know). I also don't think that part of meeting a guy and to stir interest is just flirting. I mean, that's always good, but a guy should be interested in just you, not some facade you put on. A way of flirting is just to ask questions about the guy, "Where do you go to school? Do you work?" etc. You shouldn't worry about this too much. I know you'll find a guy who loves you for you, and thinks of you as more than just a friend.

don't start out talking about interests and hobbies and don't give off too many "masculine" traits right away. for example, i love smart indie films, non fiction books, and know more about computers than most guys. but i don't let all that slip at first. I say keep things vague so they have to continuously ask more questions...

You need a change of venue. I was always "that girl" in college - had a huge group of wonderful guy friends who always wanted to hook up with... other girls. Never me.

When I moved to another city for grad school, I wasn't "that girl" any more. I was just a free agent, and open to new experiences. By the end of the first semester, I had been asked out by two seriously great guys (intelligent, successful, and HOT), and have been dating one of them for 1.5 years now. The key is that neither of them are anything like the guys I was friends with and pined after in undergrad. It's a different scene, with different people, and it turns out that there are guys who are attracted to me - just not the ones I expected!

Flirting is going to be uncomfortable at first but you'll get used to it. Lightly, touch them on the arm, laugh at their jokes and make sexual innuendos (not raunchy ones). The flirtiest thing you can do is playfully make fun of the guy. They love that. Tell guys they look nice if they do or if he's telling a story always comment on it saying something like oh you're so smart, I never would have thought of that or you're so sweet or something like that. Show you're paying attention to only him.

Always find excuses to touch yourself apply gloss, rub your arms when you're cold, play with your hair etc. Dress in something you know looks good on you so you're not uncomfortable with that and don't wear new clothes on dates because it'll just make you uncomfortable.

I relate and agree with what Jillerin457 said above.

Also, you will have plenty of time to meet men. At this age, it is more important to think about your personal and intellectual development than whether or not men want to date you. Women often put too much energy into trying to attract men.

Often young men are looking for the girls who are really obvious and whose looks scream "easy sex." There is nothing wrong with being a quiet beauty, but at this age you may be overlooked some. Fear not, you just need to be patient, self-confident, and to find your target market.

I have to confess this post is lost on me. I don't identify or understand at all. I think I'm a natural man-magnet. Almost everything Karlotta suggested I've done intuitively. I've always gotten offers from men (even when I was married, and of course, I declined).

My bf and I were friends for a long time. That was a great way for us to get to know each other. We were very comfortable and were able to be our true selves. We would talk constantly. We were best friends and confidants. Then one day, we realized we wanted a serious commitment. That was over two years ago. We're planning on getting married. I love having a best friend in my bf.

I would say, don't try to rush into anything. It's okay to be friends with a man first. You get to know them and don't feel like you're settling. Too many people get seriously involved without getting to know them. They don't know if their compatible or not. They settle for the first one that shows them any interest. Then wonder why they're so unhappy in the relationship. The best love relationships are among friends. Take it slow. Enjoy the friendships. You never know, if one of them will turn out to be the one. Think of all the anxiety you'll avoid.

You don't have to flirt to get into a relationship! In fact, if you do, there's higher chances that the guy is trying to pick you up only because you seem easy (or at least already interested).

You shouldn't try hard to become somebody you're not just to grab guys' attention. When they get to know you they'll just realize that you've been fake and they won't like you anymore. What's the point in that? Most likely guys see you as a friend because you're easygoing and relaxed and you seem like one of the guys.

If you're going to change anything, just dress up. Put on something girly and do your hair, wear some makeup, slip on heels. If you want people to look at you differently, look different.

But don't fake your personality- it's not worth it, and it will only backfire.

Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you.

GlowingMoon, how was that helpful at all? Rub it in the poster's face much?

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

annbaby i'm a sucker for a good quote and i just love you last line.
Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you