I think anyone who wants to go should be entilted to go!
My boyfriend goes to a strip club EVERYDAY (his brother owns it) and I go a lot with him too. We don't sit and stare, we mainly go there to see our friends and hang out, but it's never bothered me!

The creepy men in there that DO stare and oggle at the women creep me out. My boyfriend doesn't go to Strip bars unless its for something like a bachelor party ;P

The bf and I go to burlesque shows, and want to see Zumanity together, but he always says that he can just watch me dance poorly in my underwear at home, and doesn't have to pay me.

nothing wrong with going with your SO, i've gone with mine before. it can be a fun time if you go to a decent place. its not all about the other girls, more times then one, we've come home so aroused from it...make it about each other when you go, it can be done.

I'd much rather see a burlesque show.

I like going to strip clubs with my husband. It's a turn on for both of us.

I love going with my BF. I don't know why. I hand him the singles to give the girls. I'm not threatened in any way, I know I can give him more than they can, and I know he's coming home with me. Even if he wanted to go without me, as long as he is honest with me about it, I have no qualms.

Yeah its a good idea.
Since I am bi. lol.

I've gone with my boyfriend a few times. it doesn't bother me.

i made plans to go with a former bf on his birthday with a bunch of our friends (girls & guys), but when it came down to it, i couldn't do it. i told him he should still go, but for some reason i didn't feel comfortable going.

Wait a minute, you think women being objectified in strip clubs is a bad thing? How do you know their situations? Maybe they are happy to be there. There are alot of women who do this nature of work who enjoy the fact they are being objectified, as it earns them more money!!!

Means to an end and all that. Theres good reasons to do things such as this, and you really shouldnt judge so harshly.

That said, strip clubs are cool, I used to bartend in one for quite a while and the girls are lovely as are most of the patrons. Id go with my boyfriend if he asked and i've suggested it a few times. He just isnt interested in going.

from a male perspective, men love going to strip clubs with their girlfriends. It is a lot more fun for the guys too since strippers will do more with a girl than the guy. And of course for most guys, seeing a stripper on your girl is a turn on

definitely a lot of fun going with my boyfriend...he doesn't really like to go, but when his boys beg him to come, they also ask me to come too, and each time it's been fun!

I say you go with him a few times for two reasons. First to see if you like it and second to learn a few moves. If you take a few mental notes and maybe do a little practice you'll be ready to knock the socks off of your man. If you don't feel comfortable enough with your body then first go buy a sexy outfit from victorias secret and second apply a little body makeup from It Cosmetics to define certian parts of your body. I have personaly done this and let me tell you...he was estactic!! My husband doesn't go the the strip clubs often, but everytime he mentions going I convince him not to by doing my moves. It has also spiced up our sex life enourmously!!

I've never been before, with or without my boyfriend, but I wouldn't object to it.

The last time I remember this being discussed on Dear Sugar, this topic started a big fight.

i never been to a strip club, neither has my boyfriend. but it's weird how we were just talking about it and then i see this article haha. i like the idea of going together

I always ask my boyfriend to take me with him ... but he actually hates the idea of going. He doesn't even like the stereotypical activities that go on at bachelor parties. He's a groomsmen in his friend's wedding, and he's dreading the inevitable trip to a strip club.

I'd rather go with my girls than my boyfriend.

Well, I suppose like almost every other man on the planet if you put a scantily-clad woman in front of me she will have my full and undivided attention. However, I do not much care for the atmosphere in these places (I have only been in two in my life so it is only a general impression). I also don't think the girlfriends I have been with would go near them - and they were very sexually-attuned and fun-loving women. I would always prefer to have actual hands-on passion with my girlfriend rather than just staring at a woman I do not know.

I suppose if it was a burlesque show like the Folies Bergere or Crazy Horse in Paris that would be different - less obvious and explicit and, well, it's Paris.

But would he should up to a male strip club with you? No right?

I go to strip clubs w/ my husband. Don't really care if he looks @ the strippers cuz I know that I look better naked then almost every stripper I've ever seen!

I've frequented strip clubs in my day, dated a few and have brought many a girl with me. I do not think I could ever go with my wife or a really serious gf. The girls I've brought I knew got turned on or were into girls so it was a mutually beneficial trip and truth be told I was more into the dancers. When I meet someone I really truly care about unless she is just all about them, I'd rather not go to them at all. I don't want my wife to have an interest in women, just in me.

i've been to several strip clubs with my boyfriend (now ex). usually the strippers pay more attention to the women it seems. one lifted up my shirt in front of my guy friends. (I didn't care). I never got jealous or anything if my boyfriend went to a strip club because all the strippers in my city are T-RASH anyway.

When I meet someone I really truly care about unless she is just all about them, I'd rather not go to them at all. I don't want my wife to have an interest in women, just in me.

That's a very interesting view to take. Wasn't expecting it.

My boy is goign to his first strip club for his best friend's bachelor party lol my roomate and i are always the one telling our boys that we all need to go one day..i think it'll be fun!

my husband and i both have too much class to ever be caught in such a place.

I wouldn't be threatened but neither of us are the type, its just a bit tacky to me. I don't see it as anti-female though, quite the contrary, if women enjoy doing it and are not being exploited by owners or managers, and can maintain their identity, why not?

Let me also say just because I do not find this sort of thing appealing, I do not hold it against people who choose to go. Its whatever works for you.

I would think to be good at this, besides the obvious physical aspect, one would also need to be shrewd, savvy, and have firm boundaries about her career and her body. If a woman possesses all that, no man will ever take advantage of her, clothes or no.

..besides, the faster way to get my boyfriend all up in a sweat is to take him to a video game convention. Or cook something involving noodles.

haha rabid..now that u said that, i think my boy gets more excited about picking up the new madden at midnight then going to a strip club

Marni and Rabid...lol I think we are dating the same men..I think my bf would get mor excited about going to a car show or a rock concert than a strip club

Hehehe.

good idea.
i'd go if he was going, i'd prolly have more fun than him too

My guy friends like to go and invite me almost everytime, but have never taken the bait! I blush when people even mention stripping or sex so I can only imagine what it would be like for me to even be there! Maybe one of these days I'll see what all the hype is about! Until then... no thank you!

I think it would be fun to go with my boyfriend. I've never been to a strip club, but we're planning a trip to Vegas and we plan to go to one (he said he's buying me a lap dance, we'll see about that one lol). I'm totally straight, but I think women are beautiful, our bodies look good! And you don't have to just stare at the strippers-- there are strip clubs that are more like regular nightclubs, and some even serve food like a real restaurant. If you go to a well known place, like Scores for example, it could be a fun experience. Just don't go to the dimly lit, seedy area of town where all of the "ladies of the night" hang out, you might not have such a good time! And I agree with kaylee143, you could definitely pick up some sexy tips watching the ladies dance that you could try at home with your man.

Mr. Mouse has never visited a strip club; he has zero interest in them.

But I'm just about as much woman as he can handle anyway (sometimes more than) -- and he frequently teases that I'm the only woman he'd *like* to handle.

(Yes, he was a virgin -- through and through, first kiss and all -- when we got together twelve years ago. I was not nearly as innocent, nor as inexperienced.)

It's kinda funny; he's known for his fierce devotion toward me as his one and only, even at his workplace. He requested to be sent to a Computer Geek convention in Vegas and was approved. His Director (who also happens to be a good pal of ours) said that approval was easy, because the Mouse is pretty much the only fella (at the company) that can be trusted *not* to ditch the convention and use the opportunity as a vacation to gamble and take in a bunch of stripper shows.

very good point RockAndRepublic

Neither my guy nor I are interested in something like that. Like RM said he'd be happier getting the newest video game gah I Love my guy!

and I agree with Sun_Sun too.

I've had boyfriends in the past I would have gone to strip clubs with without hesitation -- I think b/c they only went for silly things like bachelor parties, and made all sorts of jokes about it.

My husband, however, used to go to strip clubs fairly regularly with his friends. It _really_ bothered me, although I wish it didn't.

I don't think I could go to a strip club with him. I could go with other friends who I knew thought it was sort of silly, but the fact that my husband liked going to them, I don't think I could do it.

I wish wish wish it didn't bother me. It does.

My bf doesn't go to strip clubs. I've never been, but would like too. When I go, if I don't like it, I won't go again. I say try every thing once. I never want to miss out on something new. You have to break out of your routine. Push your comfort zone and experience everything in life.

Honestly, I might be bothered by it. It seems I'm the only one on here that would be. How many men do you think would go with their girls to Chippendale's? Not very many.

It would only bother me for two reasons:

1. any guy oogling other women (and you know when they're naked there is more oogling lol) right in front of his girlfriend/wife seems like a complete douche to me. Nothing wrong with noticing a pretty girl and looking, but I mean please, have some class. If they're naked, being more subtle about it is near impossible.

2. Money. Noting wrong with a few singles or anything, but men spend a lot more than $5 at those places. My bf and I planned to get married when we have the money. So him sticking money in another woman's g-string would really make me think he wasn't that serious about getting married seeing as he rarely has any money in the first place.

To each girl her own though! If you like going with your bf/husband, then more power to you Strip clubs is the only thing I've ever brought up to him as being a red line. He can go hang out with his friends, drink, do whatever (can't cheat of course though), so all in all I'm pretty cool. I only ask one thing, that's it.

i totally agree with arkana... will be going to vegas in a week with my boyfriend and his friends want to go to a strip club.. and i still dunno if he's going... i couldn't agree more about the ogling. i hate it when I catch my boyfriend ogling.. he doesn't admit it.. or maybe sometimes guys are so used to it that they don't think it's wrong? or that it annoys their girlfriends/wives? anyway, i'd probably be okay going to a strip club if i knew my boyfriend wouldn't be ogling.. but since he does.. hmm.. i probably won't go with him.. or let him go at all. hehe.

My money and my husband do not support strippers.

Naked women with daddy issues and some bad circumstances do not turn me on.

my current bf has said that he has no interest in going, but i'd be completely fine if he went, and i'd be cool with tagging along if it wasn't a bachelor party or something. these women shouldn't be a threat-- they are paid to flirt and shake their boobs in guys' faces. any guy who goes there thinking that a stripper totally wants him is deluded. most of these women probably already have a man at home anyway. or are taking the job to pay the bills. it's just a job to them.

I'm single but I like strip clubs.