What happens that night depends on my mood and how sleepy I am. Lol. I'm not beat to have sex on the wedding night. That's not why I'll be marrying him in the first place. If it happens, wonderful. If not, so what.

I hope there is at least some making out and heavy petting... But everyone looks forward to that night of love making, virgins and wh*res alike. So I am so excited about it.

my husband and i were starving when we got to our suite, it was around 1 am, and we were too busy dancing and taking pictures at the reception to eat. so we ordered pizza, and used the 45 minutes for the pizza to be delivered to "consummate our marriage"

we were waaaay to exhausted to that night... but the morning after was a little different!!

i could see that it might be a big deal if you've been waiting but if you've been having sex with each other for years already why does one night matter?

We were exhausted but still made sure to consumate our marriage as soon as possible...and again later when we woke up from a quick nap!

We had waited, so it was a big deal for us. We actually scheduled our wedding for early in the afternoon and made sure not too party too much the night before so we would be able to enjoy ourselves.

well if ur tired no need in makin ur self have sex! i would want the first time we have sex as man and wife to be special, i don't want it to last 2 mins cuz were tired!!

stefsprl, how did that work out?

because i was so disappointed about my first time having sex, if i had had it on my wedding night, it would have ruined my entire day.

I don't know if I'd use the term "mandatory", but to me, it was pretty important...it would have seemed odd to me if we didn't.

I'd be questioning his ass if he didn't want it! lol, Gonna change on me now???

Well.. last night I came into our bedroom when my boyfriend was just drifting off to sleep. I layed down beside him and said "Hey... wanna f*ck?" and he jumped right up. I have a feeling that no matter how exhausted we are on our wedding night we will be goin at 'er aaaall night long!

I agree -- it's not mandatory, but it's important. It was important to my then new husband, too. The evening we got married, he ended the evening early so we could consummate our marriage. He couldn't whisk me away fast enough. No, we did NOT wait until marriage, but it was important to him we commsummated our union. It was important to me, too, but it seemed more important to him.

This reminds me of the movie "Just Married". I'm sure unexpected things come up that prevent it from happening but I'm going to make sure it happens all night every night on my honeymoon!

Well,the night people expect me to, I'm going to. I think a whole day devoted to our love and devotion couldn't end much sweeter But I also think it shouldn't be forced. You shouldn't have to. Sleep a couple of hours, then have at

It totally depends. I could see myself being too tired or stressed, but I would make sure to wake up bright-eyed and ready the next morning!

I know of some couples who not only waited until they were married for sex, but even to KISS! (I don't get it, either, but whatever.) The girl, or sometimes even the guy, was so shell-shocked by the idea of going from zero to "naughty" in one day that they didn't end up having sex until a few days into the honeymoon. I can't imagine letting that happen, but whatever works for them, I guess. They do have their whole lives to get busy, so maybe a night or two doesn't really matter.

I don't think anyone should feel like they have to have sex when they don't want to- if they're too tired, too stressed, whatever. Marriage isn't all about sex, after all, it's about a lifetime together- and starting that off by having sex when you're tired and don't really feel like it just because you feel that it's your wedding night and you have to seems like starting it off on the wrong foot to me.

I don't think it matters but I DO think you and your new husband should be on the same page *before* the wedding. I was a bridesmaid at a wedding where the groom got embarassingly wasted and I made an exception to pull the bride aside and remind her that you don't have to have sex that first night. It would have broke my heart if her first night as husband and wife was when he was drunk. I guess the lesson to me was to make sure if it's important to you, to make sure your spouse knows that.

1st husband- no sex til a couple night after the wedding (should have been a big clue!)

2nd husband- we made love but didn't feel like it was a "have to do it" kinda thing...more of a "wow you look so freaking hot in that outfit" kinda thing...

I'm actually waiting till marriage to have sex, so I'd say HELL YES. ;D

Ideally we'd have sex, I certainly hope so, but I don't see it as mandatory! Perhaps we'll be super tired though and it won't even be worth it!

I'm with Lunulae... I'm waiting and certainly would like to. However, if we are exhausted, I don't mind sleeping first. Ironically, my boyfriend (who was sexually active before) is now more nervous about the wedding night than I am.

It's not a mandatory thing, I think, it's a 'want'. I was sick and had strep throat so it was not a 'want' for me. My husband also had to go to work in another city and left at 2am and was gone for a few days. We didn't consumate our marriage for about a week. It was awful.

TidalWave -- it actually worked out just fine. My husband was not a virgin, so I'm sure that it helped that one of us knew what we were doing. Also, we made sure to get a couple of books that helped us to start a dialogue about sex to read during our engagement. We kind of talked about what our expectations and concerns were, and I think that helped a ton. I know it sounds weird that we talked so much about sex and didn't actually just do it, but I wouldn't change a thing about how we went about it!

It's definitely romantic and nice to consummate on your wedding night, but I don't think it's a rule (at most a personal rule). I am from a culture where everybody must get up at four in the morning to complete certain rituals that are due at dawn after the wedding night, so when it happens for me I just hope we'll have enough time to do it during the wedding night and if not, we'll have the rest of our lives to get it on

I do not see it as a "must" however my choice would be the wedding night. If you just spent a good portion of the day becoming husband & wife then celebrated afterwards; personally I would want to have sex on my wedding night.

My husband I didn't have sex the night of our wedding, but we did the next morning.
It didn't make too much of difference. We're doing good.

I was so tired after my graduation party that I got powerfully nauseated. If I'm that tired after my wedding there's no way sex would be at all special, but it would be memorable.

I'd sure like to think we will, but it wouldn't be grounds for divorce if we didn't.

I never even thought about it. We had sex because it's what you're supposed to do but it wasn't any more special than any other time and it felt weird to be expected to have sex.

I'm waiting til marriage and I don't see myself waiting much longer after we're married than is absolutely necessary! I will have sex on my wedding night and I've never considered NOT having sex that night.

I guess the idea of "consummating" the marriage is sweet. However, I would never judge someone for being too tired to have sex the night of their wedding. People should do whatever they want. If I'm tired, I'll wait until the next morning, and I won't feel bad. We're about to spend the rest of our lives together....We can just revel in that while we rest up.

One third of couples don't.

This is a great question! The romance website I write for actually just released a poll that found one in five couples don't consummate their marriage on their wedding. The most common reason why they didn't? People were exhausted from their big day, took full advantage of the open bar or still had wedding guests hovering around. A few poll respondents actually provided specific reasons like "He was playing blackjack all night.", "Too much sake and sushi consumed." and "It was consummated MANY TIMES before." How funny is that? If you're curious, you can check out the results of the poll at AreYouRomantic.com.

Not mandatory, but we definitely did

"Mandatory." that's so special!

Not mandatory, but I think we definitely will

If it is your first time having sex ever or with each other, then yes I would say definitely go for it. But otherwise, the day is soo long and stressful and drinks are flowing..so there's nothing wrong with just crashing either!!

My husband was o drunk, he fell asleep!

first time! ofcourse its a must must must must!

i missed that poetic feelings from a long long time...

i missed that poetic feelings from a long long time...

lusty dreams...

another dream i got with you ...
got you with me into my world...
another poetic night we had...
a poetic sweet love,while a candles enjoyed our love...
another sweet love we had together...
feelings burned and melted into each other..
bodies got its desires with no shame...
bodies started to give it`s best to the other...
bodies searched for a love and satiation...
bodies tried to get enough from the other...
but it failed...
because it will never reach the enough from the other...

another night...
in the mid of night...
till the end of that night...
spent the whole night with love...
spent and didn`t felt how that night passed...
night passed as a seconds...
sweet seconds passed with an endless love...
that love we gave to the each other...
we made it together...
even still more inside with an endless desires to give ,each others...

another night...
there into our bed,waiting you...
a bed full of roses and so lusty...
loving warm bed waiting us...
would you come again...
would you wake me up again...
to start another night...
to make as always a great love...

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my husband doesnt want to sleep with me he says where do you want to sleep on your wedding night is that because he doesnt want to touch me i dont know whats going on i am lost!!!!!!!!!!!!! help me

before i marriage i have sex with a girl six hours i f*ck to that girl on bed all should practice sex before marriage its really fun
before my marriage i have sex with atleast three girls

If you've already slept with each other I don't know if it really matters that much (but I'm not in that boat). My fiance and I have been waiting. Since it's going to be our first time, we want it to be special, not just a chore that we do half-asleep because we're supposed to. While we certainly want to do it on our wedding night, we're willing to wait it out a few hours until morning when we'll be less exhausted if that's what it comes down to.

its not manadatory but look out if it doesn't happen. i've been married 22 years. no sex on wedding night - per dw 'not tonight i'm too tired' . should have been a clue of what to expect for next 22 years- months and and then years of going without.