Don't make demands or pout. The next time he cancels plans at the last minute, say "I turned down plans with a friend because you and I were going to do something. So in the future, please give me more notice."

As far as choosing his friends over you, there's nothing you can do about that. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't. Can't change that.

There are plenty of ways you can share your feelings without being naggy or clingy. You can get your point across in just one or two sentences. "I'd really like it if you let me know ahead of time so I can make other plans. I wouldn't mind if this were the first time, but it's not."

On the other hand, there really isn't much you can do to make him pick you over his friends. It's just a personality thing.

Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you.

I don't think you need to learn how to fight, but actually learn how to not get walked on/taken advantage of. If you let your boyfriend continue to flake on you and you say nothing he is going to keep pushing the envelope. It sounds like you have a great attitude, and when he picks his boys or cancels last minute, do what you can to find something great to do with your girlfriends and maximize the time you have when he is off doing other things - it will not seem like as much of a disappointment when he does it.

Just let him know that it bothers you when he cancels plans last minute. He's being very inconsiderate and if you don't say anything, he's going to keep doing it.

If you don't want to come off as clingy or needy, then don't get overly emotional or nag. I would let him know, it's extremely inconsiderate to cancel plans at the last minute. Tell him you would like advance notice, so you can do something with your friends.

If you continue to put up with his inconsiderate behavior, you set yourself up to be a doormat. In my experiences, most men don't like doormats. Respect yourself, your needs and wants. If you don't let him know what's bothering you, then it will put him in the position to guess what you're problem is. The other person usually guesses wrong. That's not fair to anyone in a relationship. Remember, some guys are clueless Be assertive.

I hate it when someone wants you to take hints and guess their feelings instead of just putting it out there. it's really annoying. It shows a lack of respect for others and for yourself. Just put your feelings out there.

In my experience, people respect you more if you are honest and straightforward about your feelings. You can never expect any relationship that you have to work out unless you can do this. He is not a mind reader, and you have no right to get really upset about these things if he has no idea that you are upset. Just tell him straight up that you do not like it when he cancels plans at the last minute. It is rude to do this to someone over and over again, and you need to tell him that. As for spending more time with friends, well, I would just think that you are young and/or have not been together for very long. You can tell him that you want to spend more time together. You have to communicate your feelings with your partner, good and bad, or your relationship will not work out. Good luck to you.

Instead of letting something go and then bring it up later, just address the issue as it arises! I went through this same exact thing and once I started being more assertive and less passive, the guys I dated actually respected me more!

I agree with TidalWave. He will respect you more. If you give people room to walk all over you, it will always be taken up!

If everything about him bothering you and you don't see the relationship lasting, there's nothing wrong with ending it.

As my mom always tells me, you'll know you've found "the one" if he drives you less crazy than other men.

You received some excellent advice so far.

I agree -- you need to communicate your reasonable concern. It's okay for you to communicate what's bothering you. Don't be scared. Talk to him in a calm, clear manner. You won't come across as whiney or demanding. If your boyfriend is a good man, he would hear you out. He would be considerate towards you, and be open to modifying his behavior.

It's true -- men don't like doormats. Personally, I knew a man who left his girlfriend for that reason (I'm not saying your boyfriend would leave you over this. I'm just sharing what I personally observed). There were times he knew his girlfriend was upset, but somehow, she buried her feelings, and insisted everything was "fine." She refused to communicate. Since she didn't communicate, they couldn't work out the issue. After a couple of years of this (toxic) behavior, a lot of unresolved (unspoken) issues piled up, and there was a lot of awkward tension in the relationship. Because she held back, there was a lack of good communication between them. There was a communication breakdown. The man couldn't handle anymore of that, and he broke-up with her. The sad kicker is that the woman wanted to marry him (per what her mother and sister told him). Aparently, to her, he was The One. Oh well.

I just had this experience with a guy friend of mine, and honestly it's really important to communicate when something pisses you off. For weeks I was steaming about his sexist comments re: women drivers when we were in the car. One day I just said "that's enough, are you TWELVE? are you joking? do you REALLY feel like that." He backed off and apologized, at which point I pointed out that he is a hypocrite because every time I say something even remotely like that he goes off on me. Lets just say I think he respects me a bit more now.