Wow your friend sounds a lot like me!

I totally plan on using almost all the $ on the honeymoon and not the wedding.

um, the marriage?!? I wish people would focus on that.

I'm with javsmav on this one.
But if I had to pick, I would say the wedding. I see the honeymoon as a waste of time. I don't really want to go on one. My bf thinks the exact opposite, so we'll see how that works out.

My boyfriend and I agree that the wedding is just one day and its the marriage that matters. We'd rather not blow a ton of money to have a ton of people at our wedding. We'll have a small, intimate wedding and a big luxurious honeymoon.

I am having the wedding I want, which isn't huge, and I am going to Dragon*Con for my honeymoon :3 Lol.

It's no out of country destination, but it will be something we can always do for our anniversary!

The wedding seems to be more about the family and friends. We wanted to elope, but the fam wouldn't have any of that! So, we're keeping the wedding to 40 people max and leaving the next day on a week-long fall cruise along the east coast.

The marriage.

The honeymoon, for sure. We plan on going to Cyprus, and that's sure to provide a lot more fun and memories than standing about in fancy clothes for a few hours!

My wedding is the only day I'll get to have everyone I love in the same room together. To me, that's a huge deal. I don't care at all about the honeymoon. I have no desire to travel anywhere.

i would spend more on the honeymoon than the wedding that's for sure. but even so, i'd make sure to put some of that money away in a nest egg!

THANK YOU to all the people who said the marriage.

Everyone emphasizes the wedding itself and we forget that marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment. The napkins and flowers won't help you build a lasting relationship.

Dear - I'd like to see a post about communication skills or conflict resolution techniques. Those are the things that make a relationship - not honeymoons and loads of sex.

Since marriage isnt an option here. I pick wedding. Honeymoon doesnt always have to be right after the wedding so that can wait.

I say wedding (and marriage of course but that wasn't the poll question) My fiance and I already live together so our view on the honeymoon is just like any other vacation that we already take normally but the wedding is one special day that's just for us and about our love and we are really excited to have that memory even if it's just one day in our lives together . . .plus i agree with imLissy about having all the people you care and love together to celebrate

I don't think the question was saying that marriage isn't important. It's clearly asking of your specific wedding time, is the wedding or the honeymoon of more importance to you. That being said, I think each would be equally important to me.

Abosolutely agree that marriage is the primary thing here overall! But in regards to the poll at hand, I'd honestly say for myself the wedding and the honeymoon are of equal importance for entirely different reasons. In planning my wedding now, the event honestly doesn't have much to do with my fiance or me -- it's about getting our closest friends and family together to thank them for supporting and loving us. We're trying to plan an event that they will all enjoy (and a reunion or sorts for spread-out family and old college buddies). The honeymoon will be our selfish time -- that's an experience for us to get away from the wedding madness and reconnect to remember why we chose to spend our lives together in the first place.

I think it depends on the relationship. If you're already living together and/or having sex, I think the actual wedding is more important. But, if you're saving sex for marriage, I think the honeymoon is waaaay more important.

I have to say that pretty much throughout the entire day of the wedding I was clock watching. I was soooo excited to get to the airport and leave for Antigua which was our honeymoon destination.

I know it sounds a little bit rude, but after all the planning and spending and parents interfering I just was totally ready to just get to that honeymoon.

I think the marriage is more important but I was more interested in the honeymoon.

Kim
http://www.printable-wedding-invitations.com

"Neither — I’d rather take the money and buy a house."

This is sort of what my husband and I did. I didn't want a wedding or honeymoon. We used our money to off our debts. Within a short time, we were completely debt-free. We even paid-off our student loans (including those from graduate and professional schools). We were in our 20's. We spent our money improving our financial health.

If I had tons of money to spend on a wedding or honeymoon I'd rather have a small wedding, a nice but not overly expensive honeymoon and take the money and buy a house. If I had to choose between a nice wedding or a nice honeymoon I'd pick a nice honeymoon, that is more about the couple. I'd say the marriage is the most important part of it not the celebration.

Hmmm...I couldn't choose, I had an amazing time at both!

1. Marriage
2. Wedding
3. Honeymoon

The wedding!! Hopefully it's a day where you recognize you're joining your lives together, and it's great to have a nice reception with everyone you know until all hours that night!! The honeymoon doesn't have to be a vacation..it's basically the first few months of your marriage, so I definitely say the wedding is important!!

haha javs

I'm still waiting for my honeymoon.. so once I have one, maybe I'll change my mind.. I put a lot of focus on my wedding though, not to mention a lot of money, so I feel that it is pretty important.. Trips have a lot of variables out of your control, but an event that is typically so thoroughly planned out is expected to run more smoothly, and just seems like the bigger memory in the long run. Aren't honeymoons filled with fuzzy memory mimosas and margaritas???

honeymoon
my wedding, i want it to be a small gathering of my closest friends and family and his closest friends and family. but i want my honeymoon to be HUGE. its the first time im gonna do it and i want it to be perfect! wedding is just about letting people know that im married and getting gifts. but the honeymoon is about connecting, first time as hubby and wife. spending a kind of vacation we've never had before. and coming home and spending the rest of our lives together *sigh*
i cant wait. maybe next year

It's too bad people have to make choices between the two. If I was really struggling. I mean really really broke I would opt for one of those package deals in the Caribbean or Mexico if possible. Something nice on a beach with a few guests who are invited and then you are already there to have your honeymoon.