Yes, totally unreasonable. In fact, even if he offers (because it'll be obvious that's what you're hinting at), you should politely decline.

Have you heard the expression "Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine"? You have known for some time about your financial situation. Waiting till the last minute, keeping it a secret, then expecting him to bail you out is selfish and immature. It speaks volumes about your character and frankly, I would be really put off if someone I was dating did that.

If you must, move back home till you're on your feet again.

How long have you KNOWN this guy??

You dont know him well enough to feel comfortable talking to him about problems you're having with work but you feel comfortable moving in with him when you screw yourself over? There is something very wrong with this picture.

Dont lay it on him, act like an adult and fix your own problems. If he likes you that much then he'll help you find a cheaper apartment. You shouldnt move in with him because you're desperate, you should move in together when you're ready. Forcing yourself on him will only push him away. You are being very selfish. Of course he will offer you a place to stay, I'm sure he's not a complete a$$hole but he is only offering it because you're kind of making him have to. You should NOT accept! How can he respect you if you cant even support yourself? Ask a friend to stay on their couch, find a new apartment and act like a f*cking grown up.

Until you can trust him with ANYTHING and until you stop acting "ashamed" when something goes wrong in your life then you are not even CLOSE to being ready to move in with this guy, nevermind stay at his place "for a few weeks"

Ugh.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

When I met my husband, I was just starting at a new job then a month into our dating, the house I was renting with roommates was being put on the market. To our surprise, it got sold pretty quickly that we received our 30 day notice.

I told my then bf (now hubby) about it, WITHOUT any intent on moving in with him. I was just telling him what's up with me. And OF COURSE, although we just started dating, he offered me to stay with him until I got a new place, which I DECLINED. I ended up moving back in with my parents (Wow, that was some horrible couple of months for me back then until I moved out).
Like the two ladies say, it's not his responsibility to bail you out (although an offer did sound nice), and if you guys moved together based on him bailing you out, that's not really 'sincere,' as in you guys aren't ready

I don't understand how you're hiding this from your bf, how long have you guys been together that you're hiding your situation from him? I understand being embarrassed but if you can't even be honest with him from the very beginning, you guys may not be ready to bring this up to the next level (living together).

Try moving back in with your parents, tell your bf what's up, if he does offer, thank him and ideally, you decline (but I can't tell you what to do on this one since you'll do what you want anyway). Good luck taking care of your finances.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

financial hardship is NOT a good reason to move in with your bf. I had money problems when I started dating my husband, he didnt offer to let me move in with him (he had roommates and I was living with my parents already) but he did offer to pay off my debt- he was actually the only person who did know exactly how much debt I was in. I didnt accept his money, it wasnt his mess to clean up, and I have to say he was SO incredibly proud of me when I called him and told him all my debt was paid off. And I was really proud of myself as well.

I have to agree that it is kind of strange that you don't feel comfortable telling him about this problem, but yet you want to ask him if you can move in. It would be kind of weird from his point of view. But I guess it depends how long you have been dating. I am thinking it probably is not too long if you are ashamed to tell him this. But I disagree with the other girls. I don't see why it would be a big deal to stay with him for a little while until you get everything sorted out. That is partly what are loved ones are there for, to help us out when we need it. But I would just make it temporary, especially if you guys haven't been together for very long. Good luck to you.

Sometimes u need to follow ur instinct ...

But majority of the times, u need to rely on logic. I'd say get a shelter from elsewhere, would be a better option, at the moment. If family or friends are not an option, you could review their positions in your life when you have a chance later. But as an alternative, you should see perhaps: salvation army or something alikes.
Whenever possible, keep the damage areas as small as possible, do not spread it to others.

whatever you do, don't ask him! if he asks you, fine, but if he doesn't, there's a REASON! do not ask!

I agree - don't ask! There are a lot of times when you have to come right out and say/ask what you want from a guy, because they don't take hints, but in this case, I don't think you should even hint. You dug the hole, and didn't even give him a clue of what was happening, so it's not fair to expect him to fix everything for you now. Why not try to find a cheaper living situation (sublet, roommates, etc.) on your local Craigslist first? Or like someone else said, at least crash on a friend's couch, and help with bills and food. Living with an SO is a big deal, and I don't think the time is right for you and your guy.

How long have you been together? Why do you need to move out of your apartment?

actually im really confused. you're afraid you might have to move back home, or to another city? are you in the same city as him now? where is your job? what's wrong with moving back home if it gives you a chance to get caught up with your finances? that sounds like a much better option than moving in with him and having the relationship end in

It shouldn't be his problem to bail you out. Figure it out all on your own. Don't rely on him to 'save' you, especially when he doesn't even know its coming! Find a place on your own, or even move back home.

It shouldn't be his problem to bail you out. Figure it out all on your own. Don't rely on him to 'save' you, especially when he doesn't even know its coming! Find a place on your own, or even move back home.

I think there are some facts missing. I do not understand why you can't go to your landlord/management company and work with them why do you have to move out? I am also very surprised that he does not know what is going on. Putting him in the position of feeling like he has to do it is not fair at all. I think deep down you really just want to live together and you are hoping that your finanacial irresponsibility is the way to get you in. Stay with a friend or your parents until you can get back on your feet.

I am with the other commenters that point out that you haven't felt comfortable telling him about your work problems, but you would feel comfortable moving in with him? I feel like I am missing something here....

Don't do it. Go home and get back on your feet. What if a couple weeks becomes a couple months and your financial problems start becoming his? This is probably TMI for a board like this, but I actually owe my fiance (then boyfriend!!) $1500 for rent. It is NOT a good feeling. I dropped out of school, and we had already been living together, and I couldn't find a good enough job to cover my part of the rent! Eventually I moved home, and got a great job and lived rent free for a few months to help pay off some of my debts, and I'll start school again in the fall, but I still am in this quasi-owing him money since we got engaged. If he had made enough money as a phd student, I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem, but he couldn't afford to cover my rent, and in your situation, it doesn't even sound like you are serious enough to ask for that! Don't make your financial problems his!! I had to move from LA to NY to get back on my feet, but I'm glad I didn't stay any longer! Things happen, we make bad decisions...that's what family is for!!

So great to see all the sugar posters agreeing haha. I have nothing to say that can be better than what they said.

It all depends on how long you've been together. I think it would be kinda bad for the relationship for you to move back out at the end of the few weeks you need to be there. Maybe you should try other measures to keep your apartment like borrowing some money from someone, especially if you're too embarrassed to even tell your boyfriend.