The older you get the more perspective you seem to gain in regards to yourself and those around you. With age, I’ve definitely come to see certain friends and family members more clearly, and it hasn't always been for the best. Though love may be unconditional, a particularly challenging family member can quickly hurt relationships and turn an entire extended family upside down.
Though I’ve been fairly fortunate in this respect, not all my friends have, and they continue to suffer the repercussions of their siblings, cousins, or even parents’ actions. Have you dealt with this kind of scenario before? Ladies, do tell, do you have a member of your family that continues to be difficult?









Francesco Biasia
Antik Batik
Miss Sixty
I have two little sisters, one who is 22 and one who is 16 (I'm 26). My 16 year old sister is surprisingly mature and I love being around her, she's always upbeat, laidback and pleasant. We get along well because we both kind of go with the flow and don't let things get to us.
On the other hand, my 22 year old sister seems to thrive off making drama within my family. She's staying at my parents' house over the summer and frequently picks fights with my other sister and puts her down. When I go to my parents' house, she's always grumpy and ready to jump down your throat. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around her, trying not to set her off. I wonder how she doesn't understand how she treats other people. I am still holding on to hope that she'll grow out of this.
1I have a sister who is completely oblivious. If i tell her something in sisterly confidence she'll go run and shout it to my dad and her boyfriend. it is soooo irritating, i've vowed that i'd never tell anything else and i haven't.
2Every family has one. My Uncle is a drug addict and a cocaine dealer and he is such a liar and is prone to HUGE mood swings. Luckily for us he's not around anymore but that also means that we can't have any contact with his daughter who we all love very much. It's sad but it's worth it to keep him away. The rest of my family is exactly the opposite of him and it's all because of the drugs.
3My cousins are stubborn, selfish and disrespectful. I hate the way they treat other people. A few years ago when I lost some weight, my cousins were very rude and verbally abusive. They would tell everyone we were with including my parents that I was "like 80lbs" and every time I went to the bathroom to pee they would question me infront of everyone if I went to go throw up. It made going out to eat really awkward and made me feel guilty and ugly. Now they are the same size/smaller than I am and they think they are beautiful. Both of them forgot my birthday and the older one actually wrote me a very angry text message on my birthday and I cried most of the night. I see/talk to the younger one from time to time but I try to avoid the older one as much as possible because she just puts me in a bad mood.
4My 20 year old sister (i'm older) always causes drama in my family. Just this past year alone she's stole my mom's dog twice (my mom still hasn't gotten her back, and probably never will, so for Mothers Day I got her a Chihuahua, they are insperable!), verbally abused my mother & stepfather, and picked three fights with me when I took her out to see the S&TC movie. It's like a previous poster said, it's like walking on eggshells around her, hoping not to set her off. Sometimes I think there's something really wrong with her. Her father's bipolar (I have a different dad), so maybe she is too. When I last spoke with her she told me she's suffering from social anxiety (self diagnosed) and she's going to see a therapist. This is good news, because it means she's getting help and maybe she'll be able to figure out what's going on with her. I pray that she can get the help she needs.
5I have a very demanding cousin. She's definitely bossy, angry and immature. I don't understand how she has friends...? Even married.
My father is just like me, so of course we bump heads.
6My Mom and I are constantly at odds...she can be really condescending and is a master manipulator.
7I have to choose just one?? Just kidding.
Ummm....well, it depends on the time. Right now it's a brother who is just beyond toleration, but in the past it's been a sister. It's all a matter of who's feeling their oats at the moment.
8My Brother. I could get into but it's just way too much to type and stressful
9I have a spiteful older sister who is not a big fan of mine. She had always been truculent to me in my times of success. I have generally remained compassionate towards her but her behavior lately has finally pushed me over the edge. I still love my nieces and hope things work out well, but I'm not trying to console her about anything these days. My engagement then marriage earlier this year were big breaking points.
She tried to sabotague my destination wedding after trying to sway me and my dad from my fiance in the months prior. We haven't talked in like six months but I have learned that she had tried to remain in contact with my in-laws whom she met at the wedding and those ties finally got severed after she trash talked me and my husband a bit too much to them. My father says that she still speaks ill of me in her house and flips out when he asks her to refrain from doing that when he is around.
10I completely forgot to say my berating and condescending father. He's a complete ass and doesn't think so. He constantly shouts my business (just like my sister) and never talks to me unless its to judge me. I do a lot of things in spite of him and I can't wait to move away (January) so i don't have to look at him.
11I have issues with my dad. We're very similar so we're constantly butting heads. Plus he has issues with alcoholism, so it's not always such a great time to be around him.
12I have a whole side of a family like that.
13My younger sister who think she knows everything and anything. Blah. To make it short and sweet, she was a teen mother.
14My sister. She thinks she is the best in our family. She is always on my case about something. We just started speaking again last year after not talking for two. The only reason I talk to her now is so I can see my nieces. She constantly holds that over my head and everyone elses. If we're not nice to her or speak our mind to her, we don't get to see them. She doesn't like my husband because he's in the Army but one of my brothers is in the Army too and she's ok with that. She won't talk to my oldest brother because of the way he treated her when they were younger but I have to kiss her @ss, when she treated me just like he treated her. She's a b!tch but we have to put up with it to see her little girls.
15My godmother. Long story however there is definitely bad blood between my parents and her.
16My Mother in law. She's very demanding - especially in public and in 'service' type situations - like restaurants, hotels etc. She thinks that as soon as she walks in everyone should drop everything and cater to her, I'm not even sure she's aware that there are other people there wanting the same things she does (food, valet, whatever). Also things always have to be done her way. It used to make me very angry, until this past Christmas she once again went completely overboard with Christmas even when we specifically asked her not to. So my husband talked to her and it did not go well. It was then that I finally realized that she has issues deeper than I ever imagined and I now feel sorry for her for these parts of her personality. On the other hand, she's an awesome Grandmother, loves those children with all her heart, would lay down her life for them. She means well, she just doesn't always act like she does. It's very hard sometimes to deal with, but I'm learning... lol and we've only been married for 12 years
17I have difficult parents and a difficult older sister. I often feel bad venting to friends about them because they get such a one sided story, thankfully all of them are mature enough to realize, when giving advice, that they are only hearing one side of the story.
most people tell me with time things will get better with my folks but I hate to say it, right now it seems rather bleak. as for things with my sister... I'm perfectly fine not talking to her for years to come. yeah she's blood but some of the sh*t she pulled is just unforgivable.
18BlairBear, I sympathize. I have had to kiss my sister's butt for years to have access to my nieces. I am super close with her eldest two but not the last three simply because I can't see maintaining my one-sided relationship with her for over another decade.
19My dad used to be very difficult but I guess being the first-born daughter, that is to be expected. As I grew into womanhood, he eventually became more laid back with me.
20I have difficult parents. I seriously believe they both have personality disorders -- of the narcissistic, bi-polar variety. They're prone to pathological lying, too.
I used to struggle with them, but these days, I'm doing well with them. I found ways to put up passive boundaries, and due to their personality disorders, they're somewhat easy to manipulate. They're like caricatures.
21My mother is difficult. She thrives on making my life a living hell. Our whole "relationship" has been a constant struggle. She belittles my siblings and I, puts her husband (my stepdad, who is an *sshole and also difficult!) over us, is very blatant about not caring about how what she says or does makes us feel, minimizes my contribution to the household; ignoring the fact that I have over 25,000 in student loans to pay off (with no help from her), all because she didn't help me with a dime of tuition (because according to her, since I want to further my education, it's my full responsibility). As soon as I move out of this house (which I should've a long time ago, but did not in order to attend my dream grad school), I will cut off ALL contact with her!
22yes my sister..
23Yes, one sister and one brother really bother me. And their spouses aren't the greatest either.
24My mother. I won't go into all of it but she is the devil!
25I think I'm the most problematic member of my family, to be honest--not because I cause anyone any problems, just because I'm sort of the black sheep anyway
26Definitely.
27I have an older brother who is a drug user and it affects all the family. We try to help him but he always relapses. It really bugs me because he manipulates my mom and he doesn't care about his kids.
I mean c'mon, he doesn't even change for his children. He wont change unless he really wants to. Its so sad.
I was pretty bad too back in the days but I have sobered up and started living right.
So I try to be understanding, but it really bugs me that he can't be a man enough to change. It's all in your mind.
If I was able to get through it, I know he can too but he doesn't want to. = (
My younger sister causes so much drama it would take hours to give all the details.
28Definitely my mom. We've probably only had two 'real' conversations ever. Anytime she talks to me, she's just putting me down in the worst way. Recently my brother got married and his wife made it so that he doesn't even talk to her anymore; she does cause a lot of drama, but I know he still wants to talk to her. It's vague but it would take forever to tell a whole story. A few others but who has time to write it all...:/
29I can completely relate to these comments. My sister not only harasses me every day, but can't even function like a normal human being! She loves to use profanity and is extremely disrespectful, not to mention lazy and stupid. She loves to cause exhausting drama and thrives on attacking others' self-esteem so that she can feel better about herself. She doesn't live in reality and is a complete piss-a**. Her behavior disrupts our entire family, but unfortunately she doesn't want to get the mental help that she so desperately needs.
SHE'S A LOSER!!
30One more thing. My sister can't be trusted with anything private. Once, she blabbed something in front of a total stranger in the womens' restroom, and tonight she felt that my mom had to know about something I told her FOUR YEARS AGO!! Technically, she's insane and I mean that in the medical sense.
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