When a married man has an affair, the mistress is considered a homewrecker (the presumption is that she wrecked his home). The married man is less criticized. Arguably, I think the married man is MORE at fault, and deserves the homewrecker title more than the mistress does. That's my point of view.

All of them. Mostly I have gripes with the following:

Women who consider all men assholes while considering themselves saints. Sorry, no, there devils and angels from both sexes.

Women who expect men to buy them their life and think going Dutch is tacky. If women are going to preach equality and independence, they better contribute to the costs of dating and relationships.

Men are called players while women are called sluts. A man who sleeps around very loosely is as much devalued to me as a woman who does the same thing.

People who uphold societal gender roles such as men should drink beer, watch sports and thrillers, and eat burgers and are called a man's man. Men who drink fruity alcoholic beverages, watch cooking shows and romantic comedies, eat fancy and are called girlie. A woman could enjoy both sets of activities and in the particular case of the 'man's man' activities, never be called butch.

Women feel the need to live religiously up to some ridiculous beauty standards like hair removal and if they miss a day or two of shaving, consider themselves less hygienic and gross. Men never have to give hair removal a thought and aren't considered less hygienic because of it.

It's okay for a woman to reject a man's proposal but not okay if a woman has to wait 'too long' for a marriage proposal. This tells me it's perfectly fine for the woman to remain uncommitted whereas if a guy were to same uncommitted decision not to propose until he's ready, he's an *sshole.

On an added note to GlowingMoon's comment about 'homewreckers', I consider anyone who knowingly infringes him or herself into anyone else's marriage a homewrecker. That doesn't mean the cheater is less at fault but I pit the damage caused equally on the cheater and the other man or woman.

I am with GlowingMoon on this...how can the person not in a relationship be a homewrecker if they are unaware that the other person is married/committed. Now if they know...then I say they are both at fault.

Other double standards I hate are if a woman sleeps with a man on the first date she is a slut, but he is a stud...they would both be considered loose in my book.

A man who in his late twenties or early thirties and is single with no children, has made that choice, but me as a woman, must just have been unlucky in love. Newsflash...I chose my career over men and children.

Men without children are whole and satisfied human beings, while women without children are just dying on the inside because they have never had a child of their own, and need to find a hobby to keep themselves occupied...don't want one and never will.

Women who walk up to a man and ask him out, are desperate, but men are expected to walk up to a woman and ask her out, and that is perfectly normal.

Politicians who preach water and drink wine. What once was democracy has long turned into a self-service shop for all kinds of industries and lobby groups.

It's also funny how America says it's a democracy when it's not and then says it needs to bring democracy to other countries. Hypocricity at its best.

As a college student, I find the promiscuous women are sluts, promiscuous men are awesome double standard extremely irritating.

Some double standards I hate:

1. Women know nothing about sports, cars, and politics. I'm so sick of getting into arguments about these things with chauvinists...

2. If a guy dumps a girl, he's the bad guy. If a girl dumps a guy, he's a bad guy. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen that way, its just not always that way.

3. The sexual double standard: if a girl has had more than 1 partner in a lifetime outside of marriage, they look at her as a slut.

4. Single girls automatically have something wrong with them because they're not in a relationship.

I also hate when men get upset when a woman doesn't play the helpless role. I was once told by an ex that he couldn't stand the way I never showed my weaknesses. What an ass!

Non-relationship double standards I hate:

1. Why is it that America has bombers (think Timothy McVeigh and the Unibomber), mass murders (Charles Manson, etc), and all kinds of crazy people, and maintain that all of their citizens are not crazed, yet when one Muslim person does the same, their entire group is labeled as a terrorist group.

2.How men assume they're much more intelligent than women, yet there are more women graduating from college annually.

3. How someone is bad-mouthed from jumping from boyfriend to boyfriend, but people jumping from marriage to marriage are not criticized (ok, i lied about the non dating thing...)

i must have a different circle for friends because when there is a man over 35 that is single no one thinks it's his choice and immediately startes trying to set him up.

and as for americans thinking muslims are all terrorists, americans are equal opportinity generalizers. mormons are all polygamists, male hair dressers are all gay, libreals don't support the troops, etc.

i don't think there are any double standards where i live anymore. both sexes are considered sluts if they sleep around and the unemployed are all lazy good for nothings

LsdyChaos- "also hate when men get upset when a woman doesn't play the helpless role. I was once told by an ex that he couldn't stand the way I never showed my weaknesses. What an ass!"

I hate this! My first boyfriend broke up with me for my BEST FRIEND because he said that I "didn't need him." And then told me that if I reacted differently to this news, like by crying and being devestated (trust, I was, later, in private!) that he wouldn't be able to leave me then. I'm all for showing emotion, but I hate it when men expect women to play the victim. We are not all helpless victims okay!? The only good thing about that story, is that now, seven years later my old girlfriend that he broke up with me for STILL acts like she's five and I think at 23 it gets a little old. And, of course that my fiance now is fantastic.

There are so many double standards when it comes to gender....ah don't even get me started! But hey, maybe we could agree that we can stop calling women sluts and homewreckers and desperate on Pop? And criticizing their physical appearances?

Glowing Moon- I

100% with lady chaos

Boys at school always assume that I'm not smart when I'm like a million times as smart as they will ever be. A lot of boys just think girls aren't as smart as they are and it drives me crazy.

I hate the fact that a tech geek who is brilliant in science is considered more intelligent than someone who can churn out Picasso-level paintings. This double standard is applied especially by those tech people; what they can't do, they ridicule (no offense to you nice techies out there)

austerity...I feel you on that. And the funny thing is I'll go to the Apple store to have them fix my computer and they'll talk to me like I don't understand anything, yet I learned like 4 programming languages and 3 operating systems as well as built a robot (I used to be a science nerd...but I got cuter and got even more into law)...I enjoy finishing their sentences leaving them in awe...lol

...that was not intended for bragging....

I agree with GlowingMoon when it comes to men who cheat. He knows he's married most likely before his future mistress does, so therefore I think he deserves the worst title, if it must be given.

i agree miriah15, as a college student i understand where you are coming from! the more often young guys go out and drink and the more tail they get=more cred and bro worship. the more often a young woman drinks and the more she sleeps around= a reckless skank.

austerity- i was thinking the same thing! an art major, i've had to deal with my fair share of rude generalizations. an instance that sticks out was when this "intellectual" friend of my roommate and i were discussing our majors and he said "it must be nice, its like you never had to leave kindergarten." just because people enjoy different things doesn't make them any less valid, and i believe this applies to all trades. i have mad respect for those who have skills beyond my realm of enjoyment.

So a few weeks ago, my toilet broke, and all it needed was a simple repair. Instead of spending money on a plumber, I decided to fix it myself. I can't tell you how strangely people treated me because of this. First of all, it is an older model toilet, and the hardware store employees (male) insisted that I was mistaken about the type of part I needed. I politely maintained that I was correct, and eventually, a more experienced employee (after two already) found the proper part. They also all treated me like I was stupid/dumb/stuck up until they realized that I was right. Ugh.
On the upside of a situation, I went on a couple dates with a guy and I can't remember how it came up that I fixed my toilet, but he said he thought it was great/attractive that I fixed a toilet haha (he didn't seem condescending when he said that).

Of course I agree with those of you who mentioned 'the man'/slut double standard. Girls have way too many names thrown upon them for anything they do - by guys and fellow girls. It gets so annoying!

Girls are wh*res/sluts (bad connotation) when they sleep around, and guys are players/cool (good connotation) when they do.

Its ok for guys to be really nasty dirty and hairy and just gross in general and they makes them tough, sexy, manly men, but girls can't do anything like that or they are just disgusting etc.

I agree with ladychaos too. I HATE when guys act like you should be weak and need help just b/c you are a girl!!! OMG! Wake up, I can do everything you can, and probably better than you, jerks!!!!!!!!!! I have an ex that actually told me he wanted me to be "weaker" sometimes b/c he liked being able to help me with things! REALLY!!??!!?!?!? '8-0

I really agree with austerity too, I never thought about it like that before, but I def. agree!!!!

Oh, and MisterPinkNoTip, I had a similar situation but it involved my car. I knew exactly what was wrong with it that needed repair, but the guys at the shop insisted I was wrong and that it was something completely different. After unneeded labor and going through everything else that could be wrong with the car, they finally realized I was right all along. It's great that girls know stuff like that--I can't help it that my dad raised me to be knowledgeable!

Oh and girls automatically aren't good at any sports...not to brag, but I have really good balance and really good reaction times, better than most guys or girls...and I always surprise guys when I can actually play sports. It actually gives me an advantage at first at least b/c they assume I suck and don't really try very hard at first, so I get ahead!!! lol!

when someone is constantly preaching healthy living and comments on everything you eat when they themselve are overweight and incapable of ever losing weight. And I second the weakness thing, femininity is not equal to weakness or being helpless. ALSO that girls have to appear small or petite regardless of size - I'm 5'10 and even though I'm slim its always weird that I don't look like a a little fragile little girl

mine
probably won't be popular
but i hate it when
men wanna go to a strip club with friends
and the girlfriends get all pissy
and say they [guy] shouldn't be going and bla bla bla

but say the girl has a night out and THEY end up at a strip club it's all fine and dandy and considered "fun".

i've actually known people like that, who don't want their bf's doing one thing, but they [the woman] does it and just brushes it off as it just being a "fun girls night out".

I have a couple. I hate that men can be comfortable talking about sex and it's like an accomplishment and is praised. I, as a young woman who enjoys sex and isn't opposed to talking maturely about sex, am seen as loose or strange.

I also hate that all my guy friends aren't given crap about being friends with a girl, but people automatically judge me when I tell them I'm more comfortable with most of my guy friends than my girl friends.

And I agree with you, zombielove. I figure I trust my man, so he should be allowed guys nights and if they end up at a strip club, I'm not gonna get mad. On the contrary, share the details lol.

I hate when a guy says he hates when girls wear make-up, but every time he hits on someone or talks about a pretty celebrity, they're practically dripping make-up.

I also hate it when girls get mad at the "other woman". Honestly, it's your boyfriend/husband being an idiot 97% of the time. If she knew about you, ok, anger warranted. But the man also needs to shoulder the blame.

One phrase gets just about all my ire: "Boys will be boys."

When I was a kid I exchanged some punches with a boy and got chastised because "girls shouldn't fight". How about teaching both kids that solving problems with physical violence is wrong, huh? God, thinking about that still pisses me off. That was in the 90s, too, it's not like it was the 50s, but some people want to be stuck in the 50s.

The flip side of the stud/slut thing is that men who might want to choose to only be intimate with one woman would be considered "weird" and someone with "something wrong with him".

Oh, yeah, I'm with everyone on the old "women always love marriage and babies! The ones who says they don't are freaks or in denial!" There's a reason men tend not get the same sh*t. This is a remnant of the olden times (and still present in some places), when men could survive just fine on their own, but a woman who couldn't get married off would have no way to survive except maybe join a nunnery, become a beggar woman, or prostitution. Repeat this info the next time someone gets on your case about being a happily single woman. Then ask them to join the 21st century. That'll shut them up good.

Jeebus, I'm so glad it's the 21st century and I live in a modern society so I don't HAVE to get married to survive and produce a male heir for him as a part of my proper wifely duties.

Guys are cheered for when they blurt out comments like "She's hot!"
but when girls talk bluntly about guys like that, she's considered HORNY or DESPERATE.

oh, and I HATE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
when I do strength/weight training at the gym... I get dirty/condescending looks from "the men" because I'm "technically" not supposed to be on those tough machines.

On the news, you get:

"A 17 yr old man"
"A 17 yr old girl"

It's perfectly acceptable that a woman stay home, not have a job, and live off of her boyfriend/ husband. However, if a woman wants to be the one who is the breadwinner, it's a problem. The "role" of a woman being at home, pregnant, in the kitchen, or cleaning.

zombielove I agree with you! I don't care that my husband gets out because he doesn't get out enough! He doesn't mind that I go out with my friends, he knows I'm independent. We have a pretty equal marriage, except when it comes to house cleaning, he won't clean the kitchen or bathrooms. Btw...

I hate when it's assumed that the woman does the housework/cooking. Like what is this, 1955?

The women vs. men not married by a certain age is by far the biggest double-standard to me. I am 28 and all of my guy friends who aren't married are looked at as successful, patient and able to have their choice of women. While I on the other hand, (even though I am in a committed relationship of over 2 years), am looked at as 'behind' or lonely.

In addition to the double standards mentioned, another drives me crazy. How is it that a man can be labeled as the "string, silent type," but when a woman behaves similarly, she's considered to be a "stuck up b*tch." If you don't go around with a goofy grin plastered to your face, then, as a woman, you're cold and arrogant, but, as a man, you're mysterious and aloof.

Nicola just FYI newspapers shouldn't be that way if they are following AP Style. Once the person in question is over 18, they should be described as man or woman. Otherwise it will be boy or girl or just "teenager."

wow you guys have all named some really good ones!
I agree with all of them - women are sluts while men are studs if they sleep around - women should clean and cook while a man is allowed to come home from work and relax on the couch before his dinner is "served to him"..of course nevermind the fact that his wife also worked but she is by all means expected to still get in that kitchen and whip up something for him!

My most hated double standard is that all women want babies and if they don't want them something is wrong with them or they will "change their minds". I cannot tell you how many times I have faced the blank stares of "what do you mean you don't want any kids" and the old dismissal "oh silly, you'll change your mind". Guess what, I'm 26 years old..don't you think the window of "changing my mind" is getting just a tad narrow by now?
That one definitely irks me more then any of them! We are not all meant to reproduce - some of us just aren't born with a single maternal bone in our bodies.

um excuse me tvolunteers - but Muslims are justifying it by religion? There is that old sterotype again - are you aware that there are 2 billion Muslims in the world? How many of them are "terrorists"? Less then 0.01% for sure!! The Koran does not say anywhere it is ok to kill innocent people!! Murder is the worst sin you can committ as any other religion will agree with as well...so how does the Muslim religion justify this?
You are fooled by the media's coverage of "extremists" who have misinterpreted the Koran and have smeared the religion for everyone who is a part of it.
And by the way...women are not inferior to men, the Koran says men and women are equals, they are allowed to do whatever a man does and they DO NOT have to wear those burqas and all that stuff so readily portrayed in the media. Those are "cultural" things...not religious.

All of these drive me nuts. One of the most annoying is when guys say they don't like girls who wear makeup but can't actually tell that a girl is wearing makeup.

I also hate that guys think girls can't do anything or don't know how to fix things or that we don't know anything about cars, electronics or sports. I know more about sports, cars and electronic than all the guys I hang out with put together but I also happen to know a lot about makeup, shopping and decorating. Why does it have to be one thing or the other?

Another one that bugs me is that women think men have to pay for everything and take care of them and that some men feel the same. I hate when guys open doors for me or act like I can't do something that I could do much better than they could.

I hate that it's assumed that women are stupid/ don't know anything. The other day I was jumping my mom's car in our condo parking lot and my (older male) neighbor started yelling, "Do you ladies need some help? You know that positive goes on positive right? Are you sure you don't need a little help..." blah blah blah. I'm pretty sure I know how to jump a car, creep.

I am also the one getting her test answers copied during exams (very annoying). By GUYS. So whatever. And of course the double standard of women=sluts and men=players. Ughhhh.

I don't think that holding doors open is antifeminist, i'm pretty sure it's just... not being a jerk.

I hate that being a girl geek is so much worse than being a guy geek. I can't stand programmes like Average Joe and Beauty and the Geek because you know it would *never* get made the other way around. I know male geeks don't exactly always have the best time of it in the media etc, but it's nothing compared to how girl geeks are stereotyped - or just ignored altogether - thank goodness for GeekSugar eh?

I hate the promiscuity thing the most -- player/stud vs. "slut"

I really hate when people open the door for me, I actually use another door, especially when it's a car.

Also, I hate it when I go to a store with a man, and whether it's my father or a friend, the salesman (women don't do it that often) always speak to him even though I'm the one who asks for something! Like I'm some kind of idiot who can't understand what she's buying! God that pisses me off.

Double standards. They are getting better I think. But some still exist in 2009. None of them get to me that much anymore. If someone wants to open a door for me I'm not going to make a federal case out of it. I just say thanks. Although when I hear one, it gets on my nerves. The old standard of men with experience versus a women being virgins. Then I suppose its O.K. for her to act like a wh*re in the bedroom after marriage. Give me a break. What if she was a blow job queen like some virgins I know. It makes me want to ask them if that's all a woman is worth. I'm always wondering, what if the virgin is fat, ugly or stupid? Poor? What if she acts like an idiot? What if she has hair on her back? Besides we all know, if some millionaires daughter is behind door one, a famous beautiful tennis pro behind door two, and hey, the fat virgin is behind door three, which doors are really opened.