Research suggests that men in relationships initiate sex over 60% of the time, and in only 30% of relationships do men and women initiate equally. These patterns also tend to remain years into the relationship.
What's it like at your house, ladies? Do you initiate sex? Are you comfortable getting the ball rolling? Or would rather your partner handle the asking?
Initiating sex: Love it or hate it?
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Beyond The Valley
L'Autre Chose
Am I really first to post on this? Well......I am actually pretty bad at initiating sex, although I do have my moments. I'm not entirely comfortable with it, for some unknown reason. My boyfriend is patient with that and we talk about it now and then, but I know he likes it a lot when I make the first move. I'm totally comfortable with him so I don't know what my problem is. Any ideas from anyone?
1i was wondering about the quiet comments myself, marci! here's a general article abt initiating, and some thoughts abt why women tend to initiate less: http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=51114
2Tho I didn't think the advice at the end seemed very appealing, but that could just be me. i'm looking around for some better resources; i usually like to include things like that, but i haven't found anything just right yet. stay tuned. i'll do another post when i've uncovered good, useful info.
I dont mind it sometimes as long as I dont feel that I am the only initiating it!
3If I'm in the mood, I initiate, but I think in general my sex drive is just slightly lower than my BF's, so he tends to initiate it a little more. He's pretty much always willing to have sex, so I don't really have to worry about rejection. If he rejected me a lot I'd probably stop feeling comfortable asking.
4We both initiate about the same...
5He used to ask me at beginning of the relationship and then I started jumping into him, but I don't know what happened... I'm too afraid to ask him for sex because there was a time when I wanted 3 or 4 times a day, and now he doesn't really ask he just looks at me with a puppy face like begging and thats when I know he wants sex... hehehehe... silly situation.
6So how about feeling guilty for asking
7Dearsugar... is there anything I can do?
8Dear, thanks for the link to the article. It was interesting. And a little depressing!
I guess I need to work on my initiating for us to be more satisfied as a couple. My boyfriend never ever complains, but I know he'd like a little more initiative from me.
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if i want it...i take it!! lol...
10I always feel uncomfortable with initiating for some reason. I've been married for 3 years so I shouldn't feel that way, but I can't help it. I prefer when he takes charge.
11I like it !
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