Breaking up is like being forced to climb onto an emotional rollercoaster that goes way too fast and lasts far too long. In the midst of all those competing emotions, it’s easy to find yourself obsessing over it. I have a few reminders about those things that might slip your mind in the wake of a difficult breakup. To see them, read more.
- There’s nothing wrong with you, and the fact that you’re no longer in a relationship is not an indicator of your self-worth!
- You really do deserve better — like being in a lasting relationship. No matter what mistakes you may have made, you always deserve to be happy.
- Things weren’t as great as you’re remembering them to be. It’s easy to idealize the things we no longer have, but that doesn’t mean it’s a true reflection of the past.
- You’re right — there is no one like that person, and you’ll never have that relationship again, but you can and will have better!
- It's trite but so true that with every ended relationship you suffer a loss, but also a gain. Not only was the relationship a learning experience, but recovering from a breakup is in itself an amazing (yet painful) time of personal growth.
- It may not seem like it, but others really do understand how you feel, although that doesn’t mean you have to pay attention to their words of wisdom.
- You’re completely justified in your feelings — nothing about breaking up is easy — but you do have to move forward eventually, even if it’s only little by little.
It seems impossible, but you will be happy again. If you can't do anything else, hold on to that one bit of hope and you'll make it through.
Ruco Line
Velvet
Ash
Sooo true.
1I'll keep this in mind.
2Thank you, this has been truly helpful and comforting.
The second one is soooo true. I've noticed both my friends and I have done this before. We forget and almost distort how things were. Sometimes on really sad/lonely days, one can remember things being a hell of a lot more positive than they were! Or even just remember those little details that made him so annoying/intolerable/not good for you. I'm always right there to remind my friends! They did the same during my breakups and although it was annoying to hear a verbal record of all the sh*itty things the ex did, It works quite well.
3oooops I meant to replace my asterisk with one of the letters!!!
4thank you for this.
5this is really helpful. When I'm down, I always think about the "good times" with my ex, but in all actuality, I was most likely uspet with him during those "good times"
6Thanks for this, I just had a break-up yesterday.
7"Things weren’t as great as you’re remembering them to be. It’s easy to idealize the things we no longer have, but that doesn’t mean it’s a true reflection of the past."
thats me right there, its funny how all of a sudden all u can think of are the "good times"
8Thanks. Going thru it now. Let's not forget all the hot boys out there!
9this is so helpful, was it just me or do these tips bring tears to the eyes?
10And never forget there are PLENTY of fish in the sea!!!
11i wish i read this about a month ago. Somehow i forgot all of this but its still good to read it now.
12Great advice...
13"There IS no one like that person, and you’ll never have that relationship again, but you can and will have better!"
Love that one.
14Great advice, I just went through a breakup in December after being together 6 years. This was very comforting during a still very hard situation. I posted it on myspace also for all my friends going through similar situations.
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