Last week when George Clooney split from Sarah Larson, it seemed to be final confirmation that he's a bachelor through and through. Though his decades of dating have led some to speculate about his fear of commitment, new research is aiming to shed some light on men with a propensity for riding solo.
According to this Reuters story, one such man, Carl Weisman, was so tired of being deemed a player that he decided to get the facts on what makes men choose bachelorhood over married life. Surveying more than 1,500 heterosexual men, he concluded that it's not commitment they fear but the possibility that the marriage may turn out less than perfect. Here's more:
Weisman said his online survey found there are three groups of bachelors — about 8 percent who never want to marry, 62 percent [who] want to marry but of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 percent who are on the fence.
As we already know, worries about having a successful marriage are not limited to men, but for anyone, is the potential of ending up in a bad marriage reason enough to avoid marrying altogether? Does this confirm for you that male commitment phobes just need the right woman to rid them of their player habits, or do you think searching for perfection is just another excuse to avoid what they fear?
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i just think hes always looking for more...something (or someone) new
1he doesnt seem like the kind of man who can commit to one woman
um, that means 70% of men won't marry--no one is perfect.
2There's no such thing as perfect.
3The men that said they are looking for perfection are delusional. There is a huge difference between settling for someone just because you're eager to get married, and being so picky that you are eternally unhappy.
4There is no such thing as perfection.
5I think in the end most men will want to pass on their genes. If you are powerful and successful like Clooney you probably don't have to marry to accomplish that. Most of the others will be forced to though.
I don't see anything wrong with guys who don't want to marry and I don't see anything wrong with women who dont' want to marry. It doesn't go so well for tons of people.
6I'm not seeing anything profound in this survey... wouldn't not marrying out of fear of a less-than-perfect marriage count as being commitment phobic?
7Also possible: gay.
8Commitment phobe doesn't equal up with the fear of a failed marriage. I think a lot of people are willing to make that step... with the right person. My parents and so many of my friends' parents have had really rough marriages (divorce, separation, etc) that it makes me super afraid of what would happen if I failed my partner. I'd rather wait around and enjoy myself until I felt that I was with a person that could stay by my side through those really hard times.
9If it doesn't feel right for any reason than it's not. George has said that he's not going to get married and I'm sure she was pressuring him and that is obviously is not going to work.
10He's gay...simple.
11i think he does have a prob with commitment AND he hasn't found the right one!! eventually he'll find her!!
12It's an excuse. Men want to find a perfect woman, but they need to grow up and realize no such thing exists. It's all in the eye of the beholder, and all relationships take work and compromise. Get over yourselves, boys!
13Just because you don't want to get married doesn't mean you are *afraid* of commitment. Please... It just means you don't want to get married. It's not a priority for everyone.
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