At a friend’s party you find yourself wandering around briefly separated from your boyfriend. You settle into the kitchen to fix yourself a new drink and run into a handsome guy. He immediately starts making small chat, and he turns out to be very nice and funny. You try not to lead him on, but you want to be nice and end up talking to him for a few minutes.
You’re laughing at a joke when you catch your boyfriend staring at you out of the corner of your eye. He’s watching exactly what’s happening, so how would you handle this?
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Well I'd say "Hey Boyfriend, you have to come meet Jerry, he does XYZ like you... or he likes the XYZ sports team... or he's an XYZ like you "
Some kind of connection to make BF feel a part of the convo, and to alert the flirt that you're taken.
1As if it there were nothing secretive going on, I would casually introduce my boyfriend to the guy, and try to continue the conversation. Or conversely, if it was already coming to a close, go off with my boyfriend and explain exactly what was (or, in this case, what wasn't) happening.
2and then I'd take a big chug of my tap water in a starbucks cup and ponder why I look so much like Rachael Ray.
3Wait, do you look like Rachael Ray?
4am i missing something? just politely excuse yourself, say the drink is for a friend or whatever, then go over and kiss your boyfriend. i don't know what the big deal is.
5I don't know what the big deal is either. If my boyfriend is going to get jealous everytime I talk to another man or laugh at another mans joke - he's in for a long ride...
6Tidal I agree...
7I would motion for my boyfriend to come over, introduce them, and then after the other guy leaves, say something like "he would be perfect for _________"
8i don't, but that chick sure does.
I also agree this is a "non issue"
9hahaha syako, that was damn funny
10Oh syako, you're so right, she does
11actually, i think my boy would be across the room feeling pretty damn smug that this guy wants what he already has
he is confident enough in our relationship that i wouldn't say or do anything to lead this guy on.
12um, get the flirt's number & dump my insecure boyfriend who doesn't let me talk to other men? I'd be one thing if I was touching the guy or if we were huddled in the corner of a room, but my boyfriend would never stare me down for just talking to another party guest.
13I don't think my boyfriend would actually do this, he'd come over, hijack the conversation, and walk away with a new best friend. But, my guy's pretty good about stuff like this, he knows what I'm like and knows it won't go any farther. But, since you asked, I'd wave him over and introduce the two and carry on talking.
14Uh, nothing. I'd smile at the boyfriend and finish talking to the hottie, trying not to look so flirty. Your man has to know you got other options so he doesn't take you for granted.
15"Hey hunnie! Come meet so and so!" So and so, this is my boyfriend"
16Hmmm, let's reverse this. You see your bf laughing and talking with a beautiful girl and you look at him, and he waves you over to join the conversation or sees you looking and continues the conversation anyway. My bet is none of ya'll would be too happy, even if you don't show it then.
I don't see what's so hard about this. You're out with your SO, you're attention should be on him period, just tell the guy you have to get back to your bf and that's it! These playing games to keep the bf on their toes end up causing more strife than they're worth.
17iRose: "You're out with your SO, you're attention should be on him period,"
Really?! Because when I go out, I like to meet new people and talk to my friends and not be on top of my boyfriend. I do that when we're at home chilling.
And if I saw my bf talking to a girl at a friend's house, then he looked at me and smiled, then talked to her - that's fine by me! As long as he acknolwedges that I'm there and doesn't spend an unreasonable amount of time, so what!
Honestly, I probably wouldn't even notice because I'd be too busy actually enjoying myself and talking with my friends, not stalking my boyfriend.
18TidalWave - My husband and I are the same way. When we are at a party, or if we throw a party, we very rarely spend our time attached at the hip. We tend to spend more time socializing.
I'm not a jealous person, nor is he so this whole topic seems very foreign to me. If he sees me talking to another guy, he wouldn't automatically assume I was flirting. Same goes for me. I don't think I could be in a relationship where this would be a problem.
19Uh wow...I'd have to agree with Tidal on this irose! My SO gets my undivided attention so much of the time. Unless I dragged him somewhere promising I'd spend a lot of time with him (ummm family party, lol) I don't see what the big deal is. My bf and I are joined at the hip most of the time, going to the movies and dinner, so when we go out with other people we kind of do our own thing. He would not care if I were talking to some guy, and I try to give him space when he's talking to other guys/girls too.
20i'd prob wink at my bf across the room. if he came over, i'd introduce him. if he didn't, then i'd chat a few more minutes with the guy and then go say hi to the bf. besides- just cause a guy is being nice and funny, doesn't mean he's really hitting on you anyways!
21I agree w/ megln. Keep it smooth, but dont just run off or get nervous.
22well considering i probably wouldn't realize the guy was hitting on me until he called and asked for a date, i'm not going to worry about this.
23I'm not really one to get caught up in conversations with strangers for too long if I'm with my husband. However, in that scenario, it's as simple as beckoning my husband over and introducing him to the new person as 'my husband' although our wedding rings already make that kind of, well, obvious.
24yeah, I agree, introduce them...
25introduce them i guess.
26but what if your BF is a psycho jealous looney?? then what?
Omg, that would be soooooo embarresing if he were to start a fight
27Umm you're not doing anything wrong, just a little innocent flirting. It is normal and healthy to flirt a little, even if you are in a relationshiip. I love meeting new people, he may not even really be interested in you THAT way. I would smile at my bf and continue talking. If he came over, I would introduce them.
28i dont see what the deal is.
29my boyfriend is pretty insecure so i would have to be careful in this situation. i would probably motion for BF to come over, then loop my arm through his to let him know i want people to know we are together.. then end the chat with Handsome as smoothly as possible, possibly after introducing him to my "darling boyfriend" ...
30I'd just say hey so and so this is my boyfriend so and so. You two have to meet I think you'd really like each other.
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