You definitely need him to make the first move. Instead of waiting for an end-of-the-night kiss, which is SO expected and puts a lot of pressure on him, make it easy for him to do during the next date. Sit close to him, look at him when you're talking, and keep your hair out of your face. If he's interested in kissing you, he'll look at your mouth - it's a dead giveaway. If he still doesn't go for it, you can always do a kiss on the cheek - totally innocent yet a great way to let him know it's okay to try something.

You've just gotten out of a year long relationship two months ago and I assume that this guy friend of yours has heard all the gory details of your exboyfriend, right? Maybe he feels that it's too soon for you and he doesnt want to become a rebound guy for your relationship. There's obviously a reason that your friend is staying back from you and not taking things to the next level so maybe you should respect that. You've only been single for a couple of months, why rush into another thing with a good friend of yours? If you find out you're not ready to settle into another relationship again then you'll just end up hurting him and ruining the amazing friendship you have right now. Maybe your friend realizes that.

Just relax, slow down, stay friends and DONT make a move. He'll make his intentions clear when the time is right.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

I think you should make a move, and if it doesn't work out then you can laugh about it afterwards, as you are such good friends. I think he just doesn't know what you want, and is therefore holding back. Tell him, kiss him, text him, something like that. You might miss out on something great if you don't take a chance.

Just play it cool, let him do the chasing. Maybe he doesn't want to f*ck things up by moving too quickly.

I'd go middle of the road- while I wouldn't recommend just flat out kissing him or telling him, you can also make it a little easier for him if that is what he wants to do. Touch him more when you are talking- like touch his arm to make a point. Link arms with him when you are walking out of a restaurant (not hold hands but link arms- its more casual but still involves touching him), kiss him on the cheek the next time he hugs you good night. If he really is just waiting to make a move, those might be the small encouragements he needs.

Is it possible that he's gay?

I have a friend who was in a similar type of situation. She kept going out on these "dates" with a guy... He flirted with her heavily... But it turned out he wasn't looking for a girlfriend... Just a friend, because he was gay.

You need to make a move!
He's probably had your sob stories and now he's wondering where he stands. You need to affirm a few things and make your move. ;p

OMG, I had the same exact situation with this guy a couple of years back. We went out all the time, had an insane amount of fun together, and definitely flirted heavily. And just like you, I would always get a big ol' hug at the end of the night! I am not recommending it, but I believe we finally broke the ice over drinks one night.

Honestly, there was so much built up pressure and anticipation that, while dating, I was wishing things were as they were before. It was almost like -- okay, we have this relationship that has all of these qualities...except for intamacy, so why not?

The thing is, you can make every rationalization in the world, i.e. he's scared, he doesn't want to ruin your friendship, he's not sure if you feel the same way...but none of these things would matter if he wholeheartedly was ready to pursue a relationship with you. Also, are you being completely honest with yourself? I ask because when it comes to matters of the heart, don't we all feel more compelled to stash these concerns elsewhere and follow what you truly feel because you just know that deep down, this is the person for you...?

My advice is to continue to be his friend. Don't let things get weird. It doesn't sound like you're at the point of "this is the man for me" but more like, "well, we're attracted to each other, get along, and he already acts like my boyfriend". Just relax and have fun!

Speaking as a guy who has been in this situation one two many times, you may find that he is either (a) too much of a gentleman, (b) shy about the making the move, or (c) afraid that if he makes the move it will freak you out and he will lose you forever. Quite possibly, all three.

I have no regrets, despite being in this situation before, but occasionally I think back and wonder what would have happened in a couple of situations had I been brave enough to make the leap. Sometimes fear of losing what we have (a good friend) is a much bigger barrier to going forward to the next step than you realize.

I wouldn't push anything, but keep going out and having fun - good, dependable friends who you can fully enjoy your time with are hard to come by.

He's probably afraid it's too soon, afraid he's going to ruin the friendship if you're not into him, afraid he's going to be turned down by someone he obviously really likes.

So please jump his bones next time the moment is right. If I hadn't kissed him mid-sentence 2 1/2 years ago, my boyfriend and I would still be "flirting". Of course then you have to deal with being the girl who made the first move - but hey, if you know what you want, get over the 0.5% chance (I promise, not more) that you've misread his signals (you really, really haven't) and grab the guy by the chin and plant a big fat one on his lips.

Don't bring up the subject, that's just awkward. Just go in for the kill.

If he turns away, just say "you looked so darn good in that light, I couldn't help myself" - and have a laugh. But I'm sure what you'll be laughing about won't be that!

In addition to all of the good advice here I would say maybe try mixing up your "date" routine with some new activities. Loosen up over some drinks and dancing, you can get really close and sexy while dancing and there are lots of opportunities for a kiss when you are in his arms! If it gets awkward that you are too close you can blame it on the drinks and the music. This is going to sound weird but another activity with lots of opportunities for touching is pool, or even hitting some balls at the driving range, something with lots of chances for him to help you "correct your form" lol. Seriously though I think you might be in a little rut right now with your "go on a date but be just friends" routine, and getting out and doing different activities might really help him think of you in a different light!

*melts* how sweet! He's the guy friend who wants to be more than friends, but he's afraid of ruining your friendship. Do what's in your heart, if you like him, make a move.

This sounds EXACTLY like me and my now-husband. We started off being friends in high school, always flirting but nothing more. My friends all wondered why we weren't together. We went to different colleges and there would be months where I wouldn't talk to him at all because I was trying to get over him, but that never worked. We always ended up talking or hanging out. My friends were so sick of me talking about him all the time! We tried to date once in college, but that didn't work (he wasn't ready for a serious relationship yet) and I ended up not talking to him for 6-8 months because I was so pissed at him. Once again, that didn't stick and we became friends again.

He's just the sweetest, most amazing guy and has always been one of my best friends. Three years ago, I got into a really bad relationship with a guy and he basically was waiting for me to get out of it so we could have a chance. He even talked to my roommate about it. Once I broke up with the other guy, we sort of courted for two months...flirted, hung out a lot, held hands, but nothing more. We talked about dating a lot, but I told him I was scared that if it didn't work out I would lose him as a friend. He said he knew it would work, I finally took the leap and kissed him, and we just got married earlier this month! The thing is, he wanted to make sure I was over my prior boyfriend and preferred me to make the first move so he knew I was completely ready. This may be the case in your situation. Best of luck!!!

TheMissus...lol on the gay comment. My bf, of two years, was the same way. He was always a gentleman on our dates. A goodnight kiss, even after the first date, is customary to me. To him it wasn't.

On our first date, he got ready to leave and we were talking, at the front door. I waited and waited for at least a hug. I became impatient and said, "OK, give me a hug". He did and when we parted, I quickly kissed him bye. He looked startled. I thought I had been to forward. That night when he got home, he called me to thank me for the date. He called the next day to thank me also. He kept asking me out. I never attempted another kiss, but we always hugged. I did have thoughts he might be gay though. Thankfully it turned out he wasn't.

Many months later, we committed to each other. That's when he told me he loved the surprise kiss and it was exciting to him. No other woman had ever done that. He also said he wanted too kiss me, but was being a gentleman and he was shy.

So, he may just be a gentleman or shy. If you kiss him and he recoils in horror, I don't think it will ruin the friendship. He might think you'll recoil in horror. He may find it exciting also. Don't second guess yourself. Do what you feel is right. You'll never know, unless you take a chance.

Definitely make a move! Something similar happened to a freind, now-boyfriend, and I agree with what mcslp said. AFter we got together, my boyfirend told me that was why it took him so long to make the move...so definitely give it a go if you think hes worth it and someone you actually want to be in a committed relationship with. GOOD LUCK!

I think he's trying to tell you something but doesn't have the balls to make a move in case you don't feel the same way. I'd just joke with him and ask "are you flirting with me?" or ask him flat out if he likes you. Unless he's gay, he wants you. Go for it. There is no reason why you can't make the move. It's old fashioned to think that the man has to make the first move. If you want to be with him than go for it. It sounds like it will be a lot of fun, he seems like a catch.