Woman, don't wait a week! You have to get this dressed fixed pronto. Call your friend, tell her what happened, get hold of her dressmaker, fork over the cash and have that puppy fixed.

As for how she's going to react - you're just going to have to take her wrath. I imagine you'd be rather lucky if she wasn't completely pissed off with you (and she has all the right to be). Do everything you can to make amends, but above all fix what you've broken.

Uh, why don't you go see if it's repairable?

I would tell your friend the truth WHEN she gets back from her honeymoon. Then she can either 1) take it to her dress maker to get it fixed or 2) let you take it to her dressmaker. And obviously, pay her or the dressmaker for the repairs. I'm sure the dressmaker can fix it.

Oh, and I wouldn't want you to try to get it repaired while your friend is out-of-town. (I'm thinking if it was my dress...I would definitely want to be the one to take it where it needs to go...back to the dressmaker.)

Ask your friend for the dressmaker's phone number. Go to the dressmaker, and if it's not repairable, then I'm sorry but I think that you'll have to get another one made for her. Maybe some people would think that's too much, but I believe she only gave you that dress because she trusted you enough to do so, and doesn't deserve to have both that trust and her wedding memory torn. Plus, as you said, she expects to pass it to her daughter, so I think getting it either fixed or replaced would be mandatory. Good luck.

Also, apologise and be ready to have her pissed off at you for some time, don't think that just paying for the dress will inmediately fix everything (at least not right away).

At least this didn't happen BEFORE the wedding....

I think you deserve to be forgiven. Just be honest and she may understand and know that your feel really bad and are embarrased. And pay to have it fixed!

Is this a joke? Or are you totally devoid of common sense? If this were my friend, I would never forgive her.

I would totally kick your ass. But you need to man up and get the dress fixed and incur the cost. But seriously, that's something you just don't mess around with. If you wanted to try on a dress then go to David's Bridal and f*ck up one of those. The dress is not the key to a good wedding or a happy marriage, so i do think your friendship can withstand this. But you are going to have to beg.

I said forgive, as long as you pay for the repairs. Just be glad it was AFTER the wedding. things happen

Um, PerfectScore... "man up"? Isn't that kind of sexist? How can she "man up" if she's a woman?

Back to the question, though-- yes, you should definitely apologize and pay to get it fixed up. And yes, she's going to be mad, but if you help to get it repaired, then it will probably fade away with time.

Tell her immediately so she can have it fixed and apologize. it was silly to put it on since ur different sizes!!

Didn't read the part about it being after the wedding, wow she shouldn't flip too much. Just have it fixed.

Wait until she gets home from her honeymoon to tell her and then pay for it to get fixed. Max out your credit card if that is what it takes. If it were me I wouldn't be mad at you but since this is a custom dress she wanted to save for her daughter's you better be prepared for her to be really upset.

She's already married, it's not that deep. Just tell her.

Wow, I'm actually really surprised by how many people said "not forgive". I would be upset if I were the bride, but I would still forgive my friend for making this mistake. I wouldn't try to make her feel any worse than I'm sure she already feels and just ask that she pay for the repairs. The dress is just a material possession (yes, I understand it has some sentimental value), a friendship is so much more than that, though. Maybe I just don't have much of a temper, but I can see one of my close girlfriends or sisters doing the same thing and I would never want them to feel like they would lose my friendship or have me explode on them over something like that.

I wouldn't be too pissed - since its AFTER the fact. But my friends [and most of my fat ass family] would do that just to laugh at the fact that their boobs cant fit in the bust. I think she'll understand, but you should pay for it! But, if you're THAT freaked, try to get it repaired before she gets back.

It's JUST a dress! Sure, you should offer to pay for it, and your friend has every right to be upset/hurt. However I'm sure it can be fixed, and as long as you provide the funds for that, hopefully it won't be a big deal. It's probably going to sit in a closet for the next few decades, anyway!

I, personally, would never get that upset over a silly article of clothing, anyway. The only part that would bother me is the money invested, but if the friend pays for the repairs, no problem. Anyway, good luck!

I would forgive, but i'd expect my friend to get it fixed by my dressmaker, definitly.

This in no way compares to a wedding dress, but once my friend and I bought makeup together. It wasn't expensive, but it was brand new. Anyway, my friend wanted to borrow my eyeshadow, and when she was walking it back to me, dropped it and it shattered. She offered right away to get me a new one, which I replied, oh that's ok. So she didn't. That bothered me, if it had been the other way around, I totally would've went out and got her another one, even if she had said no. She knew how much I liked it. Oh well, that's why there's a saying that if you're going to let someone borrow something, make sure you're ok with not getting it back.

myladybloom: i think she meant it more like 'grow a pair'... its not a sexist thing its just a saying...

i said not forgive because i dont care how down and goofy you are...you dont try on someones wedding dress..sure its after the wedding but man oh man i would be mad

offer to pay for it to be fixed right away and grovel for a while...

but if she loved you enough for you to be her maid of honor she will probably get over it eventually

I highly doubt it can't be fixed. Tell her the truth, beg for forgiveness, and pay whatever it costs to get it fixed to perfection.

I agree - get it fixed -tell her the truth and beg for forgiveness. Yes it is "just a dress" but it is not YOUR dress it is her's. While I would forgive my friend for the mistake- I would be really super pissed if she did this and didnt pay to get it fixed.

her's= hers (sorry!)

Um, PerfectScore... "man up"? Isn't that kind of sexist? How can she "man up" if she's a woman?

That was a joke, because as I was typing that I was with a friend and he always says "man up" so I was making fun of him.

Honestly, it's just a dress and it was AFTER the wedding so does it really even matter anymore?? Does anyone ever wear their dress again?

Forgive. The wedding is already over and surely some sort of alteration would need to be done in the future if it is passed on and the daughter would want to wear it. This opinion is easy for me to comment on because I feel it is ONLY A DRESS not the marriage. For your sake I hope your friend feels the same way.

She said she wants her daughter to wear it. That makes it special.

Not forgive. You were a total idiot--immature and inconsiderate. Fix it, but don't expect to get back to being friends just yet.

Forgive! BUT you better get that thing fixed ASAP! Don't just assume its not repairable. Bring it to where it was made and do your best.

Forgive. Seriously, it's just a dress. Of course, I'd be incredibly angry and upset, but I'm sure that it can be fixed. You just have to hand over the cash. Hopefully you friend will understand.

It isn't JUST a dress, it's very special. But it isn't everything. Expect her to be extremely pissed off for a while, but as long as you get it fixed exactly how it was by the dressmaker who made it-- or pay for her to make a new one, she should be okay. If she trusted you enough to make you her maid of honor, then she values you greatly as a friend-- and will feel the pain that much more. It's both a blessing and a curse, for a lack of a better term.

So pay for the dress to be fixed/remade, and take her out to dinner for a girl's night out!

I agree with BeachBarbie. Talk to her when she gets back. A) I wouldn't want someone taking it upon themselves to have a custom made dress reparied without my knowledge and B) I wouldn't want my friend to call me while I'm on my honeymoon with rather distressing news. I do think you can be forgiven, allow her to be mad, scream, yell whatever, ask her for her forgiveness and then pay for the reparis if repairs are possible. Realize it may take her some time to forgive you, that part is up to her, not you. I do hope she forgives you and that the dress is repairable.

If you decide to repair the damage (I would) and you can't afford it, suggest a payment plan. I was in a situation where I had something of mine destroyed by a friend; she offered to "do what she could." It made me feel guilty for wanting a replacement and unsure of how to continue the conversation.

I'm calling FAKE on this post for a number of reasons.

Mainly, if her friend is a "few sizes" smaller, and the dress was literally made for her, there is no chance you'd get that thing zipped up period. Sorry but everyone knows how fitted wedding dresses are.

And to myladybloom, a lot of things in this world are sexist, and telling someone, anyone, to "man up", is not even on the radar. If you are going to be PC patrol, at least choose a battle worth fighting.

Maybe she sucked in her gut. *shrugs* Well, if the topic is true, I vote forgiveness because it is a material thing that can possibly be fixed by the same designer/tailor who made it. Tell your friend what happened and that you want to have it fixed at your expense.

I still can't for the life of me understand what the appeal is of trying on another's friend's wedding dress. If you too curious for your own good or desire to get pretty'ed up for a couple hours, go to a bridal shop but after you get a free make over at Saks.

Forgive provided that you pay for excellent repair of the dress. You broke it, you fix it. Truthfully, I believe the dress can be repaired.

I would:
a) expect you to pay for full repairs on the dress and then
b) never speak to you ever again

Get it sorted!

Pay for a high quality repair job! Then apologize like hell. Good luck to you and I hope you don't lose a friend.

I would rip you apart limb by limb and burn your organs.
LOL. NOoooo! Yes it is a really shi**y thing you did, but to totally end the friendship? probably not. I'd be miffed for a bit, and yes expect you to fix it PERFECTLY, but I wouldnt go so far as to never talk to you again.
You must have been close; you were her maid of honor.

I cannot believe so many people said not forgive!

It a dress!!! Not her first born...I truly believe this is why marriages fail..so many people are caught up in the possessions and whoopla that comes with a WEDDING and not focused in a marriage..Who says the daughter she may or may not have would even want to wear her wedding dress if the child to be even gets married?

Anywhoo...pay to get it fixed and apologive profusely. If your friend lets this come between you guys then she is really not a friend to begin with... There are many things that can ruin friendships material possessions should NOT be one of them

At first, I thought "not forgive," but then I thought if MY best friend did that, I'd be pretty annoyed (but then I would probably laugh really hard at the thought of her in my wedding dress) but if she was extremely apologetic and offered to pay for all the repairs, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. This is AFTER the wedding. BEFORE, I would NOT be as accommodating!!!

I was undecided on this one. this is a tough one!! Only because a wedding dress is a very high thing on a womens list. Due to the fact that maybe your daughter might wear it one day. I say get it fix now!!! Find out who made it and take it to them.. Hopefully you friend never finds out and you get her dressed fixed.

get the dress fixed... if you can i definately said forgive though. its a dress!!! and it was an accident! anyone who said not forgive has got to be a heartless heifer. for real dear... its no thang.

I completely agree with Beach Barbie!

I also agree with jaxon!

popgoestheworld - how can you call fake on this post? what does that even mean?

Do you know where she had it made? They would be the best people to fix it. If yes bring it there and ask them to repair it. When your friend comes home you can tell her what happend and hopefully ad that it is being mended as you speak.
Don't tell her on her honeymoon, it would probably put a serious damper on her mood and only worsen things. When she comes home is an early enough time to tell her. Maybe you can also buy her flowers as an apology gift.

"popgoestheworld - how can you call fake on this post? what does that even mean?"

It means I think that someone fabricated this "confessional". You know, like, made it up.

I obviously could be wrong, but after reading it, that was my hunch. Unless Dear confesses, we'll never know.

I'm not losing sleep over it.

Forgive! Its not like you had any malicious intent when you were trying it on..plus its after the wedding..I would wait until after she gets back from the honeymoon (no need to stress her while she is away) then tell her you are sorry and you will fix it.

I can't decide. When you out the dress on you knew it was too small. It needs to go directly back to the dress maker and let her make the determination of what can be done. Sometimes things look worse than they actually are and sometimes they really are ruined. You need to be honest with her and be prepared for her to be extremely angry with you. If it was made just for her I am guessing it was not that cheap. Be prepared for it to cost you a small fortune.