Whether you’re disagreeing over a little annoyance or in full-on fight mode with your boyfriend, eventually you may feel the need to process things a bit. Though it’d be nice to do that with your partner, sometimes getting it all out to someone else is helpful. While I wouldn’t share the nitty-gritty details of an argument to a friend, I’d probably let her know what’s going on and talk it out with her — girls can be great at providing comfort!
Then again, some women prefer to keep their personal life private or fear judgment on the part of their friend. Ladies, what about you? Do you open up to your friends if you’re in a disagreement with your significant other?
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Only when I really really really really really really need to vent.( rarely, I know how to keep my personal things to myself) Or I share my experiences with them in hopes they will learn from me and not make the same choices.
I believe, though its cool to share relationship stories, that its best to keep day to day arguements and fights to yourself. Friends tend to judge right away and scream, "You should leave him". And if you dont, then you'll look like the girl whose dating a jerk when its really not like that.
1NEVER. In the heat of the moment or at a down time when people complain about ther SO to loved ones...they usually end up regretting it.
People that love you NEVER forget who hurts you!
2My friends tend to gush about thiers...but I hold myself back for sure. When I hear about thier fights it makes me not like the guy, even though I never had any ill will towards him before.
^Kinda like what Martini Rossi said!
3Ever since I can remember I am not the type of person who vents out to anyone else about relationship problems, even to a BFF. I try to solve them myself with prayers and guidance from God. I don't want them to worry about my relationship-problems or talk me out of it.
4i'll dish the details only to my best friend... she's the only one though. I used to tell her only the good things, just so that she would like my man. But now I really want her honest opinion about things. Plus it's good to vent!
I wouldn't give all the details to any of my other friends though.
5I don't say anything negative about my husband. We don't really fight, but I think even mild annoyances should be kept between us. It would feel wrong and ugly to talk about him like that to someone else, venting or not.
6i have been through a sort of crises which i may have overreacted about somewhat but my girls were there for me big time for a month or two... i dont wanna bother them anymore because of that
7and before that i was a bit dramatic too, so...
8I'll talk about some stuff with my best friend, or my mom, but they usually get the glossed over, short version, not every dirty detail.
9Of course I do! What else am I supposed to do handle it myself?
10exactly what the first one says
11My two best friends know almost everything about me. I seriosuly think they know me better than I know myself sometimes, and it's good to get an outside perspective.
12I personally don't think is wrong, although I wouldn't do it on the fear that my friends grew spiteful towards him. I like to wash my dirty laundry in private.
However, I don't mind listening (unless you have to hear the same thing every day, and then when your friend cries to you for advice and you keep giving the same one that they never seem to take anyway. that's making people waste their time, in my opinion), except when it concerns too many sex to sexual details... I had this friend that would tell me that she had fights with her boyfriend because he wanted to have anal sex and she didn't. while I would advice her not to let herself be pushed into doing something she doesn't want to do and that he should respect that, and while I understand the embarrasment she could feel trying to discuss it with a professional (whether it was her gyno or her therapist), a part of me couldn't help but feeling... what business do I have knowing that her boyfriend likes to pound girls in the rear?
That's way too much knowledge, in my opinion. I think I would be better off without it.
but apart from that, I understand the need for another point of view, so most of the time I don't mind it, but I doubt I would do it anyway.
13Only my closest friends sometimes. Nothing that is a serious issue more like little day to day things.
14i'll mention stuff but don't ask for their advice, cause it's usually dumb and I end up fixing things on my own anyway.
i don't like them coming to me with their drama and i dont like bringing my drama to them.
it works for me.
15I'll talk about stuff, but not when I'm upset or there's been an argument. I'll talk when I can sort of laugh about it and say 'What the f**k?' But I'm not looking for anyone's advice; just to unload a bit and sort of have a laugh about the incongruity of having a life with a member of the opposite sex!
16yeah, i agree with the first one.
17I don't have any girlfriends. So even if I wanted someone to talk to...yeah, there really isn't anyone.
18Hardly ever...unless it was something serious that I wanted advice on. I'm a very private person by nature and I generally prefer to keep relationship details to myself.
19No, not at all, because I wouldn't ever want my friends taking sides or judging us based on a stupid fight.
20I'm one of those girls that has had a lot of unrequitted loves and even since forever my friends have had to hear about those so when I did finally have a boyfriend I talked about him to my friends a lot. Problem is, I never really talk about the good stuff because I figure that if it's good then no one else needs to know but if it's bad then I vent like crazy. As I'm sure you can guess this gets all my friends thinking my boyfriends are jerks when their not. I'm single now but I've decided to cut way back on what I tell my friends. Perhaps I say too much, too much of the wrong thing, or I just have really judemental friends. Whatever the case, I think it's best to keep things to myself.
21I don't mind sharing those minor, petty issues, that can be laughed about, or shrugged off.. but the major stuff is something I like to keep private.. In a way, I feel a sense of competition from my friends, like they are secretly rooting for my relationship to fail or have major flaws.. so I like to make sure that they don't have a place in that part of my life.. I know, not very good friends.. and not a very good attitude on my part!
22yeah i do, but only with my bestfriend.
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