After a few months of serious dating, you and your boyfriend have moved into the staying-over-nearly-every-night phase. Things have actually been going exceptionally well relationshipwise, though you have noticed a few weird things on his part. Would it be worse if . . . 
This: He just doesn’t seem to want you staying at his place, so you only stay at yours? Truth be told, you’ve never even seen the inside of his apartment, which only piques your curiosity (and concern).
Or . . .
That: He practically refuses to stay at your place even for a night? He claims he’s only comfortable at his place, but he doesn't seem to care that it's inconvenient for you.
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Oh, if I couldn't see the inside of his apartment, I'd be livid. I would assume it's because he has something in there (ie, a girlfriend) to hide.
1Me too - if I can't see his place, it's either filthy, or his mom's corpse is in a rocking chair in the basement. (Both would be a dealbreaker, btw.)
2that - who cares if he doesn't want to see my place, as long as he's not hiding anything at his place...
3I'd be WAY more concerned if he didn't care about my comfort at all and just insisted we stay at his, if he only likes staying at yours maybe he's just embarassed about his house. For me that's not a serious problem but selfishness definitiely is!
4jillerin ~LOL! but now I have that creepy Psycho violin tune in my head...
I voted the same.
5My fiance only saw my last place once before we moved in together. It was just much easier and more convenient to be at his place, and I didn't mind at all. Fortunately, no dead bodies in either place.
6This is sort of a hard one
7Hee, his mom's corpse is in a rocking chair in the basement would definitely be a deal-breaker.
Really, either of these would call for a dumping. (I know, I'm sooo picky.) But if I have to choose, not letting me see his place would be worse because I'd jump to the conclusion that he's hiding someone else (his mom's corpse, a girlfriend, a wife, a boyfriend...)
8I chose that. Because if he was staying at my place every night, he doesn't have another girlfriend! Which leads me to believe he has a filthy apt, which is better than him not caring about my comfort.
9I would rather he not want to stay at my place. It wouldn't pique my curiosity as much. But we'd have a problem because I have a hard time sleeping anywhere except my bed.
10I would be more concerned if he didn't want to stay at my house. If he didn't want to go to his place it's probably a mess or he has roommates. It's probably not a big deal as long as you get there eventually. If he doesn't want to go to your place he's either selfish or he thinks your place is disgusting or somehow unsatisfactory to him.
11I can't choose--both are LAME. I'd be so annoyed by him, either way...
12Yeah, I think that him not letting you even SEE his house is much worse. What's he keeping there, a wife or another girlfriend?!?
13I'm with emalove.
14So in my mind, the options meant This: he's a total slob or a whorder, in which case, it would be a deal breaker, or he's Mr. Big and he is just set in his ways.. Of course if his apartment was anything like Mr. Big's, I wouldn't have a problem, but i chose staying at my house, because at least then, i have control over making sure the environment was comfortable for me... and hopefully him.
15i wouldnt go to his place. i find it low that the girl goes to the guys place. sorry. its just my culture i guess
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