Wow six months till the wedding and she's already freaking out on you? Tell her to take a chill pill. Honestly, people tippy toe too much around brides sometimes and it's just ridiculous - it's only a wedding ffs and she doesn't have the 'right' to act like a total moron.

If it was my sister I would tell her exactly that, but I'm not sure what your relationship with her is like so just find a way to lay down the law (so to speak). Tell her you want to be involved and you love her and you want everything to be right, too, but that doesn't mean the world stops spinning when Ms. Bride to Be doesn't get her way.

hey, if she's your sister, she will understand that you do have a life of your own and have your own responsibilities. Yes, it's a great honor of being maid of honor, and there's alot to duties to fill when your maid of honor. Just tell her up front that you have your son and for her to understand that. tell her that you'll always be there for her for the wedding just as long as she gives you a heads up about appointments and etc. so then you can schedule plans around your busy life. i mean you got 6 months left and it's a crucial time for a bride so maybe just let it be for now. it will go away afterwards, trust me, it does. just breathe. you'll be looking back at these moments down the road and you can both laugh how crazy the whole process was.

yeah why is she already freaking out? imagine how she'll be the week of the wedding. (shudder) I agree that people are too scared around brides these days and hold their tongues when they shouldn't. tell her firmly that you have a life outside of her wedding and your kids always take priority over her planning. after all, im sure you're not the ONLY one she can turn to for help with the wedding. if she throws a fit at this, then you should tell her to maybe pick another maid of honor instead.

If anyone can tell her to chill out a little, it is you! Tell her that you are a mom as well as a sister and that you will help her plan as much as you can. Maybe suggest getting one of her friends (that doesn't have children) to help with the maid of honor duties as far as planning goes.

bring it up outside of an encounter by saying something like "sister, i want to be able to come with you on all of your trips, but i have a lot of responsibilities outside of being the best maid of honor ever . can we try planning when we're doing things together? i want to be able to participate as much as possible but have to keep being a good mom." just dont be confrontational, be nice and frame it as you wanting to do more for her. it will cut down on the snotty attitude AND give you some breathing room!

I would say 'my son has a game that day, and I would never want to disappoint him by not being there. I think it is very important that I support my child in his ambitions, just like I support you. It would be really great if we could mutually agree on a day that works for both of us beforehand, so this will no longer be a source of stress for either of us. What other days could we do this? I am available Sun, Tues, etc...'

You can still be honest and upfront with her, without being rude but also letting her know that stressing you out about it NOT ok.

I say, why did you accept if you had these priorities???

I do believe your kid comes first. don't get me wrong.

But a maid of honor is essentially a personal assistant for the bride to be. It is what it is. People try to act like it's not like that, but i'm just being honest.

when you accepted the challenge, you shoulda told her, "hey i would be more than honored, but you know little Jake has his t-ball (or whatever the hell kids do) on wednesdays and fridays. . . .".

i don't think telling her "HEY my KID comes first!" will go over so well with her. and patronizing her with the sweet talk isn't good either.

you should've thought about what YOU had on your plate BEFORE you got all excited about being the prestigious maid of honor.

maybe she needs to hire a wedding planner. someone who can devote all of their time to JUST her wedding. the person will be available at all hours and will never complain

gotta pay another h* to be there for ya (shakes head) . . .it's like paying for sex. Pathetic!

(Joke).

i dunno, i've been a bride's maid plenty of times, and a maid of honor quite a few times as well.

I feel like this; you know how your sister/BFF/cousin/etc is. you know if they are a freakoid, or if they are a procrastinator.

when the heffa asks you to take on the role, take 2 seconds to think about it. "she does trip out when things don't go her way". "remember when she threw that temper tantrum at the theatre because she was having one of her moods".

if she's nuts on a regular, think about how she's gonna be when planning the biggest most important day of her life.

my best friend (whom i was her maid of honor at her wedding) knows i'm neurotic and crazy. and she knows that if she had a complaint, i would have no problem demoting her to a guest, or even worst, not invited at all. i don't expect her to kiss my butt, and she didn't expect that of me, but don't bite off more than you can chew.

This is one reason I hate weddings. Luckily, I have only been a bride and never a bridesmaid.

I agree with Dear. Let her have her hissy fits. It's not going to change anything. Your responsibility is your child. Just keep reminding her when you're free and assure her that you two will get everything done on time.

I think Janine22 said it well; try something like that.

Just keep your priorities straight. Your child is more important that your sisters wedding. She has to understand that. I'd just tell her that you need to be there for your kid and that you'd be happy to plan things when you don't have prior commitments.