No, thank God. I can't even imagine the shock and pain of it.

The way I found out:

Standing in the kitchen with his mom, dad and his 9yr old daughter. His crazy ex-girlfriend/baby momma comes running upstairs from the back of the house because my (ex)boyfriend was ignoring her calls and hanging up on her. She and my ex start screaming at each other in the middle of the kitchen, the rest of us are all standing awkwardly trying to blend into the walls when suddenly... his crazy ex screams

"SO DID YOU TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND THAT WE F*CKED LAST WEEK?!"

Everyone goes silent and slowly they all look at me... his baby momma with a big smirk on her face and everyone else looking horrified. I calmly say "Well... I think I'll go downstairs now." and walk down to my ex's bedroom while planning his horribly painful death.

Yes, I have, and it ended our relationship. For me, cheating is irreconciliable.

At the time, it was very traumatic. However, in hindsight, I consider it a blessing. Firstly, it set me free to end up with my husband, who is a much more upstanding man than my cheating ex-boyfriend. Secondly, having gone through being cheated-on, I am stronger and wiser. I am NOT afraid of being cheated-on. I don't live with that fear. If that sad event happens again, I know I can get past it (because I have), and end up in a better place.

Yeah *sigh*

My ex-boyfriend cheated on me at a party and my best friend/cousin was there. Anyways, she saw him getting pretty touchy feely with a girl we know and then they disappeared into the next room. Apparently before he went into the next room with that girl (who knew he was dating me) he asked my cousin if she would tell me and that he didnt want me to know so she lied and said she would'nt tel but then called me and told me anyways. He was an idiot and then the next day i went to get some of my stuff from his apartment and he had ANOTHER girl there. What an A**

my ex cheated on me over and over and over and over and over again. I kept putting up with it. He would say to me "girls are like video games. I play them for a minute and then get bored with them. And besides, they know you're my girl." Yeah. Not for long.

I've suspected it in past relationships but never had proof. It must be devastating and I hope I never go through it.

Yes. And yes it's a relationship ender. I just won't ever put up with it.

I have never been cheated on, that I am aware of. I am not naive enough to think that just because I don't know about it doesn't mean it never happened, though.

Yes. A few times and I have had no problems walking away from those jerks.

"I am not naive enough to think that just because I don't know about it doesn't mean it never happened, though."

I am! I love my bubble of complacency. It's so warm and cozy in here

an ex-boyfriend cheated on me with my friend who was married at the time (don't know if she's still married). we broke up & i found out later that he'd cheated on me with A LOT of other girls. it was a super unhealthy relationship anyway, so it was a good thing that finding out he'd cheated knocked sense into me or else i'd probably still be with him, fighting & crying on a regular basis.

I haven't been cheated on, but I was in a long-distance relationship, and even though I knew he wasn't that kind of guy, I worried about other girls changing his mind about wanting to be with me. We're over now though, but not because of any cheating.

I said other because I've been cheated on that I know of. One of my exes is still a pretty good friend of mine and he once emailed me, years after we broke up, and said that he was very sorry for something he had done and he wanted to talk about it later. That later conversation never happened, but I can't imagine what else it could have been. In that situation, I'd rather not get confirmation, though. Why mess up a 5 year friendship over something that happened when we were so young?

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That should've said I've NEVER been cheated on that i know of...

I too have never been cheated on "that I know of". But I have a strange feeling that it probably happened right before my ex dumped me out of the blue.... while he was working on assignment 500 miles away...

More than once, and usually with a girl who was my best friend at the time. I choose different kinds of people to date and be friends with now.

Yes. And the way I found out was that I used to call my Mom every night from my bedroom phone after I got home from work and would chat while I changed into casual clothes. I hit 'Redial" to call her and got some woman. I hung up and hit redial again and was totally baffled as to how I could get someone other than my mother because she was the only person I called from that phone. Ever. Then I remembered that the night before my boyfriend asked to use the phone to call his mother or somebody. I called the phone company, found out whose number that was, and that was that. I had my proof. He tried to deny it, but after awhile gave up and just got pissed off at me. That was the end of that relationship.

Nope I was always the cheater

Yeah and thank g-d, I walked away from that a-hole. The jack-ss decided it was a smart idea to talk about his promiscuious way to my sister's bf. He was manipulative and abusive in every way possible just so he can get things in way. UGH.

Oh Jillerin I understand...

Yes...and I just knew he had cheated even though I had no reason to, and he had never cheated before...he was kind of baffled about how i knew, but I just did.

Every serious bf I've ever had (total of 3) have cheated on me. =[ Yeah....

But honestly each situation was totally different. The first one, we dated when I was 15 he was 17, and he cheated on me, but we weren't *serious*, it was just those young silly relationships. I suspected cheating and broke up with him. Then we reconnected a year later when we'd grown up a little. He was a great boyfriend the second time around, and a totally changed person. I know for a fact he didn't cheat the second time, but I later broke up with him because I knew it wasn't meant to be.

The second was just an a-hole who I stayed with because of low self esteem from ages 17 - 20. He cheated on me on New Years of our 2nd year together, and we broke up, and I found out he had cheated a lot. Then like an IDIOT we got back together. I think it was just because my self-esteem was SO low at that point, and I had lost contact with a lot of friends, and felt really alone.

The third cheated on me after about a year into our relationshio. It was an incredibly traumatic experience. I won't bother yall with the details, but this relationship was an adult relationship, unlike my previous ones. I'm not giving excuses but he was going through a tough time in his life career-wise and dealing with almost being an alcoholic. He had an alcohol PROBLEM, but he wasn't an alcoholic. ANYWAYS... one week after I found out about it, his mother, who was his best friend, died suddenly.... We worked through it, VERY slowly. I won't explain myself, because I can't, but I didn't want to throw every GOOD thing we had away over this.

I'm sure I'll catch a lot of crap on here for staying with him (it's now almost 3 years later), but I don't care. He is a caring, loving, wonderful man who has VASTLY improved since then. He has turned his life around and I am proud of him. I have no worries he'll ever cheat again. Honestly. I know my heart and I know his. We learned a lot and grew as people & as a couple after going through that.

I'll just say, a lot of people say, "If he cheats, that's the end. We are done." You cannot know WHAT you will do until you are in that situation. And you can't make judgments on what other people have done in that situation, whether you've been through it or not. Each and every situation is different.

CRAP, I wrote a book on here again! :$

Yep...bummer ha!

I've never been cheated on but unfortunately I cheated on someone and ended that relationship so quickly. If you're going to cheat, just leave. Good grief what's the point? You obviously don't care enough about the person you're with so just end the relationship and just do what you want. I've also been the "other woman". Unfortunately all said acts were with my ex. Yeah... scuttlebuckets we were. Yikes! And looking back, I feel terrible for all the people who we effected whether they know it or not. My friends still yell at me for messing it up with that guy. I never told him what exactly I did. I just told him I wasn't ready for the relationship which I wasn't. I thought I was over dealing with my ex, but clearly I wasn't. And neither was he with his girlfriend. Oy, the web we weaved. Thank God for deliverance.

I was cheated on by my boyfriend when I was like 13, but I just laugh about it now because it was a silly junior high relationship. Other than that, I've never actually had my heart broken by a cheater.

I was cheated on but the more I think about the situation I think it may have been a little bit my fault. I tried to use this crazy reverse-pyschology and it just back fired on me.

yes i have been cheated on. i have trust issues now because of him.. lucky for the people who hasn't experienced it. it's sucks..

My God....
60%?! that's depressing...:'(
I'm so glad for the women that left those relationships and found their true soulmates!!

i didn't know that i was 'very' lucky- are that many guys dogs?

Not that I know of.

No, thank god. I would kill me if something like that happened.

Yes, a few times.

I didn't find out until a year after it had happened, I stayed with him for a while because at that point we were living together. About 6 months after I found out, I left him for other reasons.

My first husband cheated...

He had a female friend since childhood, and they decided to get it on one night when he was mad at me for something or another. Then, after I asked him where he'd been, he actually told me. I was never mad at the woman, strangely, but-it was the end of us and I wanted to hide his body in the backyard, though...

Yes, he's still alive, but has been married and divorced twice since then. Karma.

No, not that I know of.

Yep...and he got the girl pregnant.

Yes, my first college boyfriend cheated on me by making out with another girl at a lounge in Boston...and I was there!! I had gone with my friends, he went with his and mine bounced early. He was dancing with this one girl a little too closely, and his friends told me they were just friends, but I was irritated and went to the bathroom to calm down. I came back out, and they were making out! I was DEVASTATED. We had only just made it official and apparently he was getting "scared"...I grabbed his arm, said "BYE" and walked out. I waited until I got outside to burst into tears. Suffice it to say, the relationship was over.

Funny you ask....

I just found out 2 days ago that my live-in boyfriend/best friend of 2 years cheated on me three months ago! (He didn't have sex or make out, but got head from some random and supposedly ugly girl when he was wasted and out of town. What kind of slut would do that?!)
Anyways, I feel so devistated knowing that I would never have done anything like that to him, and that he lied to me about it for 3 months! But the good thing is, he feels just as bad about it as I do. I kicked him out and he now living with a friend. I'm taking this weekend to figure things out and decide what I want to do. And he is taking the weekend to figure out what the hell is wrong with himself.
This is the very first time I have ever been cheated on (I'm 20) and it is the worst feeling in the world.
Thank God for xanax

Yes I unfortunately have been cheated on. It really is awful pain and just sucks the life out of you. I have been with my ex off and on for about 2 years and he cheated last year and it broke us completely. After not talking to him for months he called and begged me back, so stupid me I got back with him only to find out later he eventually started texting and calling with other girls behind my back! He said that it wasn't cheating to him because he only texted and never had any intentions of actually hanging out with them?! That's still cheating isn't it? Then as of this week after we tried it yet again I found more texts from different girls in his phone! I woke him up and kicked him out of my place. I just can't believe he would do this, why get involved with someone and do this behind their back? I'm sure i'll get slack for being the dumb girl who goes back but I did and now I have to suffer the consequences.

hottinpink9021 - eww, can you say "STD risk"? If he's done that to you when drunk then what would he do the next time? Urgh. That makes me sick. Sorry you have to go through that. x

I got my heart broken when I was 18...it took me 2 years to truly get over him, and be able to be in a relationship again...the way I found out and the way the relationship ended was terrible. I NEVER want to be in that situation again...

IMO, the pain of knowing u loved someone more than they loved u, is the hardest to deal with.

My ex-boyfriend cheated on me for pretty much the entire 2 years we were together...
with his best friend/ex-girlfriend who I had befriended and gotten pretty close to.
Almost a year into our relationship, they went to Vegas for his sister's birthday, and I checked his phone account online (I'd had a suspicion about what was going on), and found numerous pictures of him naked that he'd sent to her and vice versa, with things like, "last night was so fun."
I waited to confront them until they got home, and they both denied everything, saying they were "old pictures".
Well, one drunken night, the girl admitted to me what was going on, and he still denied it. She honestly said to me, "I'm not doing this to hurt you. I'm looking out for my number one, myself." How selfish can you be?!
I stayed with him for another year, only to discover more texts, pictures, emails, etc. I stayed because he'd ruined every bit of self-esteem I had. I was depressed and felt completely worthless.
Even though I'm glad our relationship is over because I've found a man that is 1000 times the man my ex will ever be, I would never wish that hurt & heartbreak on anyone, it's devastating.

As for karma, my ex started dating the girl...and she found him cheating on her in his car with a girl he worked with. He moved in with the girl from work. And when she moved away, the 2 douchebags got back together...and they just got a house together. We'll see how it goes this time.

Wow, this is really depressing...this so should not be over half of us.... (any of us really...). I just want to say I'm so sorry to everyone on here who has been cheated on. And wow, Fallen, geez that has to be the worst way to find out!!! 8-0!!!
I've been cheated on emotionally in my opinion and partially physically, not sex, but some other stuff, and I know how horrible that was for me, so I can't imagine how some of you guys feel.

It's so sad how many of us have gone through this. Yes, I've been cheated on and it was, hands down, the most humiliating and infuriating experiences I've ever gone through. To make matters worse, all of his friends (who at the time, I thought were my friends, too) knew for almost a year and never said anything. It was hard, but I realized I can be pretty strong when I need to be.

I'm blessed with a wonderful marriage now, but it took me so long to learn to trust again. Thank goodness my hubby's a patient man:)

No but I have dealt with trust issues when I felt that my hubby was giving some chick at his work the wrong idea and not affected when everyone thought he was sleeping with her. Once I talked to him and he realized how it must look he felt really bad.

yes i have been cheated on. the sad only was he cheated on me while i was pregnant with his child. we have been togther for 7 years. end up the girl he cheated on me with end up pregnant also. it hurted me so bad that while i was in my 8th month of pregnacy i started to lose weight. the only he can say is he's sorry.

Miss Planter!! oh my god!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really don't know what I would do if I was in your situation...
Hopefully things will get better for you.. I really pray for the best for you.

Yep, cheated on a couple times. I actually got cheated on and dumped for a fugly girl who's dream in life was to be a playboy bunny. Hehe, boy came back and told me it was the biggest mistake he ever made and the worst relationship of his life.

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