Communicate with him. Tell him what you've told us - that his attitude concerns you and you won't tolerate being treated that way. I think counseling is in order here. Don't simply accept his promises to change. A leopard can't change its spots, and guys don't generally change their behavior until they understand it and genuinely want to change.

Tell him your plans to live together are postponed until further notice.

If he treats you this inconsiderately while you are just doing nice things for him then how will it be when you move in together? You'll quickly turn into a roommate instead of a girlfriend if he continues to take you for granted and flip out when you finish off an item while making someone for both of you.

Talk to him or move on, as luisa said, men dont change unless they really want to.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

He enjoys taking and you enjoy giving, therefore the relationship works. Most men would just be delighted that you cooked for them. Ask yourself if you want to marry him, create a future with him, or have kids with him. If not, don't move in with him. Instead, find a new boyfriend, someone who is also giving like yourself. Good luck to you.

i agree with d advice given above (all 3) u should either hav a serious talk wit him or move on caz e's 1 selfish jerk
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Definitely talk to him- surely he deserves a chance to know what's wrong? But if it's clear that this guy isn't going to watch out for you at all, then save yourself and leave.

Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you.

Why the heck would you want to be with some one whom you do a lot for and ask nothing of in return???

That's sad.

A relationship (a healthy one) is about giving and taking.... From both sides. You have to care enough about the person to not only take care of them, BUT ALLOW THEM TO TAKE CARE OF YOU.

And if you are not being taken care of in return, then obviously he's taking advantage of you... Whether he knows it or not.

This is sad.

Seriously, I think everyone here gave you some great advice. I would maybe try to give him a chance to talk about these issues, but if you have talked to him about it before to no avail, then maybe he isn't the right guy for you. Relationships are give and take for both people, not just one person always giving and the other one taking and he should not have made a big deal about some stupid oil, when you had just cooked food for the both of you. If that had been my bf, he would have been like oh okay, let me add to my grocery list and that would have been it.

I don't think you should be moving in with anyone you have to second guess your relationship with. Talk to him like the others said. If he continues to be like this and you move in with him, more than likely you will find yourself catering to him constantly with nothing in return. He also sounds a bit irrational. He made a big deal out of you using the last of the oil and wanted to know WHEN you were going to replace it............ARE YOU SERIOUS????

I don't think you should be moving in with anyone you have to second guess your relationship with. Talk to him like the others said. If he continues to be like this and you move in with him, more than likely you will find yourself catering to him constantly with nothing in return. He also sounds a bit irrational. He made a big deal out of you using the last of the oil and wanted to know WHEN you were going to replace it............ARE YOU SERIOUS????

One of the best things my friend told me is that its not give and take in love, its GIVE AND GIVE. Obviously you feel deprived in this relationship.

1.) Have a good long talk with him about past incidents and what happened

2.) Give him sometime to change his actions

3.) If he does not change, find someone new

I would not suggest moving in with him...this might be very hard on you, especially bringing finances into the relationship...good luck

I have always used the "philosophy" that if you have even ONE single doubt it's not worth it . . .you might work things out for a little while- but it would be shame if you invested any more time in this jerk to inevitably breaking-up. You sound like a smart girl, move on before he treats you any worse.

Moving in together isn't going to make things better. It's only going to get worse because you're going to be around each other all the time. Everything that he does will be exacerbated because you're going to notice it ten times more. If you want to save the relationship, communicate more and don't move in.

this situation sounds like misery to me. he couldn't even appreciate that you were doing something nice for him & got mad about using the last of the oil? if he gets that upset about little things, what's going to happen when something big comes up between you two? i'd talk to him in a last ditch effort to save things (i guess?) but it doesn't sound like it's worth it, to be honest.

I agree completely with cmd0610- DOUBT is the first sign that something's not right. If he behaves this way before you're even living together, it can only get worse. BUT, you do owe it the relationship to talk to him about it. See if it really is HIM that won't let you "retaliate" or if maybe you are feeling guilty for standing up for yourself. Either way, you sound like a really kind person, and you deserve someone who will appreciate that and give you just as much in return.

"Is this only going to get worse when we move in together?"

Um, yeah! Personal (relationship dynamic) problems never improve with cohabitation (nor do they ever seem to fix themselves by ignoring them). Address the issues now; don't wait.

Considering the information, I would be very wary of moving in with him, especially without a serious talk. ITA quitecontrary. These actions will become more pronounced when y'all move in together.

If you want to know more suffering, then move in with him.

It'll most likely speed up the break-up if you guys move in together. You are going to hit your limit one day and moving in together will just speed it up.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

it sounds like maybe you should re-think on moving in together unless you want to keep dealing with his attitude. but seriously you need to talk to him.

Well there's only one example of bad behaviour here with the oil. Maybe he was having a stupid moment. Maybe the rest of the story is what we need before making any slippery decisions here. I would worry though about my seething anger if I was in a argument like that. I might go out and buy him 30 bottles of oil and fill up his pantry. After that I would make eggs in his pans without any oil in the bottom. When he spends five hours trying to scrub that clean tell him you didn't want to use the last of his oil. Anyway you'll give him a "taste" of future life together. I'm sure if he could handle that type of response like a man you could handle living together.