When you're down and out or dealing with a difficult situation, it seems that most people are at no loss for words of wisdom even if that's the last thing that you want to hear. The same goes for advice too. Whether you’re complaining about an annoying colleague or an argument with your boyfriend, sometimes you’re just looking for an eager ear and not a mouthful of encouraging solutions. I know that when I want to just vent, advice of any kind is definitely unwelcome! Does unsolicited advice bug you too?









Hanky Panky
UGG
Halston
Really depends on the situation and the person giving the advice. But 75% of the time it drives me crazy.
1the girl in the picture looks mean! if she was the one giving me advice, i wouldn't like it!
2Even though I put "It depends on who its coming from"...my stance is it actually depends on when its coming. If I'm stuck on something and am confused about a situation, it is always nice to have a little guidance and advice on the situation. However, when I'm angry about something and I'm just trying to vent, I hate to hear people tell me what I need and don't need to do, because I'm only trying to calm myself down at that point.
3Usually if I want help I'll ask for it, so I put yes. I'm pretty stubborn, so generally the ideas given to me when I didn't ask for them are the ones that I'm least likely to use, even if they're the most sound. I also kind of take it as an insult to my intelligence - sometimes, even if the solution is obvious and I've figured it out already, I just need to vent.
4I don't mind - although it can be annoying if I'm just sounding off and not actually seeking advice! But sometimes it can be helpful.
5If it's coming from a friend and they know/understand me, I usually appreciate any advice that he/she can offer. It irritates me when strangers or people who don't know me well try to tell me how to do things, though.
6Not anymore. Nowadays, I just wait for them to stop talking. I don't really listen.
When people offer unsolicited advice, I find that it's more about THEM than it is about me. I didn't ask for their darn input.
7I hear you, GlowingMoon. My boss does this all the time, and without even listening to the problem, so he gives the most worthless advice. Then he acts like he's a genius for offering it.
Yeah, so now I definitely can't stand unsolicited advice. It's so annoying.
8Sometimes irritating sometimes amusing depending on who it is and the situation. Usually the advice is about my severely autistic daughter and how to “make” her do things or “the cure” that I am apparently too ignorant to know about. I especially like it when they tell me about a treatment that is a "sure thing" and we already did it like 3 to 6 years ago and there was not change in her condition.
most recently someone told me what she needed was a certain school ("best school"). "my daughter went theough their home programm for 3 weeks and it was the greatest thing we ever did. very expensive, you probably couldn't afford it". actually my daughter was a student there for 3 YEARS. that picture on the admins desk, that would be jenna. they love her, just couldn't help her". next.
9it also matters how it's given, some people have no tact! if you're barking your thoughts at me F/U but if you are actually sincere and are giving helpful advise then great I welcome you
10Actually, it bothers me more when people vent their issues to me; I do not mind it from friends and family (to a point) however if I was working and my co-worker started venting their issues at me, that would bug me. If you do not want advice, don't vent your issues to me because you can vent all you want however that is going to produce change or results. If your venting to me expect some advice since it usually sounds like you need some.
I know I sound like a b**** however I'm not; I rarely vent to people since they can't fix my issues, only I can. So if I do vent then that means I do need advice because that is the only reason I would vent to someone. I write in a journal if I want to vent yet do not want advice. Also a therapist is a great person to talk to and get resonable advice w/o the guilt factor for laying my issues on someone elses shoulder.
11By the way, I voted "It depends on who it is coming from.."
12I always get unsolicited advice from my parents, and it drives me insane. Unless I specifically ask for advice, I don't want to hear it, and if anyone starts giving me some, they'll get tuned out.
13I have a problem with it! It makes not caring what others think harder when they are preaching to you. Everyone is different, and everyone sees their lives differently.
14I tend to get unsolicited weight loss advice from naturally thin people who have always been thin. I find that annoying.
15Otherwise it just depends on the source and if I'm feeling receptive. Generally I just need time to get things off of my chest and an actual solution isn't warranted.
AND it depends on WHAT advice it is!
16For5 example I had a co-worker who gave me tips and hints on "how" to do my own job!!
I just wanted to slap and shut her forever!lool
Or those ppl who give u advice on "weight" while u didn't even ask or seem to need any!
Duh
Well put, Ladychaos.
Also, if you vent to a man, he will almost always try to fix it, whatever it is, while most women understand a rant/vent and will empathize with the ranter/venter and know there may be no solution right yet and she's only a trusted, valued listener at that point. We women usually will only ask for advise if and when we want it.
Sometimes I need someone to hear me out without interupting- another thing men are famous for -so, I'll mostly let loose on a girlfriend, or on here, lol.
I put it all depends, too.
I had a "friend" once who was always offering unwanted, unneeded and unnecessary advice, and she'd actually call me "stupid" to my face (!!!) if I did something she didn't approve of. I took that for all of a couple months, and told her ass off and threw her out of my house!
17Crazy b*tch!
Wow, lickety split, makes it 100 times worse when the "advice" is about your child.
18I'm so sorry that happened to you. Never ceases to amaze me how certain people manage to function without a single fricking clue.
I don't care for it. If the person knows me well advice is appreciated but when it's a stranger or a person who doesn't know me or the situation and tries to "advise" me well it's NOT appreciated.
It actually peeves me off.
19I love seeing other people's points of view: I can get so involved in my own perspective that sometimes i don't see things every way i could. it is helpful for someone from the outside to give some advice, even if the advice is not something i'd do, because it lets me see the person's 'style' of handling problems, and it jogs my brain and helps me find my own solution
20I'm with the majority on this, it all depends on who it's coming from, but I also just realized that I am the queen of unsolicited advice.
I have to stop that. Damn.
21Yeah, I'm with ladychaos on this one.
22if I'm not asking for it I don't want people giving it, I am not going to listen
23Agreed that it depends on who its coming from. A girl I know irritates me just by breathing and she's always piping in on conversations that don't include her and giving her opinion. But if it's someone I know well and love then I'm definately more receptive.
The WORST is someone who gives unsolicited advice and then gets offended when you don't take it...or feels the need to add an "I told you so..." I really hate that!
24i pretty much brush off unsolicited advice without a second thought... most people think they are helping, so no matter how uncalled for or irrelevant the advice is, i just kind of thank the person and ignore the comment
25Of course it does.
I mean, if I can bite my own lips in order to be polite, then why can't other people do the same?
Plus, as I always say:
if it is requested, it's an advice,
if it is not requested, it's just breaking b*lls.
Sorry for the expression, but I think that makes it awful clear about my feelings on this subject, because personally, I always feel as if everybody and their cousins seem to think that they're entitled to give me any kind of advice, even when they're not my friends or I haven't even asked for their opinion.
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